Elusive gentleman with kinky side?

We are couple in our 40's living in south coast UK. Been into swinging scene, gangbangs, 3 or moresomes. Also trying soft cuckold fun or rather would say wifesharing. I'm not a sub permister so just enjoy watching and sharing my wife with other guys with or without my presence. From some time shes trying to find guy with my full permission who could be her FB. Shes got her own profile on one of UK swinging sites. And believe me or not, it's so hard to find decent localish guys who tick all boxes. Most of messages are from one-liners, no pics, or just too rude to answer. Other mails are from too old or too young or just not her type. It's very frustrating for both us . If they exist? LOL
Actually I don't know why I'm writing this post lol, wandering if other couples have the same problem as we do?
Thanks for reading
Couple from South, 40 yo, fairly experienced

Hi
We are from the South West of the UK and we are having the same problems as you please private me with what site you are using and we can compare notes.
Lynne
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