Beg wife to turn me gay

My wife and I have been into cuckolding for 4 or 5 years now.

She has a steady boyfriend that she sees for fun and I have only had the head of my cock inside her for the last year or so. She is aware of how much I love sucking cock and she buys me panties and calls me a sissy but she is *** to give up on sex with me. She loves the feel my hard sissy cock rubbing on her wet pussy and she cums over and over without me even penetrating her.

I have been trying for a while now to convince her to stop having sex with me. She is wonderful in encouraging me to have sex with men, I just wish she would tell me that I am only allowed to have sex with men from now on. I know some of you will say that I am already gay but I am not. I love pussy and will always want it. I just craved to be controlled by someone who will not ever let me have sex with a woman again.

Any thoughts or others like me?

it will occur to her in time.

yeah you are already gay even if you don't want to admit it you are

You are very welcome to your opinion Kevin. I am sure there are alot of peopole who would agree with you.

I think it is fair to say that I am like you, although a bit further along. My wife and I celebrated the 10th anniversary of my last penetration of her in December and this summer will be nine years since she last put her lips on my little sissy cock. Also, she has so reconditioned me that it would seem fairly absurd for me to even try to convince anyone I was still straight.

But moving on to your situation, I have some thoughts: Your wife is already having sex with others but rebuffs your requests to permanently deny you. Based on my experience and observations of other relationships, I suspect that this is because of love and fear. She loves you and is clearly at least willing, perhaps even happy, to engage in cuckolding, humil-iation, and emasculation activities. But she is afraid that discontinuing sexual activity with you might damage what is currently a loving and happy relationship. She may feel that the contact with your penis is a reassurance that it is all a bit of a game, that despite her humiliating you, cucking you, and encouraging you to fuck men, your relationship with each other is still solid and primary in your lives. She may feel that you will withdraw your intimacy from her if she withdraws the physical aspect.

My advice is this:

1. Make it non-threatening. Nothing bad happening is the best cure for fear. It took a few relapses by my wife before the ban on penetration became permanent. Once she got comfortable it was easier for her. Even after, she was comfortable because she knew: (A) that as the mistress she could overrule it at anytime, (B) that we still did everything else except penetration. After nearly two-years she was willing to extend the ban to blow-jobs because she knew that the initial ban had not brought any negative turn in our relationship. Today she won't even touch my penis, no longer lets my tongue in her mouth and rarely lets me touch her sexually at all. But it went step by step.

2. Make it a game. Try getting a chastity and have her put you in it and see how long you can go. Keep extending the period. Do not bug her for sexual attention in this time - leave it to her. She may find that not having your dick at the ready is not such a big thing to her after all.

3. Get her another lover. I know you say she cucks you. You need to see if you can't help her into a relationship with another man so sexually exciting or satisfying that sex with you become more of an obligation than something she feels like doing.

4. Give her the power. Remember: at root, she is afraid of where this will go. Give her the power to override the rules anytime she wants. Just having the power will make her feel more comfortable. She may even use them sometimes, just to reassure herself. But if you never ask her to (which means no begging for sex with her) and she knows it excites you that she won't, you'll find that she will refrain out of respect and love for you. Once it has been going on for a while, she will think it would be a shame to break such a record. (My wife confessed to me once that she never thought it would go more than a few months, but after two years it seemed to her like it would be such a huge failure if we stopped now. She now assures me it is for life.)

5. Be OK with her backing out. If she says "no blow-jobs for a year," but then relents and gives you one after a few weeks, don't think its all over. Tell her you are grateful for it but that you do not expect another one for the rest of the year. After a while, she will feel that you are really happier if she refrains.

6. Demonstrate to her how you want it in a non-pushy way. Make it what you ask for for Christmas, birthday, etc. When she has gone for a period of time without doing something for you, tell her how hot it gets you that she hasn't and how grateful you are for making your dreams come true, and how much you love her, etc.

Anyway, it worked for me. (In spades.)

Good luck.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Any updates?

My wife has forbidden me sex for approx 2 years now yet willingly gives it to her various lovers. She told me that the only penetration sex I will ever have in the future will be when men are fucking me ! She often wanks me until i am close to orgasm then makes me admit that im gay and that i only want to have sex with men in the future. She makes me beg for her to forbid me sex with her for the rest of our lives.
She makes me beg for it to be that way while keeping me close to orgasm so that i am in a vulnerable state !

Yup. that was how we started. You are in for a long and enriching journey of denial, desire, and self-discovery. Congratulations and good luck. Truly, I envy you. I wish I could go back and live it all over again.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Any other hubbies asking the wife to stop fucking them and want the wife to encourage their homosexuality ???

I haven't asked her but I wish for it...for her to want me to be and to make me be gay and deny me....that's a stone fantasy of mine that she sparked...she loves the gay fantasies and often can't cum unless im telling her stories of me being gay for her.

mwfslutforbm
Wife stopped having me penetrate her long ago. She had controlled my orgasms then stopped letting me have any at all, finally telling me no more sex. If i wanted sex, go find a Master, learn to suck cock, and be happy with it. So 2 years ago i did. He wanted me to think only of him... and he had me edge close to orgasm every day.... then several times a day. It wasn't long before my balls were aching so bad that it hurt to sit down, and all i could think of was sexual thoughts of being nude in front of him sucking his cock. He permits me a few orgasms a year, and only in his presence. He put a test ad in craigslist with pictures showing me as a sub available for many services. He showed me the ad and asked me what i thought of him using me as a slut. Wow, the whole idea made me so hot. He has moved farther away, and we barely get to see each other. But, the ad he placed made me feel "free" about my new sexuality, and i crave even more of it now.

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If you want to be gay be gay.
But Please find a gay site to visit.
Leave the gay out of cuckolding.
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How deeply intolerant and inappropriate.

This site is for cuckolding in all its various manifestations and combinations with other fetishes and fantasies. Femdom, interracial, humil-iation, feminization, office play, group, forc-ed bi, adult baby, castration, toi-let, death, and many other intensifiers of varying degree and type all appear on the site. So why exclude forc-ed gay?

If this particular flavor combo is not your thing, go to another thread that is and enjoy. Don't rain on our parade.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

She's right, most real cuckolding revolves around a usually gay husband married to a woman that is basically a whore for all cock, and both agree to their parts and act as each other's "Beards" if you want to call it that. She has a husband so everyone doesn't obviously know she is a whore and he has a wife so everyone doesn't obviously know he is queer, so leaving the gay out is really not a possibility if we talk about real cuckold relationships. As for fantasy, well I guess that can go in any direction. So don't rain on everyone's parade.

if she still wants penetration sex with you i think it would be great if you got a strap on to use on her and only used that it can be your new shecock... i think they even have one that has a anal stimulator built into it ....

that way she still gets the idea shes getting penitration from you pleasing her were your still denied using your natural one

Anyone else feel that homosexuality is more appropriate for a cuckold hubby while the wife and her lover maintain the heterosexual relationship within the marriage?

I have spoken to several cucks that wish to be turned gay by their wives.

No mwf, you've spoken to several married gay guys that wish their wife knew their little secret, or at least was into it. Look, being denied pussy and still wanting it is one thing - after all, many virgins out there spank it daily dreaming of their first time. ..But the heterosexual ones aren't thinking of cock, they're thinking of pussy. Just "wishing" someone would "turn you gay" (you're either gay or you're not, people) is hiding from yourself.

Now, please don't think of that as an intolerant statement ('shaved' was already very intolerant above) as, let's face it, bi-sexuality is a big part of life for many cucks. But do yourself a favor and admit it to yourself, you're already 'gay' (well, bisexual). When I realized I wanted a woman to 'power' me to suck cock I knew what it meant - that I was bisexual, i.e. gay in the eyes of my peers, if they ever found out. And so are you, MrsBlackBlowupDoll, and mel_lissa.

When you desire sex with ONLY men you're definitely gay, no matter what label you wish to place on it. So what? Nothing wrong with being yourself.

I think I'm with you on this.

mwfslutforbm
Yes...

footpiggy,

I don't take offense in the least to being labeled bi, or even gay, if that makes you happy. I'm glad to embrace ether or both. But what do they mean?

It seems to me that you have a very rigid demarkation of what makes someone gay, or straight, or bi and are very invested in the idea that it is innate and not something that can evolve in a person.

But you must see that these are ideological positions, not matters of either settled science or social consensus.

Gay and straight are social constructs and notorious semantical thickets. Are they defined by action or thought? If by action, how many actions? If you "experimented" one time in college and liked it does that mean you are in denial now? If you are a lesbian but every couple of years you meet a guy and have a one-night stand do you need to turn in your gay card? What about thoughts? If you can't imagine ever being in a romantic relationship with a member of your sex and literally don't find them arousing as a general package, but you can get turned on by potent symbols like breasts or a cock (depending on your own sex) does that make you secretly bi?

I could go on and on, but why bother. This ground is the grist for so much endless babble and debate in our modern world that it requires no rehearsal. Ask a 1000 people, get a 1000 different answers. Meanwhile, science - both biological and psychological - has been pretty much demolishing the whole conceptual structure as it more closely studies sexuality and arousal.

Then there is the question of whether "orientation" (a term already a concession of ambiguity) is a matter of nature or nurture or some combination. This is an ideological hot button because of the desire of bigots to define homosexuality as deviant and "unnatural." There is a political imperative to insisting that orientation is innate and immutable both to gain legal protections predicated on such factors and to shut down snake-oil hatemongers pushing faux-scientific "gay cures." As a result we are left with a dialogue in which anyone who switches their sexual habits or lifestyle at any point must be defined as having been "in denial" previously.

There can be no doubt this is sometimes the case. But because denial is defined in retrospect and often as having been the result of trauma, it is an ideologically convenient catch-all explanation for behavior people find threatening. The consequence is that if someone starts to engage in and get pleasure from a specific behavior (say cocksucking) that they never before had an interest in, arousal from, or enjoyed if tried, the ideologically approved solution is that they always liked it and just didn't know it because they didn't know themselves well enough to know what they wanted or enjoyed on such a basic level.

Again, science is another thing. Homosexuality and bisexuality have been observed in other species. Possible genetic and epigenetic predispositions identified. But the way identity is formed - including sexuality - increasingly looks as vastly complicated as the rest of nature; the result of a mind-numbing number of combinations and reactions biological, environmental, and psychological. Improved psych research is showing us that our inherited ideas of what is normative in human sexuality are way off. Perhaps more significantly, it is showing that the mental component of sexual pleasure is quite flexible and the meanings that attach to a physical act to lead us to take pleasure in it are perhaps infinitely varied.

So what exactly is it that I am supposed to "admit to myself" footpiggy? That some people label me gay and some bi? That some think I was born this way and others that I was twisted into it? That some think I have significant control over my sexual activities and others feel it is compulsion?

Yes. I admit that there are people who think all those things, and all these things are purely subjective ideology. What's that to me?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

MrsBlackBlowupDoll
I am a cuck wanabee, married for 32 years to a woman that does not fancy me. She loves me very much but sex is very rare. When i got married i was a straight, never had a gay feeling in my bones. But some time into our marriage my wife told me that she hated me looking at other women including pornography but it was ok to look at gay porn.

So here we are some 15 years later and i am very much more on the gay side now than bi. Although i love my wife and love looking at woman, the act of penetration in a woman does nothing for me. So when talking about nature or nurture for gay men, either is possible.

So for me, i would love my wife to have sex with other guys and i would be happy to assist and even for clean up duties but i would prefer to have sex with men now. But i am still very happily married and have no intention or want to leave my wife.

To simplify - can we admit that we are each individual? There is no ONE right way or answer. I have my kinks, you have yours. And my kinks are multiple and don't have to make sense and sometimes are at odds one from the other.

As long as we both are happy, what right to we each have to think in a certain way?

Works for me. I love it.

Mrs. BBD, I wish so much that my wife would do that for me. For years now she tells me that I can only take care of myself. She won't have sex with me or anyone else. I wish she would though and make me do gay or bi things. She doesn't even want to see me play with myself. When she goes off somewhere or to work she tells me to make sure that I take care of myself so she won't have see it.

Married Dom

Well said.

Definitely gay now and I love it. No more heterosexual sex for this homo. My spouse and I really enjoy me being pussy-free.


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so, can we consider cuckolding any relationships, where a boyfriend is inside a friendzone?
I mean, if i am into a woman, who never slept with me, but with others, am i a cuckold?

mwfslutforbm
My wife has been encouraging me to find a gay fuck buddy. she's afraid that while she's out dating guys (with my encouragement) that I might be tempted to find a girlfriend. She can't stand the idea of me with another woman, but thinks sex with another guy would just be sex, and not something emotionally complicated. I think it also helps that she finds guy/guy stuff a turn on, and would enjoy hearing about what I do with another guy.
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