Upcoming wedding

Seems to me that this ceremony already took place, so I'm not sure why we are still discussing. But in case there is anyone else out there, I recommend a good subtle but clear to those with suspicion strategy from my own wedding a decade ago. Our vows were pretty conventional, but we for one thing. I promised to love, honor, and obey, and she just to love and honor. (We also dropped any language about forsaking all others.)

Those who knew or suspected noticed. For those who didn't know, but noticed that the vows were mixed up, we had two options: (1) Tell or hint broadly, (2) explain it was an error born of nervousness and laugh it off. We chose the best course depending on who was asking. All the stuffy old family types thought that mix-up story was hysterical and charming and never read the filthy meaning us fetishists would into it.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.