Peter C
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It all depends on what you want out of it and more importantly, what your wife thinks about this. In my experience a wife's initial reaction can be that you're just looking for an excuse to have an affair yourself or that you don't love her anymore if you are suggesting she start having sex with other men. They are two hurdles you may have to get over.
I don't know where my cuckold tendencies came from. I certainly never harboured any fantasies about this with my first wife, nor the woman I lived with afterwards and I'd been with my second wife about 12 years before these thoughts started coming to me. I worked shifts, one week early, one week late, and consequently my wife Debbie gradually developed a social life without me. That might be dr1nking at my works's social club bar, or out with the girls or playing darts for a ladies team in local pubs and clubs. Often she'd come home a little dr unk and we'd have sex of course, but sometimes she'd "confess" to being chatted up, bought dr1nks and asked out or that some guy had tried it on, with a hand on her leg or arse, even a sly grope of her tits. This not only started to excite me, but my apparent acceptance of all this, seemed to turn her on too and our fucking would be more frantic.
I first broached the subject of letting her go further after a night out with a mate of hers entailed a visit to a new bingo hall opening locally and them having entertainment on to entice customers in. This particular night there was a band on and Debbie was rather taken by the young, blonde lead singer. She told me that he'd asked her to go clubbing with them after the gig, despite his girlfriend being there and on the phone to her mate when she came home after bingo - in front of me - said how she'd fancied him so much that her pussy had been wet and twitching.
Hearing this turned me on too and I later suggested that next time that band was in town she should go, but this time accept his offer to go clubbing and see what happens. I explained that I'd be okay with things going further, even if she wanted to have sex with him, I'd be fine with it. "Yeah! As if!", was her initial reaction and as far as I know the band never did come back, but that conversation planted the seed.
Debbie started openly saying if she fancied a certain guy, usually a young singer or TV star and it soon became apparent that she had a thing about much younger guys. I was 7 years older than her with her in her early 30s, so her "ideal" conquest was lads in their early-mid 20s. It took a good 2 years of us talking about the possibilities before anything happened, but one thing that did accelerate events was the introduction into the bedroom of a sex toy. Friends of ours had brought her home a plastic carrot from holiday, which concealed a quite realistic 5-6 inch dildo. Using this on her I told Debbie how good it was to see another "cock" going in and out of her and how naughty she was doing it with "another man" right there in front of her husband. "You love it!", she murmured as I fucked her with it and she came more noisily than usual as she imagined me actually watching and letting her do it with someone else.
We talked about it from time to time - not too often so she didn't get fed up of me going on about it - and discussed various possibilities and scenarios, even agreed a couple of ground rules, neither of which she stuck to but that's another story!
I hope this helps, but the essence of what I'm saying is that you do need to be in a strong, trusting relationship and it is imperative that you talk about this with your wife. Communication at all stages of this is key. Find out what she wants, if indeed she even wants to try cuckolding and let us know how you get on.
Peter C
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cfinch
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Thank you for your response and input. It is appreciated.
She is absolutely wanting to try it... she actually suggested it first, which was a relief since I had been so nervous to bring the subject up. I suspect she's looked at my internet history tbh.
We are in a very close and strong marriage. It's lasted 12 years so far.
The problem is, she's a bigger woman, and has problems with self esteem and she feels quite shy and nervous about just approaching people.
It puts us in a tricky situation, since neither of us have any idea where we can start. Online is an option, since everything can be up front. But it's hard to find somewhere trustworthy. Anyone found anything of any use in that area?
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Peter C
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cfinch: She is absolutely wanting to try it... she actually suggested it first, which was a relief since I had been so nervous to bring the subject up. I suspect she's looked at my internet history tbh. We are in a very close and strong marriage. It's lasted 12 years so far. The problem is, she's a bigger woman, and has problems with self esteem and she feels quite shy and nervous about just approaching people. It's good that she's had the confidence to broach the subject. That's promising in itself. I'm sure she has no need to be that nervous. There are plenty of men out there that prefer a bigger woman, rather than the skinny ones. Does she have any female friends she could go with for a girly night out? We found that men seem to sense when a woman - married or not - is up for some attention and a dr1nk or two might loosen your wife's inhibitions. Even if nothing happens straight away it will boost your wife's confidence and ego if she gets chatted up by a good looking guy when she's out and no doubt her mates would be egging her on. Take your time. Don't push her or keep on about it. Just let her explore this at her own pace. Even my slutty wife took over 2 years before she took a new cock inside her. Peter C |
Peter C
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cfinch: I'd like to thank everyone who has offered advice, it's been incredibly helpful. And thank you to those who have openly chatted about experiences, it's made it seem a lot less daunting than it originally was. Any more advice or just general chat is well received and appreciated. You're most welcome. I'm always happy to offer advice where I can. I'm a "usedtobe" rather than a wannabe so can help from experience. Keep us informed of any developments please, however small. Tiny steps are better than none at all and these things can take time. Be patient, let your wife take the lead in this and I'm sure eventually she'll get there. Peter C |
