Has she or hasn't she ??????

Oh I am a CD too, love to dress up when I can, of course she doesnt know about that either

Quick update,
Interesting new pattern is emerging, 3 out of the 4 times we have done anything in bed, she has limited it to hand jobs only. She hasn't said anything, she just controls events and I dont get inside her.
MH

Melbhusb any updates???? its been more than a week since we last heard from you, whats happening?

Well not a lot of news recently, yesterday she left the house at 1030am looking quite hot in tight jeans, saying bye she came back 2 hrs later with no comment about where she was, she could have met a girlfriend for coffee who knows???

She has also been making a lot of comments about boyfriends etc, she goes through times when she doesnt say a word for a few weeks then she starts making jokes etc, who knows???

She has also been avoiding sex with me more and more, headaches, sore stomachs,, tired. When we do it its VERY hot, but lats time we did anythingwa Sunday night this week she has been very elusive

try offering her a special oral treat when she comes home from 'coffee'. see if she's stretched out or extra juiced up or hopefully even sporting a fresh pie for you. if it were me i'd wear her cummy seeded panties for a day as a sign of presentation and confirmation of her superior status in the relationship. you could perhaps promise to really serve her submissively in exchange for the details of her exploits....

Thanks for the advice bc, but I have to tread very carefully on the sub side, she got a bit freaked out when i tried once. I guess I will just have to be patient and hope one day she shares with me

Quick update if anyone is interested. Things have settled down into an interesting pattern.

When we are in bed together, she often wont let me insdie her, she has had some earth shaterring orgasms by me giving her a handjob, after a while she climbed on me and rubbed herself along me, but wouldnt let me insdie her, finishing me by hand.

Also the frequncy of us actually doing anything has dropped off a bit, she has had reamisters for not doing anything, ranging from a bit of a cold, to a headache. Whne we do it its very hot, but there is no doubt some nights shes just not interested.

Try introducing her to a sex chat site. When she finds a guy to cyber with, lick her pussy. Soon you will find her chatting without you, and probably rubbing herself at the same time.

I don't think, I could get her to talk on a sex chat site as much as I would love her to do that shes not the type

Hey melbhusb
good to read your posts again...me been f****** busy lately and not much time for anything! Ummm, I think that you just need to 'let go'...don't try too hard, 'cause the more you push the more she might resist...just keep doing what you are doing...you keep being her sub, keep performing FOR her, playing the part, gradually taking on more and more of the role (and you know what I'm talking about). If you suggest anything to her, don't make it a suggest TO her, but more ABOUT her (for example..."jeez, you're a sexy woman, you need to be fucked as much as you want"...said while you're going down on her - now that needs to be adapted to what's relevant to you both, but I'm sure you get the idea). Having said that, I have to tell you that nothing, absolutely NOTHING will move her until she is ready (you know the story about the horse and the water... )...so, you just need to sloooooow down and enjoy the journey...very subtle (and that means SUBTLE WITH A CAPITAL SUBTLE ), suggestions and comments along the way...- hey remember the Armstrong thing on the moon...one small step...thingy...that's what it is really. I know the feeling man, believe me...it's like you really want it to happen...really hanging out...but slow, and gentle is the way...
good luck!
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Sorry havnt been able to get online for a bit.

Cookman, thanks for the advice, I think you are 100% correct, keep subtly encouraging and let her take the initiative.

Last night she told me I kept her up snorring and that if I do it again, then we will have no sex or anthing for a week. I asked what happens if i keep snorring, she said then I will have a problem.

Quick update, well I am even more confused now than ever. 3 weeks ago she tell me that she doesnt like this whole things its distasteful and nothing was said for 2 weeks.

Then last week, it all started up again, I was waiting for her to go to the shops, she took ages, I said what were you doing? she says fucking my boyfriend in the cupboard, I said oh that was very quiet she says yes but very hot. Since then I am getting boyfriend jokes and comments again, go figure???

I love this threat and am very interested how it goes on.

wish i had more news to update you on, all quiet here right now, apart from teh occasional joke or comment

So do we MH, love hearing how your story. Sounds to me like your wife has cucked you, why would she act the way she has if she had not cucked you?

What could she gain from joking around, and if there is smoke there is probably fire.

Kep up this great post

I made a comment a while back that I guess was kind of rude so I apologize to you sir...I firmly believe whatever works for two people is great so long as you are cool with it. That's what makes this lifestyle so interesting to me, not just sexually but intellectually also. There is no black and white, just a million shades of grey. I guess I made that remark because for myself, the turn-on is absolutely knowing about it. I've told my wife she can fuck other guys so long as she doesn't hide it from me. Otherwise I don't see what satisfaction one would get out of it? Plus, I feel if one partner or the other has a secret connection with another, that higher level of intimacy that needs to be present in marriage is broken. Just my opinion tho...would you be okay with her never telling you?

Good luck with your journey...definitely has exciting prospects!

Apology accepted Geecrizz, of course I would like to know, but in other respects not knowing is very erotic too, the innuendo, the wondering, the little signs etc.

I guess the ultimate decision is hers as she is THE GODDESS so if thats what she wants thats what she does

Greg
How did her behavior change? I would love to compare notes.
How long ago did it happen?

Quick update, not much happening, but hse has shaved herself very very short, almost no hair in front, never done this before....

I just read your thread from front to back...very hot. The only thing I can say is that make sure you keep telling her how much you love her and how hot she is when she does these things to you/for/and with you.

Your situation reminds me somewhat of mine. My wife went from 0 to 100 mph in a short time. While my wife does tell me the details (while she sits on my face)...she won't let me get involved when she is with her bf. At some point in the future, I hope she will let me watch.

Your journey is so angst filled and fun sounding. I look forward to reading more.

Does she know you post here...or anything about this site?

Allen, no she doesn't know, well at least I think she doesn't.
I do continually tell her hse is hot and sexy and whenever she jokes or comments about boyfriends etc. I am very encouraging.

How did you guys get started, whose idea was it etc?

It was definately my idea. It all started when my wife (then friend with benefits) were watching a gangbang porn. We watched a lot of porn then and then had sex. I was still living at home. Probably about the age of 23 or so.

I still have the video...where this white woman was in a room full of guys, white and black. I don't remember the scenario, but when one of the black guys went to fuck the woman...she (my wife) let out a slight moan/gasp. I knew right then that she was very turned on. From there I started looking more at interracial porn, that progressed to hotwife things, to cuckolding...etc. I began to ask her as a friend with perks to let me watch her fuck another guy. She said no...and I kept pressuring her.

Through all this she wanted to date me, and I kept putting her off. Finally one day she said, I will fuck another guy if you go out with me. I didn't bite. She was at her end, and decided to move away...I then realized what I was going to lose, so I asked her out. She from then on still refused to do it...saying that "well, you missed your chance".

She refused me all the way through our dating, then into our marriage, until recently. Now she fucks our neighbor/our best friend. Most recently fucking him in our basement by the bar. I have more details of our journey at my thread. Some pics to if you are interested.

I hope to hear soon that your wife has confirmed that she has been fucking someone else..and gives you proof!!!

melbhusb,

Any updates?

Would love an update....and have a few suggestions.
First create a game with her where she sends you pics from her phone to yours... you should probably create it as part of your points system.
This way you or she can earn points...

What this will do is get her used to sending pics to you... and you want her to send you pics of her and her boyfriend....
if she does not have one...she will start by sending pics of random guys...but if she does...the pics will get interesting very quickly.

Update???

No updates since November. I sure would like to know whats going on and if they were able to get everything out on the table. A secret affair can be very damaging to a marriage. And it would be a shame, too, since melbhusb wants to be cuckolded by his wife so badly.