Wife wants us to try, I am opening up to the idea

Hi all,

Wife has been interested in this since we first met. She loves fantasising about it and it is talked about in nearly every time we have sex.

I've beeen opening up to the idea and have been watching more porn. We've been using chastity lately and I have been opening up more and more to the idea. I feel like I'm getting close to making this a reality.

Does anyone have any fun suggestions to bridge the gap for a nervous first timer? Porn? Role play? Captions? Open to suggestions!

We are both in our early 30sc been together ten years.

Thatistart

Great place to start — seriously 👍

Don't rush making it "real". The build-up is half the fun.

A few easy steps:

* Theme nights (fantasy + talk, no pressure)
* Roleplay together instead of just porn
* Captions/stories — super underrated for easing in
* Light boundaries chat ("what's hot vs too much")

You've got the key thing already: communication + shared interest.

Curious how others here bridged that first step — drop your experiences 👀

Thatistart

She is ready to go but you are the one who needs convincing?

First, since you mentioned that you have tried chastity, I am guessing you are the submissive. Pretty much all couples have at least some dom/sub relationship characteristics. And if you are the sub, and you are male, then you should have no trouble getting excited at the thought of serving your wife.

If you fear that she will leave you, or fall out of love with you, or prefer the company of another man, then use that emotional energy to give yourself the most exciting thrill of your life. Turn fears into eroticisms. While you masturbate, imagine another man enjoying her warm, wet vagina, while you have only your own hands. Then, as you cum, imagine yourself eating his sperm from her while you finish yourself off.

You need to find out if it would turn her on to humiliate you. If it does, then you are to become the servant of both her and her lovers. My first wife, a very sexually active submissive, could not say no to any man who approached her. Her favorite fantasy was to serve me and another girl while we were in our post coital bliss in bed. She also fantasized about being "forced" to serve both me, and the girl. Later her fantasies included serving a bunch of men. We made both of those come true.

I did not appreciate the guts it took for that first wife to share her fantasies with me. I wish I had more maturity at the time and understood how to handle such a beautiful creature. Alas, I did not.

I hope you do.

All, JMHO
MD

My advice is simple -

Do not push her - cucks always want their wife to do more, go further...

Whatever your reactions are - they may not be what you think - always show her love and make her feel good about herself after each step...

Never ever throw anything she has done on your mutual journey back at her in the heat of an argument...

Enjoy the journey and come back here to tell us all about it.
Interestingly, someone dislikes my work enough to take the time to give me minus points!

All of these suggestions are good. Cuck porn will put your interest front and center. It helps if you have a friend in mind. Be clear about boundaries, although these will change over time.

If your wife wants to try then it's going to happen whether you agree to it or not 😁😁

Thatistart
My asian wife and I are also around the same age and length of marriage. I have performance issues and she has such a strong sex drive. In our case, it's me trying to get her to find pleasure with another mans cock. If your wife is initiating it, embrace it. I envy you. Your marriage life is about to be upgraded.

I have messaged you.