Looking for domme, dom, or couple to take some control

I'm submissive, she is unaware for the most part although I've shared fantasies with her.

I'm looking for someone who would be interested in controlling me to some degree without her knowing. I'm very much interested in the mental aspects and conditioned to think about her or myself in different ways, or even think about someone else. Things that intrigue me are having someone control how I interact with her (or don't) being told how and when I am able to get off and what I am supposed to think about. The idea of "homewrecking" is intriguing in the sense that you mentally mess with my relationship. (Do you make me want her more? Do you make me not please her and get addicted to something else? Do you deny her so she will look elsewhere?" As you can see I'm very flexible in areas I'm interested in, but I have a longing to feel controlled.
Would love to sub to a woman or a couple, but a dom or bull adds a bee dynamic as well.