Serious Bull-Wife Couples -- why the flack?

Hi All;

My GF Amy and I have posted here for a couple of weeks, I’m her ‘bull’ (actually she and I have been BF and GF for a few years); and she hash a cuckold hubby. We practice cuckolding as a form of polyamory where her hubby is monogamous, and she and I both have a certain status over him in the relationship. Amy and I are coworkers, and our relationship started as kind of a workplace flirting/affair that grew into a ‘bull’ and wife relationship as it deepened, and as we came to enjoy those roles, and her hubby settled into a cuckold role. Our general story can be seen here.

However, the thing about our situation that seems to have drawn the most flack here has been the fact that Amy and I are trying for a baby. Her cuck, Bill knows that we are and agrees to fully support her and the baby as a step-dad, and I will provide a trust for the kids we have, who will know me as their man and have my name.

Given how common it is for there to be step-families in which one parent is married to another permister other than the other biological parent, not to mention single-parent families, adoptive families, IVF families from donors etc. – why all the flack about an intentional step-family through a cuckolding polyamory? People (even here) have responded to us as if we were creating these terrible lives for our kids etc., by having thiem through cuckolding. This just seems hypocritical – that so many people here think it’s ‘hot’ to use the idea of cuckolding as a turn on, but would think there was something wrong to being committed enough to it to have a non-traditional family that way.

I guess I just don’t get it. If it’s okay for a man and a woman to have kids, divorce, and remarry to other people and still be parents while married to someone other than the ********** – and nobody accuses them of doing anything wrong – why is it such a problem for a man and woman to have kids (never married), skip the divorce – and simply raise their youngren when the mom is married to someone other than the dad from the beginning?

To me, having kids together through cuckolding could be an adoptive type of situation (cuck simply is the dad to the kids and they never know), a ‘sperm-donor’ type of situation, -- or a step-parent type of situation; where the cuck is the step, the “bull” is real. In a polyamorous situation like ours – the young embodies Amy’s and my love our status, and our relationship, her hubby supports that (and his relationship with the kids will embody his loyalty to her) – so having a ‘real-dad’ and a ‘step-dad’ makes perfect sense. Have others who have actually had kids through cuckolding gotten flack for this – and has it influenced the roles you actually chose with your offspring?

Interested in others’ thoughts/experiences.

Jsn & Amy

Well I hope someone that is notorious around here for derailing theads with their nonsense about cuckold pregnancies and this actually stays on topic with a serious discussion.

I too have wondered why marrying someone with a young from a previous relationship, adoptions, etc are considered ok but when a cuck couple has seriously discussed this and all parties agree that this is what they want to do - they are shunned and insulted. Hell even as a society we're accepting teen pregnancies more than what consenting adults decide to do.

Everyone says "OMG what about that poor kid!". What about that poor kid? What makes that kid poor to begin with. This is a planned and anticipated act to result in bringing that "poor" kid into the world! I've seen plenty of married couples that have kids and someone in that couple regrets it and resents the kid. I've seen women use abortion as a form of birth control.

I say if all parties talk about it in depth, analyze everything, and ultimately decide this is the path they want to take - no one, especially from within OUR OWN COMMUNITY, should be shunning them. We're already negatively judged from the vanilla, "normal" people out there...we shouldn't be doing it amongst ourselves.