Wannabe here, is his a mistake?

hello,

please do not take this the wrong way BUT EVERYTHING you are doing is wrong.

you approached it wrong. and she flat out refused.
you are focussed ENTIRELY on your selfish needs. not hers. not in the slightest.
now you want to find a Bull??

gee! buddy. take the focus off you. pan it on her and give this a go.....

[u]CONVINCING YOUR WIFE
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now, if your wife is leading the charge and dropping hints about sharing herself, then this is not for you. this is when you are the cuckold wannabe.

first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. let her do this on her own terms. not yours. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you. trust is key.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was how i convinced my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing.

she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her.
i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friend. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me helped a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life.

so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won. never did i suggest that we have sex with the american guy as she was reluctant at first.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.

as i noted, patience, persistence, and non-pushy.

secondly, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. but do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or there's something behind the compliments.

send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family.

this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.

i did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.

[u]rushing into cuckolding
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sharing your wife is already a big step. getting her to cuckold you is even greater. so consider taking this one step at a time.

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.

that will be the ultimate. get her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her. colleague, neighbour, friend etc. then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole. your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

let me know your thoughts.