mat, I am from Hawaii as well and I can tell you from experience that filipinas are some of the hottest little women out there.
I would start asking her to dress sexy and make sure you point out when guys like me are checking her out. Let her know that men find her attractive and make sure to compliment her and tell her how proud of her you are when she gets are attention.
Then I would find a guy you know wants to be there to be a part of the fantasy and doesn't want to take your wife from you.
Thats a good start and if you want to see you wifes lips wrapped around a nice cock let me know...