Advise on bringing out wife's submissive side

I'm looking for some advise on bringing out my wife's submissive side. She is definitely submissive, she like me to take charge when we have sex. I've been sending her emails ( she knows it's me) where I give her tasks to do when I'm at work and the kids are in school. Things like picking out new sex positions from the web, leaving comments about the ones she likes best, going to the store without panties, not wearing panties when I get home (and I check), masturbating, etc. I'd like to gradually work up to more and more explicit, submissive, tasks but I'm not sure what else to do. I'd love some ideas on how to subtly 'train' her to be more submissive. Ultimately I'd like her to has sex with another man, which she has been resistant to. Any real suggestions on things I can do?

It is said that if you can say something you can do it.

Have her pick out porno to watch while you SLOWLY fuck her doggie style.

When she asks you to speed up tell her you are fucking her as you would a lady slow and easy.

Tell her if she was a slut and whore you would fuck her fast and hard the way a slut and whore needs it.

If you want to be my slut and whore tell me so, tell me you will fuck anyone I order you to for fun or money.

As long as she is saying she is your slut and whore and wants to fuck anyone you order her to, fuck her like one.

Good luck and let us know what works.

I like the ideas but I'll have to work up to that. Any ideas of something more subtle?

Hi-
I am an Experienced Dominant Male and also have been in the cuckold scene for about 5 yrs now.I have enjoyed wives,flowers,sisters,step flowers etc.
I am single and own a nice home on 2 acres and work as a professional.
I would give your wife orders or tasks to be done daily and have her reply to me in writing when she completes them.
That is the best way to start her unless she is willing to meet with another man or her MASTER and take his orders to train her.
I would have her dress sexy for our first meeting and wear what i tell her so she is taking orders from me from the start. That is a must as she has to learn who is in control and in charge of her,not just her husband but a strange man that will become her Master and Bull!
How far do you wish for her to be taken?
I would have her meet me for a take or nice dinner along with you! She would wear a very tight top and short skirt,and heels,NO bra and NO panties ever and NO coat.
If I wish to touch her pussy and finger her she would submit to me even on our first meeting.
I will have her sit close to me and tell her to open her legs and teach her how she should sit with her shoulders even with her legs when with me.
I will play with her pussy and finger her and want her nice and wet and even cum loud.
I will also play with her nipples as well.
If she is hot enough even have her suck my cock!
I will put a collar around her neck and later walk her on a leash in my home.I would spank and paddle her ass red.I would also use nipple and clit clamps on her.I like to spank and paddle,use the strap,various small whips, rope bondage and I use leather wrist and ankle cuffs only!
I have a nice playroom she will learn to love.I also use nice toys,large dildoes and vibrators and have a fucking machine as well.
I am also very verbal and will call her my slut,and whore,bitch,pig,dumb cunt,cum bucket,fuck pig and more of course.
I am also into some water sports she will learn to submit to. I would have her suck my cock in the shower and then piss on her for a reward.She will always swallow my cum as well.
I will use all her openings for my pleasure and also anal! I will take her out plugged at both ends at times also so she can remember her use.
She will only concentrate on me only and serve me only and give me pleasure.
I would fuck her hand and long in all positions as well.
I want her pussy shaved at all times! That is a must from the first time we meet.
She will learn other things like keeping her eyes lowered when in my presence as well.
Tell me what she looks like and where you are located?
I will be her everything,Master/Bull and Lover! Do you want her Bred? I could do that as well.
NO other man but me would ever touch her! Sher openings and soul and mind will belong to me as that is the way a submissive slut wife should be kept and owned.
Reply back to me if interested or pm me.
you can e-mail me at: [email protected]
MASTER TONY

Although I like what you described MASTER TONY I don't think she's quite ready for something that drastic. I'd really like some suggestions on things I can have her do, by herself or with me, that are increasingly more submissive (if that makes any sense). Sexual things to gradually bring out her submissive side.

I'd love some ideas here or you can PM me.

If she already masturbates to order then I suggest tasks built around masturbating.
For example she waits for a text from you, this is the signal that she has to light a candle, strip naked and kneel in front of the candle. The candle represents her worshipping you or a fantasy of her as a loved sex slave, she is not permitted to move or masturbate until she receives a second text from you. Leaving you in charge of her release.
would love to be a net cuckold, wife dosent know

I would simply say, I would be very pleased with you, if you cooked _____________, my favorite meal. Or, I want you to text me today at work at 1pm to let me know you were thinking about me. If she does it at 1pm, tell her how pleased you are. If she doesn't, ask her why she was not able to do what you asked? If she texts you but it was before or after 1pm, ask her why she did not text you at 1pm.

These things would be a good start.

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Mr. T.

Cuckoninternet and ispin2, those are both great ideas and exactly what I was looking for. They are both innocent sounding ways to get her used to the idea of being more submissive and doing what I tell her. I will try them both and post back here how it goes. In the meantime I'd love any more suggestions.

Go out and choose a outfit for her to wear. Make it a real sexy one, maybe even a French maid outfit, but one that affords some coverage, but suggests a wilder side to her. Have her wear bright red lipstick and high heels and some slutty perfume. Then tell her you are inviting a friend or two over and you want here to serve takes and food wearing that outfit. Have her wear stockings but no panties. Keep her shaved, and tell her as much as you can how attractive she is to other men and how much they all want to fuck her.

While she is dressed and serving, find an opportunity to finger her without the guests seeing. Maybe in the kitchen or under the table etc. Also when she goes to the kitchen, excuse yourself from your guests and go in and order her to her knees and make her suck your cock for a few seconds. Then zip up and tell her to go back into the front room and take some takes in. Next, when in the kitchen, bend her over and slip your cock in her for a minute and tell her anyone could come in and catch you. Then pull out and send her back into the guests. This keeps her hot and wondering what might happen next!

Be sure that when the guests go, that you fuck her immediately on the sofa where everyone was sitting and tell her how much your friends would like to be doing her right then, all of them, one after the other and how you would love to see that.

Do this few times with different outfits, maybe add a leather collar, some PVC or leather, fishnets, spiked shoes etc. and get her trying to guess where this may lead. Also tell her what your friends say about her outfits etc. and make her believe they like what they see, which I am sure they will. Take some pics of her dressed up and post them on this site and tell her or show her what folks say.

good luck and keep us posted.

Have you thought about sending her- alone- to a porn theater?
On her first trip, she doesn't have to do anything but watch the movie: Maybe get herself off.
On her 2nd trip, maybe she could "help" one of the guys in the theater.
You could go with her, and watch her from a row away, in order to keep her safe.....

I don't think I could get her to go to a porn theater, even if I was with her. Plus there's not one nearby.

gacuckyboy...

I think youre doing this right... here is a subtle task for you both.

When you take her out, could be for dinner or just go shopping. Present her as your wife, with phrases like, aren't I lucky man, if you a sexy outfit that is comfortable for her, there sure will be commenting on her. Hold her hand, build up her trust in you. You can gradually intense the level, (taking off her bra before you go out...).

She masturbates when you tell her that is good. Make her want it, have periods when you dont let her masturbate, and then let her do so on your command.

All the time be aware of her needs and dont push her into something she doesnt want to do, you can achieve that later.

There are many tasks you can make up for her. Have fun while doingt it.

Best suggestion, go look up the Manosphere.
Roissy would be the best start. Heartiste on Wordpress, I believe.
There are others, too - you won't worry too much about improving yourself (do that anyway), but focus on how to train her thoughts. The term you need is Game.

Learn to game her, keep from being abusive, but "power" her by working her mind. The techniques work (I learned from necessity, not to pull women, but to deal with an aggressive woman I couldn't get rid of.)
Techniques work; you'll want to tailor them to your needs.
Examples like Push-Pull - used to create attraction - are above- Dickles @ #2, for example. Push-Pull works there, too: If you want her to have sex with other men, say, while doing her doggie style, tell her you wish you could see her mouth wrapped around a man's dick at the same time. Ride her hard, don't let her come - and don't let yourself come, either. The thought was SO hot though....

Next time she shows interest, be disinterested. She can give oral, or suggest anything... Let it go.
Suggest to her you have an idea of how hot it would be, again... But you bought a suction-cup dildo for her to suck while she's taking you doggie style.
And Dickle's suggestion, too.... Gentle strokes for the Lady.... Until YOU come. If she does, OK, if not, oh well. Her need should fill in the blanks soon enough...

The other big deal is Compliance Tests, most of the rest of what people have been talking about - and meeting your "subtle" criteria. Tell her what to do, and make sure she's done it correctly and to your satisfaction. Praise her if so, show her attention, give her affection. IGNORE her attempts to get the same - if she ASKS you to do "X", ignore her. (Unless she's earned it above.) If she DEMANDS, withdraw: Leave the house if necessary, but make distance, IMMEDIATELY.

Pavlovian conditioning, Game, and positive reinpowerment. If you want to use negative reinpowerment, you can do that, too - make it a ritual. Don't use a dildo to punish her, if you also use it for play. You muddy the waters. If you spank her with a hairbrush, that's the punishment hairbrush, not her daily hairbrush. Make it a time, like 7 PM every Saturday, to review it. You could make it play first, using positive reinpowerment. Then bring in the negative. She did three of four tasks perfectly, you make note and praise her for them... But then make note of #4, and ask her if she had the time and ability to do it; if you were clear in your instructions. If she admits these (she may not at first), you can persuade her to accept punishment - maybe a "fun" spanking, and after that, some reward for the pain... As the ritual gets started, increase the pain, reduce the pleasure, but praise her for taking the pain, and making you proud of her... Etc.

Next, a quick guide would help - I'd suggest Miss Abernathy's guide, you can find it on Amazon.

Lastly, and MOST importantly - her presentation is a GIFT, and you MUST earn it, FULLY.
If you let her down, or betray her trust in any way, you're DONE. Don't expose her, make her feel unsafe, or give her any doubts. You must provide for her what she needs. That doesn't mean provide what she wants, or says she wants, of course, but give her the direction (meaning that literally, a direction in life); discipline; sense of self. You probably know that, but it ALWAYS bears repeating.

CuckoMiguel, those are great ideas, I will try them out.

Steyraug96, that's a lot very helpful info. I've started looking at the things you suggested but will take some time. I really appreciate your advise!

It would be great to read how things are progressing.
I did take years to convince my wife to have sex with other men. After she started it she soon was in love with her lover and it was interesting since I also decided who he was and we (men) together were plotting the whole scenario the whole time.
She was my whore - her word, I had her say his name when she had orgasm, had her close her eyes and focus on him fucking her and many more. Best time of my life. Controlling her life but also gave her a lot of pleasure.
- H

So here's an update on our progress. I have had her do a few more things. I had her call me at a specific time, I was at lunch and she was home, and told her to be naked and that she was going to masturbate for me. She did call me and masturbated on the phone. It was one of the hottest things. I pretty much could think of nothing else the rest of the day.

Another time I told her not to wear any panties all day. Usually I tell her not to be wearing any when I get home but this time I told her not to wear any all day. I made her go to her room when I got home and checked her pussy to make sure she wasn't wearing them.

I bought her a hitachi magic wand and have used it once. It was fantastic. She totally got off and told me she wished that I could feel what she's feeling. I'm working on getting to fuck her up her ass. I got my finger up it and slid it in and out a little back. She likes it but it will take some time to work up to fucking her.

She has also agreed to go to a nudist camp outside Atlanta. It's a family place so it's not like its a place for swinging but it's a start. Neither of us have ever been to one before so it will be interesting to see how it goes.

Right now I'm waiting for her to name the two vibrators and the magic wand she has. My thought is that she name them after some guys, maybe someone she knows or used to know. Then when we're using them we can work whatever she named them into the action.

Those are all the highlights. What do you all think? Any other suggestions? I'd love to hear from you, either here or in a private message.