Over night

I have been a cuckold for many years and we both enjoy the lifestyle. So far our adventures have occurred at our home with me watching or more recently she has been meeting her bulls at a hotel or at their home without me. Lately, I have been getting the urge for her to have overnight stays to which she is agreeable. I would appreciate anyone with experience doing this to comment on how such experiences go.
Jg

It is the ultimate in cuckold thrill. Knowing your wife is spending the night with another man, quite possibly a stranger, kissing, cuddling, making love, fucking, maybe more. Raking together, kissing and fucking some more. Maybe even waking during the night when the urge takes one of them. Locked away for hours together doing things you can only imagine. The first time we did it I had to listen from the spare room.

Not sure this discussion is in the right thread

But for couples living the lifestyle, I presume there must be changes to their relationship as time goes by.

I always remember a story from years ago about a guy who wrote proudly about his wife and how she treated him as her cuckold husband. They began their journey as swingers. He confessing one day he was enjoying watching her have sex with other men, more than he himself actually fucking other women.
So they played that role for a while. He abstaining when they went to a party and she becoming more fixated on her husband not having sex which added to her sexual pleasure.
The move towards a cuckold relationship was easy after that.
Denial followed months later with him being placed in chastity.

It's a long story but I will cut to the chase.
They stopped swinging and she simply took lovers. Usually meeting in hotels or their place if they were single.

Then the lovers fucking her in the marital home.

It was probably two or three years later she fell in love with someone else and the guy moved in permanently and the husband into the spare room.

Of course it meant the cuckold relationship was in danger of ending and eventually it did.

But I suppose that is always a problem in any marriage never mind one that could be as brittle as the cuckold one.
stevensmiles

That's the problem within a cuckold marriage when the wife crosses the line between enjoying good, Hot, sex with her lover(s) and developing an emotional attachment. Hubby gradually gets moved out and it's no longer cuckolding, merely a change of partner.

Yes Kenny. I suppose it is one of the pitfalls (for the cuck anyway) the chance his loving wife might just build up emotional ties with one of her lovers and decide she does not need a cuckhubby anymore.

Of course that happens within many marriages so I do not think the cuck relationship is any different.

What I do think is that it would be heart breaking for the poor hubby. I suspect it is difficult indeed to form a meaningful cuck/hotwife relationship in the first place. So to see it end must be incredibly saddening.
stevensmiles

Thankyou for your input. I feel that your experience is a big part of cuckolding and as you indicate it is a big risk too. For me this is part of the excitement. Cuckolding is a relatively extreme activity and I accept that things may not go as planned. I still want my wife to ***** over with her lover.
Jg

Yes, the wheel keeps turning ...
Submissive Cuckold - lives for many years in a female-led marriage with a cuckold lifestyle.

After many years of cuckold lifestyle I'm ready for this ...
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Submissive Cuckold - lives for many years in a female-led marriage with a cuckold lifestyle.

Mine did this with her former lover. Wasn't a big deal after some time.

I found that the more leeway I gave my wife Debbie, the more she did as she liked. Originally we agreed that she wouldn't go with anyone I knew so I couldn't put a face to the name and that she would always use condoms, not to prevent pregnancy as she'd been sterilised, but to try and avoid STDs being passed on.

Debbie's first encounter with a new guy was spoiled by my cuckold angst a couple of days after the event, when my insecurity got the better of me and I asked her not to see him again. Before this Debbie had come home and told me all about her evening with Chris and we had laid in bed together discussing where we went from here. I found myself agreeing to all her suggestions, how good it was that she now had a toyboy bit on the side (she was 35, he was 23) and how she could "train him up", teach him new tricks and see him for sex maybe once or twice a week, perhaps stay overnight at his place from time to time. Sadly this didn't happen, due partly to my insecurity and partly due to him not contacting her for days after. Although I reassured Debbie that all was still okay between us, she felt dirty and used and we had a few quiet days before things got back to normal.

Looking back, I wished that I'd held my nerve and let things take their course. Chris did eventually contact my wife in the hope of fucking her again, but she said no because of me. Over the years though, I did suggest to Debbie that we should try again. At first, her response was "I'm not going down that road again", which later became "maybe", then eventually, "Do you think you could handle it this time?" Over 9 years had passed and I felt we were both older and wiser so with the aid of the internet, dating sites and social media, Debbie started to look and see what "talent" was about.

Long story short, this led to her messaging and chatting to various guys, culminating in her s1eeping with at least 4 new men - 2 guys in their 20s (Debbie was now 44), her mate's step-dad and an ex-work colleague of mine who fucked her bareback from day 1. We separated in 2012, divorced in 2014 and I have since be-friended that ex-workmate on Facebook and we have discussed Debbie at length. It was soon apparent that she'd told me one thing and him another. She's told me, for example, that she'd told Mick that we had "an arrangement", but he says he didn't know I knew about him shagging my wife. He told me he felt a bit guilty, but he had fancied her for 20 years and when the opportunity to finally get her into bed arose he wasn't about to turn down some married pussy whether he knew the husband or not. Turns out he fucked another colleague's wife too!

The biggest shock was finding out that they'd been away on holiday together! I knew she'd been away for a week, but thought it was with one of the young guys. She came home and told me how she'd been fucked 2 or 3 times a day every day, but not that she'd been with Mick. Neither Mick nor I can understand why she became so secretive when she had my approval to go out and get all the extra cock she wanted. I wonder if perhaps she got more pleasure from cheating on me, rather than having to tell me about it when she got home or maybe she started to get feelings for Mick. Her mate in a nearby town Debbie used to visit at weekends told me how she rarely stayed at her place, preferring to spend the night at her step-dad's flat, so more secrets there too. Her mate asked her, "What about Pete?", to which Debbie replied, "What Pete don't know won't hurt him", yet Debbie knew damn well I would have loved to know she was in Jimmy's bed at weekends. Very odd.

Debbie and I didn't have sex at all in our last year together, then one day she moved in with a guy 2 doors along the street. Ironically, Mick had run off with that guy's wife not long before and they moved away and are now married. Debbie is still with Tony, but they now live across the other side of town.
Peter C

Here's how this works.

The problem is not that she wasn't aware she had your permission. The problem is, she felt guilty about it anyway.

It's a classic problem in cuckold relationships. He wants her to fool around, but she feels guilty about it, and on some level, thinks she shouldn't. So she fools around behind his back, even though he wants her to do it, and tells her so explicitly.

xoxoxo

Christine

And then there are some of us who would like it to happen.

Mine has said in the past that she might fall in love with a guy and move in with him. It has become one of my biggest fantasies.

I've thought about it a lot. I've decided that I really would like it to happen. But I don't think it's likely at this point.

For the most part, my wife didn't want me ever to be around her and her men, so I only ever got to listen to her tales when she returned from her overnight stays. I think I was lucky enough to have ever watched her with another guy 2 or 3 times total, and, in hindsight, those experiences were never as intense and as anxiety-inducing/thrilling as when she would go out by herself to spend the night at bars and dance clubs meeting strangers and going home with them, or the other times when she had a somewhat steady guy she was spending the night with. After many years of being with much bigger and manlier men than me -she says they had "mojo" and I didn't- she quit cuck-ing me and now only has reluctant pity sex with me. And strange as it may seem, I enjoy pity sex! It's always the same: missionary position, dry pussy, she avoids kissing me, and she won't touch me either, she just lays there til I'm done. Meanwhile, my mind races with thoughts of all the men who excited her more than i ever could over the years and ruined our marital sex life forever! I totally take the blame for encouraging her to take other men but it was well worth it, in my opinion, and I wish she would start it up again but she became discouraged by so many fu-k boys who want to just pump and dump; she wanted a long term relationship with a man but never had enough luck with that, so she quit. Hopefully your wife will find better men who she's comfortable spending the night with and that it lasts for you much longer than it did for me.

My wife chatting with a guy on a dating site

Wood123

In answer to Wood123.

Your story is yet another tale of just how variant the cuck lifestyle can be.

The couple I knew who attended swinging and sex parties were happy with their relationship. He (the hubby) being denied sex while she (the wife) enjoyed sex with anyone she fancied.

But here your are explaining that your wife became disillusioned with cucking because the sex was simply that...... a physical unemotional act that did not satisfy her mental state.
The problem then comes into play that if your wife did meet another man and fell for him (to use simple terms)
Would she still wish to cuck you still.

There are many examples of chucks being dumped by wives/girlfriends because they're partners have found a better life with someone else. The fact being most of the time. A cuck relationship is cuck led.
It is the males fantasy more so than the females .....

I've never led a cuck lifestyle so it's always been just a plaything for me. I would like too. But I'm not losing any ***** over it
stevensmiles