Need your help about her first date

Hi guys, I normaly just post caps here, but I need some help and I wanted to post this here since you are the ones I usauly talk with and want your opinion, My girlfriend of 4 years came and sat down on the couch with me last night, out of no where, looked me right in my eyes and said that I will be wanting sex tomorrow night, when I asked her why she said because she has a date tomorrow with an ex, that she dated for a very little bit some years ago.
Now as much and as long as I have been wanting this to happen I have to say I am alittle nervious, after she went to bed last night I got on her computer and checked her IM message history, they spoke for over 6 hours last night, mostly about the what if's and could have beens, if they never broke up and how much they cared for each other. I just want her to find a guy she fells safe with and fuck him, but not some guy she is telling she had strong feelings for, and not once did she mention how happy she is with me or that she loves me, and that the whole thing, of them getting together would be just about sex. Please I need your advice, should I let her do it? I know she loves me and she is only doing this because I asked her to, but at the same time I guess I just thought it would be with a stranger.

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thanks for your advice and thank you everyone who has posted, everything is now fine, my girlfriend and I have spoken and she said if it makes me unconfertable for her to meet her ex, who by the way was not a successful relationship they only dated for a week or so, But if I did not want her to then she would not and canceled on her oun, We discussed our rules and limits, and she told me how much she loves me and was only going to do this because, A I wanted it for years, and B she says she can not go out and just fuck some stranger, so she said if I still want it let her know, if not then it wont happen. I have no more fears or concerns, and all I need to do now is fill all of you in on any future fun we have,. again thank you for everything feel free to continue posting about any of your experiences that you wish but I need no more advise I am now at ease on the situation and want to remain that way, lol. Thanks again.

Well that's kinda what happened to me. We weren't married or anything just been dating for nearly 3 years and then she just says I am tying her down becuase she hasn't accomplised all that she has wanted to while we have been together, which really does piss me off becuase it isn't my fault she hasn't done anything. Well that happened like a week ago and about two months ago is when i said you can relax with other people, she has with one permister, who now I can not stand becuase he is trying to date her. She says that if she wants something serious she would be with me, and in like a few months to a year we might get back together. I am in no way going to wait a year, yes I love her to death but I can't sit here and watch her go out with people, I'm already depressed enough. But the weird thing is we live together and I am kinda stuck here :-/

well anyway with your problem when I didn't even give her permision to do those things when we first started to go out she did that to me with her first boyfriend and it almost broke up our relationship which probably I should have. . . but I would just be very careful. She may just be playing with him to get him in the sack, try talking to her about it.

I have said this in other postings by guys in the same situation: it is all about communication, communication, communication. Your gf is not a mind reader and neither are you. You need to tell her about your fears of losing her to the former bf. You may be worrying needlessly. She may have no intention of dumping you. On the other hand, if you forbid her to go through with the date, I would bet the farm that she will go through with it anyway. Remember that she is your gf, not your wife. You have no moral or legal claim against her that would restrict what she does with her life. She could walk out today for a thousand other reamisters other than that she is sexually or even emotionally attracted to a former bf; and you would be powerless to stop her. I once had a gf that dumped me because I was too much of a gentleman and my cock was too big for her. Go figure.

If you absolutely need some leverage against her moving out and breaking your heart, I suggest that you marry her first, then have her cuck you. At least then you will receive some protection from the divorce laws of the body politic that you reside in. Good luck.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

Thank yo so much for your input, as far as me marring her first it won't work, she is always asking me to marry her but I have not been ready and she says if she is ever going to make my cuckold fantasy come true it will be before we are married, once we are married she said she will not be with other men at al, she says it would not be right. in any case I have been trying to get her to do this for the past year and a half, she finaly says she will do it and I am nervious now, I told her a little while ago about my consernes and she canceled it and did not tell me till I asked her if she was going to get ready, she looked at me and said that she thought I did not want her to so she emailed him saying she could not make it, I told her as long as she is honest with me she could go meet him as long as she let him know up front there is no way they will ever get back together, then I came in here to post this, so I don't know what she is going to do now. again thank you both so much for the input and would like to here more if you have any.
Nick.

Nick:
Trust is a two-way street. It appears to me that your gf has full faith and trust that you will not become jealous and dump her after she comes home to show you another man's cum dripping from her pussy as proof positive that she has fulfilled YOUR fantasy. And be honest, you will require proof. And think about that, she has to come HOME TO YOU in order to provide you with the proof positive that she loves you enough to spread her legs and allow the former bf to treat her like a common street whore. Why can't you trust her?

If you continue to waffle, your gf will, at the very least, be totally confused as to your true feelings and, most likely, will lose faith in you and start to mistrust you. And that WILL ruin the relationship you have with her.

My friend, it is now time for you to either put up or shut up. Either you overcome your nervousness (which I think is groundless) and send your gf out to be fucked by another man, or you get used to the idea that your fantasy will forever be that, just a fantasy.

I have watched while my wife has been fucked by 25 different men on hundreds of occasions. A number of these cuckolding sessions took place in in the bed that my wife and I relax in and where we share our most intimate thoughts. Others took place in motel rooms. All of these bulls would eventually ask me the same question; "Doesn't it bother you to watch another man screw your wife and have her scream for more? How can you trust her?" My reply has always been the same: "You may get to fuck her, but she always goes home with me."

I look forward to you relaying to us the details after your gf cucks you and you get to add your cum to the other guy's load.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

Thanks for your advice Amazonking, you are right I will have to make a choice, I think we all know what that choice will be.

I guess the first question you must ask yourself is why are you not ready to marry her or commit? If you are not willing to marry her after 4 years of dating and playing house, then what gives? Do you or would you blame her for exploring other options? You should be nervous, especially if she is not satisfied in your relationship on an emotional level, ie (no longer in love with you).

So while communication is important, you need to decide why commitment is not in your cards, why realizing your cuckold fantasy is so important or not, and deal with the risk, if so. She may develop an emotional attachment with another man outside your relationship, expecially with one that previously was successful, if you are sending her out to have sex to appease you, and she is not comfortable. The foundation of a good cuckold relationship is a loving and trusting partner who is teasing and denying you physical exclusivity. If she refuses to cuckold you once you become married, that should tell you something about her true views on relationships, marriage, loyalty, and exclusivity.

Another question to ponder is does she still have feelings for him and vice versa. If so, this can complicate your relationship. Why is she seeking your approval to go out with this former boyfriend in the first place? There is more to this than meets the eye.

You need to determine what you want out of this relationship and then discuss her wants and needs and see if you both are in agreement, make a commitment and then move on toward your mutual goals. Moreover, look at the level of intimacy, trust, and commitment in the relationship to determine your longevity and happiness as a couple, instead of whether she should go meet this guy, period. Trust me, she would not have talked for 6 hours reminiscing and/or agree to have sex with him, if there was not a more serious hidden agenda here.

Good luck exploring the future of your relationship!

studmaster58 thanks for your advice and thank you everyone who has posted, everything is now fine, my girlfriend and I have spoken and she said if it makes me unconfertable for her to meet her ex, who by the way was not a successful relationship they only dated for a week or so, But if I did not want her to then she would not and canceled on her oun, We discussed our rules and limits, and she told me how much she loves me and was only going to do this because, A I wanted it for years, and B she says she can not go out and just fuck some stranger, so she said if I still want it let her know, if not then it wont happen. I have no more fears or concerns, and all I need to do now is fill all of you in on any future fun we have,. again thank you for everything feel free to continue posting about any of your experiences that you wish but I need no more advise I am now at ease on the situation and want to remain that way, lol. Thanks again.