First erection

Yes, I have a very similar problem. I still occasionally get sort of hard, but nothing like it used to. I've noticed it has shrunk considerably as well. My wife would like it if I could get hard enough to enter her like we used to, but usually that isn't the case. Recently, I bought a strap-on dildo that was designed for a man to wear with an 8 inch cock on it. I was able to make love to my wife, but without actually penetrating her with my own cock. But, for a brief time, it got hard enough to enter her, which was wonderful and lasted for seconds. when it once again got soft, I simply slipped the dildo back in and continued making love to her. When she had her orgasm, she rolled over and told me to go take care of myself if I wanted to, much like your wife does for you. I too can orgasm, but it is soft when it happens as well.