just a question?

i wasn't really sure where to post this question

I've long been hugely turned on by the cuckold fantasy and I now I've found a girlfriend who is cuckolding me even though I haven't prompted her to do it. She's spending the night at her place with some other bloke who i've never met. She says he's relaxing on the couch and i think she expects me to buy her lies. I also suspect she relaxs with other blokes.

My question however is that I haven't actually found myself turned on by the whole thing. I feel slightly jealous and pissed off but mostly just numb and passive like I don't really care about what's she doing.

There hasn't been any intense feelings of excitement like I normally get when jacking off to cuckold porn.

I think it may be that for me I'm simply turned on by the fantasy of cuckolding, as opposed to actual reality of it.

What do you guys on here think?

Sounds more like cheating than cuckolding to me, don't let yourself get too hooked on her, just enjoy the situation for what it is if you want. Just keep it casual so you have an exit route.

yeah you're right i think it is just regular cheating at the moment. although she's not doing a very good job at concealing it.

i think she would be up for a proper cuckolding relationship, what with her being a bit of a slut, but i'm unsure if that's a route i want to go down.

like you say, i'll just keep it casual for the time being.

If I were you I would invent some long lost female friend who has maybe just broke up with her boyfriend and needs to spent a night or two on your couch, see where that one gets you.

I think that like many before you you are finding that the fantasy is more attractive than the reality. I fucked a few wives whose hubbies were really keen but when they realised that their wives were enjoying having me ream them out and lost in the moment they could not handle it as well as they had imagined. Also as others are pointing out you and she have not discussed and agreed this. She is "freelancing" and disrespecting you. A whole different ballgame from a mutually satisfactory cuckold relationship. My advice to you is that though it will hurt for a while move on NOW. If you don't it will hurt even more later. Good luck. Hope you find what you want eventually

Why not just talk to her about it. Tell her that you suspect and that it turns you on. If it doesnt work out as you both wish well then you both just move on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.