Never give up

Have posted in here a few times in the past over my wifes antics but that seems to be a long time ago now. The last time she played away, I knew nothing about it, although I was attempting to engineer a situation where she would be well tempted. When I did find out later, I was ecstatic and thought I would be able to get her to start again with the same bloke but no, she wasn't having any of it.
Down the years, I have tried to persuade her from time to time but although the subject always got her hot as hell, the answers I received ranged from " maybe " to the last one a few weeks ago " no chance whatsoever " which was said at a volume I have no wish to endure again.
I’ve been with her as girlfriend and wife for 34 years and in that time she's cheated on me twice after relentless pressure from two of my mates (or should I say ex mates. They cleared off when everything came out.) so she she could never be described as a serial cheater, though that would have been great.
For the last eight years she has suffered with a severe case of alopecia which completely destroyed her confidence. She has tried various ways to start the regrowth of her hair with limited results. I will say at this point that she is a very beautiful woman whom many a man has tried to woo over the course of the years so to lose such a gorgeous head of hair was absolutely devastating.
It got to the point last year when I thought that because it was a shock which brought about the condition, then maybe if I could inject some much needed confidence back into her, then possibly, it might have the desired effect in initiating some growth.
I posted a msg in the UK cuckold section asking if anybody would be interested in possibly seducing my wife. I know it was deceitful but desperate measures and all that!
I had a response from a chap who lived up north of me and told him the situation, expecting him to run a mile but no, he seemed very keen and when I showed him a couple of photos of how she normally looked, he was very impressed.
I got him to come down on the pretext of doing some work on the house and because I’m so busy myself, my wife gave him her mobile number to arrange times for him to come down.
This was in February when he first came to check on the job. They kept in touch by texting and he gradually started to flirt with her. She resisted for quite some time but eventually started to loosen up although still a bit wary. It got to the stage one night were Pete was coming down the following day and she’d got so nervous, she showed me his texts. I reassured her that he was just venting his feelings as she was such a lovely looking woman and that she had no need to worry. A couple of nights later, we were having a discussion about him and I raised the old subject again. It soon deteriorated into an argument with her yelling that she’d never relax with another man, ever, so I’d better drop the subject for good.
That was six weeks ago and in that time, Pete has carried on texting and she has been replying. It got to the stage where he told her how he felt about her and since then, things have been steadily improving. He’s bought her flowers a couple of times and now she thinks he’s wonderful.
I’m not going to go into every minor detail but over the last 3 weeks the whole thing has been turned around where she’s now as horny as hell again and she had her first lunch date with Pete today. She was terribly nervous this morning when I left her and in the end, the nerves got to her and she wasn’t able to respond to Petes advances later. The great thing about it though is that she sent him a text an hour or so later apologizing for letting him down and for him not to be put off, just bear with her.
Next date is in a fortnight so hopefully, all will be well.
Oh and as for her hair, it’s growing really well and has been ever since Pete started with the flirty texts. Amazing what good feelings can do for you.
I know that setting somebody up isn’t the best way for these things to happen but in my case, so far things are working out extremely well for everybody. I suppose the point I’m trying to make, is that given the right set of circumstances, even the most stubborn of people can have their views completely changed in a short space of time so anybody out there who is in the same position as I was, don’t give up hope.
Anything new and I’ll let you know.

Take it slow, take it easy. This could do wonders for her self-esteem.

Fingers crossed and keep us updated.

Can't not alopecia be caused by stress?

Are you doing anything that she is finding stressful in your past and current approach?
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Thanks for replying lads.
My wifes suffered from it since younghood but since we got married, it only ever appeared in penny sized areas which would then clear up after a couple of months.
A few years ago, I was invited to a school reunion and for some reamister that I've never got to the bottom of, she got it into her head that I was going to up sticks and leave. I did end up with an particular girl in hot pursuit of me,as it happened, which she found out about and so started the demise of her beautiful locks.
So for the past eight years, she's been trying all sorts to counteract things but the attention of another man has really brought things to life. Her whole permistera has changed though and it's been great to watch.
She's got to the stage now, where she's starting to tease me with regards to any forthcoming dates, what she's going to wear and the texting that's been going on. It's incredible watching the change taking place each and every day so long may it continue.

Oh aye, forgot this bit. She's fully expecting me to start wooing her again and she's not messing about. Great eh!

well it all sounds good for you mantab
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Yeah, so far, so good. Another week to go before the next date. She's visibly relaxed now after the nerves of last time so I hope this carries through to next thursday. It's great to watch her either sat at the dinner table or watching tv while she texting Pete quite openly, usually followed by a knowing smile.
Without any prompting from me, she's now taken to getting up in the morning and having a session on the treadmill. She now wants to get into clothes that she thought she'd put behind her. She's still got great legs so she's bought herself some leggings to show them off. She considers herself to old for short skirts now, although she'd look great but she's agreed that she still likes slim fitting pencil skirts so it's off to the shops next week for the start of a complete new wardrobe and lingerie.
She really wants to wow Pete but is a little scared of being too forward so it has to be a little at a time. When she does go over the edge though, it's going to be superb.
Just hoping she keeps on moving forward come thursday.

Well, it's all sorted for tomorrow. Thought the whole thing was going to be called off as my mister is going to be here in the morning. A few weeks ago, that would have been enough of an excuse to halt everything as she would have considered it to risky by possibly being asked to many questions but now, she's got herself so into it, that nothings going to stop her going out.
We've arranged that I'm going to leave work and come home to pick her up, then take her round the corner to the car park at the pub where her date will be waiting. This was arranged yesterday. She sent me a text saying she found it a bit unnerving having the two of us meet up so she could be handed over. Her words which I thought sounded pretty hot in itself. I told her that she was thinking the wrong way round as she should look at it as, her leaving me to be with Pete. She seemed much happier with that description and sent him a text to see if he was happy with that.
When he replied, she showed me it. It basically said that he had no problem with the arrangement and in fact he thought it was a good idea to have me present so he knew that there wasn't any problems with the fact that he was going to be dating my wife.
She took the phone back and with a huge smile on her face, gave me a kiss and a huge hug as though she was saying thankyou.
Have not long received a text from her saying that she's looking forward to tomorrow. I've arranged to pick up the kids from school and go somewhere for a bite to eat so as to give Pete and my wife more time with each other after they get back from lunch.
I'm very much looking forward to seeing my wife leave me for the day and to watch her getting into Petes car and drive off.
The upshot of this whole experience so far, is that ever since Pete appeared on the scene, her whole attitude has changed. From an almost non existant sex life, we're now into each other all the time and then I want more.
I can't wait to see where exactly this is going to take us.

Not a lot of point posting here really.

I envy you really. And you have given me some glimmer of hope that this could still happen to me one day. Thank you.

Thanks grogsnu,
It seems to be just a matter of timing in most cases I reckon but then again, who knows.
Well, she went out again last Thursday, a little less nervous this time and headed down to the beach. They walked for some time down there before heading off to a pub on the canal for a bite to eat. Pete told me that it was more of a friendly and relaxed afternoon rather than an attempt to get her worked up.
This would have suited my wife as in her two previous escapades with other men, she was seduced over a long period of time. After lunch, they headed back to the house where again they chatted at length before Pete had to be making tracks. He told me that there was no pressure put on her at all so they just held each other tight and kissed before he had to go.
The main difference between this and the other two times is that my wife is going with this in the full knowledge that I know about it. It's had the effect of making her more relaxed as she tells me snippets of information which in turn is making her more outgoing and confident in the approach to all this. Since thursday, Pete's invited her to stay on his yacht overnight. Unfortunately, she's declined this time as she still thinks it's to soon to get into a truly physical relationship. She's fully aware that I have no objection at all to her doing precisely what she wishes but she likes things to go along at a pace that she feels in control of.
Each time she sees Pete, things go just that little bit further and thankfully, he's being very patient. I can see how far she's come in the last few weeks and the effect this whole experience is having on her. She's now worse, or better, than she was when she was a teenager. Constantly horny and ready for anything. It's been a long time since I was getting shagged so often and for so long.
It's only a matter of time now until Pete is on the receiving end of her passions.
I fully realise that to many on here, this sounds fairly tame and slow but for those of us who have been in the position of either trying to get our wives to start or to repeat past indisgressions, this story of how she has completely turned her views around and her now obvious affection for Pete, will give many of you fresh hope as to what can be achieved.
I'm now looking forward to their next date to see how far she's willing to go.

The main thing with this thread is,that it shows that these things take time.Wives just dont jump into bed with other guys overnight. social conditioning has to be broken down slowly. This thread is an antidote to the.. . . Has she been Blacked yet. . . or has she been Bred. . . is she a slut yet twaddle. Its a lot slower with a wife than it is with a single woman. There are consequences for her to consider. Once your wife has fun with the other guy and sees no -tive consequences,she will want to continue and enjoy the attention of two males.

Sounds like it's going in the right direction, Mantab. I'm sure like many others, I'm enjoying your build-up. Don't worry that it's slow paced - that's how real life is - makes it all the more exciting to follow. Please keep us updated and good luck!

Thanks guys. Good to know that there is something of interest to follow. Since thursday, we've had a few chats about what is happening, mainly so I can get her to feel more at ease with everything. Over the last couple of weeks, Steph's been able to bring up the subject without any coaxing from me and talk about it quite freely. She can also see the dramatic effect that the experience is having on her as her hair is coming through better than it's ever done before so there is no point in her denying that her overall well being is down to her ever strengthening relationship with Pete. Last night she told me that she no longer feels her age and I have to say that the longer this goes on, she's beginning to look younger as well. Amazing what a permanent smile can do to somebody's looks.
The next date has been set for next monday. She has agreed to go up to Petes for the day. They plan to take a walk for a while, followed by dinner and then takes back on the yacht. She plans to be home 10.30ish but I'm hoping she gets herself carried away a little. Steph knows exactly what's coming this time, although she has told me that she wont be taking things the whole way just yet but is certainly ready to take things to the next level, if she can keep her nerves at bay. Two weeks ago, she was telling me that she wouldn't be going on any evening dates for some time but here we are with another change of mind. Just a pity that she wouldn't agree to stay overnight but believe me, I'm not arguing with this arrangement.
If anybody had told me last christmas that by summer, Steph would have a boyfriend and was going on regular dates, I'd have thought they were insane. I never really gave my request much chance of success but look what's happening.
As long as Steph can control her nerves, I should be able to update this thread with some long awaited good news.

She's not long left for an appointment, after which, she'll return here, shower and change and wait to be picked up by Pete at around 2pm.
Never thought I'd bear witness to Steph being so turned on again at the thought of seeing another man but she seems to be on a permanent high at the moment. She's still very nervous but as she said to me, it's about the fact that she knows how to react with me after all this time. With Pete, everything is brand new and as she hasn't messed about in ages, it's got the nerves jangling.
Anyway, Stephs out all day now and although she knows she can stay over, I expect her to be back at some time tonight. Just hope Pete can talk her into staying a bit longer.
Meanwhile, I'll be going to work and try and calm my nerves.

This is the best possible news. I hope that all goes well and Steph has a wonderful time with Pete.... and with the result you want so much.

Keep us updated my friend.

Thanks for the reply Carvin.
I keep on hoping that this whole thing will suddenly take off and she'll become insatiable but I've really got to keep my feet planted firmly on the ground and accept that it's going to be a very steady but no less exciting, build up to having Steph give herself to Pete.
He picked her up at 2pm and took her to his yacht to show her round. It's about 40 miles away from ours. Monday was a lovely sunny day so they spent a lot of time walking before going for dinner and then back to the yacht for takes. luckily, I was busy trundling the kids around so I didn't have a lot of time to be sitting around thinking about what could be happening.
By the time I got back home at 9pm, I was starting to wonder what time Steph would eventually get back in. She had planned on being back at 10.30ish and I was hoping that she'd change her mind and stay over. Anyway, 10.30 came and went and my excitement started to grow. I showered and went to bed, all the time watching the clock. I had the tv on but couldn't watch it properly as I kept checking the clock. By the time 11.30 came round, I was really bubbling. There was no sign of a text either so by this time, I'd convinced myself that she must be far to busy to be worrying about me. Perfect!
It was just on 12.30 when I heard Steph coming back in. She came straight upstairs and walked into the bedroom looking very happy and relaxed. I asked her how her day had been and she told me she'd had a lovely time as the weather had been perfect.
I just let her ramble on about all the events of the day without interrupting her. I wanted to see if she would loosen up and begin to tell me about any intimacy between them without any prompting from me.
During the last two dates, she's frozen when Pete has made an approach so this was really the big hurdle for her to get over on this night.
She told me that Pete had kissed her when they were in the pub, which had settled her nerves but when back on the yacht, she began to get a bit nervy again. She was on deck when Pete called her down. She went below and pete took her in his arms and they kissed passionately.
I know Steph was nervous about the whole issue of Petes advances from day one and I always put it down to her lack of confidence due to her condition, after all, the previous two flings that she's had, she was as hot as hell once she'd got past the stage of being courted. It turns out though, after a conversation we had the other night, she is also thinking about the age she is. She's 49 and to her way of thinking, that's probably to old to be acting like a love struck teenager. The good thing is that, since getting over her self imposed hurdle on monday, her attitude towards her age is crumbling.
She didn't take it beyond the kissing stage on this date although Pete did text me to say it was a proper tongue wrestling session while he was getting a good grip of her backside and that he was more than happy with how things were going. Each time they meet, things just go that little bit further. When I sent her a text yesterday, she agreed with me that it wouldn't be long before her and Pete were lovers.
She was trying to come up with plan were they could both be discreet so I said to her why not just be to obvious. Pete initially came down to do some work so if he were to come into the house with toolbox, the neighbours aren't really going to think much. After that, they can spend the rest of the day in bed. This went down rather well.
So there we have it up to this point. Sorry if it's coming over like a Mills and Boon story but that's the way it is. Steph has always been the sort of girl who likes to be wooed. Any other way and the whole thing would have been a non starter.
Although slow, it's now got to the stage were anything could happen on their next date. All I know is, she's exceptionally happy with the situation over Pete, as I am and I hope it carries on for as long as possible.
I'm hoping also that she'll soon start getting out and about with her mates of an evening. With this new found confidence and look, it could make for a few very interesting evenings.
As soon as I know when the next date is, I'll be back to let you know.

Next time they see each other is going to be monday. With Pete busy working, they can only manage to be together for a couple of hours so they'll be staying in and hopefully carry on from where they left off from this monday gone.
Took Steph for a take last night and we had a chat about the whole situation. She's loving the attention she's getting from the two of us, the sex on demand from me and the prospect of the same from Pete. She did though, lay one rule down. Although she knows I want to know what goes on during their dates, she is only prepared to give me the scantest details. As she said, what they do is private and nothing to do with me. This more dominant and demanding behaviour is a new thing which in all honesty, is a little unnerving. She even put things over to me in such a way yesterday, that I canceled my night out with the lads because she wanted me in to take care of her needs. She knows now that she holds a particular power over me which I find hard to resist.
I really didn't think that a change of this magnitude would happen quite so quickly and I'm having a little trouble keeping up with it but hey, there's no going back now. After the conversation last night, she's left me in no doubt that she's on the build up to a full on sexual relationship with Pete and she's savouring every sweet moment until that time comes round.
So roll on monday, I can't wait.

It can and does happen, I was where your at now and the thing is do ot push it to mush just let things happen at her speed.

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SJB

Nice pace and far more interesting than hearing about a quickie. Look forward to the next update and when they eventually become fully fledged lovers.

Thanks guys.
Pete came down for 11am yesterday morning. They had coffee and a chat and then Steph treated Pete for lunch. When they got back to the house, Pete informed me that they chatted for a while before they went upstairs.
This is the text I got from Pete after he'd left.

Hi. Just left. We had lunch then went to your place. After 30 mins of hedging around and small talk, I just said.... can we go upstairs for a cuddle. We didn't have sex but moved it on a lot. We lay on your bed and snogged and snogged. I fondled her boobs and kissed them. No hickeys allowed. She has a great pair. Anyway, when I left, I said that I wanted to make love to her but would not push. When she felt ready, she just has to say " Ready" and I would respond. She did feel good.

When I got back from work, she was looking very relaxed and happy. As the entire episode is being run at a pace that she feels completely comfortable with, things have gone further and quicker than if any pressure had been applied to power things along.
She's told Pete last night, that their time between the sheets is coming. Once it does, I think there'll be no holding her back. Her confidence is sky high at present and I see no reamister why it shouldn't get any higher.
I've said to her that I'm going to take her to a club one night where I'll go in first and get myself settled by the bar and she can follow on 10 mins later, get herself a take and then wait to be chatted up. I said to her that she'll be inundated with offers to buy her takes all night. It's essentially to prove to her, how attractive she really is, as that's the one thing she's had trouble with in trying to convince herself, that this is the case. Also, it'll give me the opportunity to see her getting into the role of hotwife. Once she got use to me being there, I think she be away. The good thing is, she raised absolutely no objection to the idea. What a difference another man can make.
Anyway, another step closer and another date to arrange.

Nice slow build up here, which I have to say I am enjoying, but it will be nice for all of us when you get your pay-off and we get what we have been waiting for - news that another wife has freed herself from the constraints that society pits on her.

Good luck mantab - we all wish you and Steph well on your journey.

Rotter
Utter_Rotter
Writer and decadent

Tell you what Utter Rotter, that's exactly what I said to Steph a couple of nights ago. Apart from the two previous occasions, she always trod a very narrow path but since she's met Pete, she can't believe how much she's broadened her own horizons. She's never been happier. She said last night that she really can't understand why she's doing all this as it's something she wasn't even prepared to consider 6 months ago but now she feels so elated by it, she isn't going to stop. Now that's music to my ears.

I agree with Utter Rotter, the gentle pace of Steph's seduction is highly erotic. I think mantab should give himself a pat on the back for being supportive and not powering the issue too. We're all here for you mate. Fingers crossed that Pete has his cock in Steph soon and your dream comes true.

......and then where?..............that's got to be one of the attractions also of this entire journey. Who the hell knows what's going to happen next.
Steph has now told me (nicely) that she wants new lingerie for the exclusive use on dates with Pete.
No news on the next date as of yet but, redy 'ell, I hope it's soon.
Keep those fingers crossed for me Carvin and thanks.

I'm very curious hiw this goes on. But the situation has already given me a raging hard-on. TY!

I'm very curious hiw this goes on. But the situation has already given me a raging hard-on. TY!

Thanks Iadoreher,
Got to say I'm pretty intrigued myself. Although it's been going on for a total of 5 months now, I'm still not quite sure that it's actually happening sometimes. It's been a long time since the last fling that Steph had and during that time, I've been beside myself on occasion, hoping that one day she might be tempted to do it again. I'd tried every conceivable argument in favour of her starting a relationship with another man, all to no avail. Now it's happening, I'm not always sure of what I should be doing or saying. It,s a sort of a " no mans land" position so the best I can do is encourage, which obviously isn't hard and stay out of the way so Pete and Steph can really get it together.
Very strange feelings at present but I'm loving it. Certainly no chance of having second thoughts and I know that goes for Steph also.She's not just loving it, she's reveling in it.

Where, ideally, would you like it to go? If you could have your dreams come true?

Hi, i can understand your reamisters for doing this but surely you are pushing 2 people together which in all likely hood could end in them being in love? if she has man giving her everything she needs right now, attention, flowers, nights out etc what are you giving her?

i am not having a go but i permisterally would be struggling to see how this is going to end positively for you? cuckolding and the odd session is one thing but to have someone full wine, dine, essentially building a relationship is not something i would be happy with.

I may have missed the point and as i say i wish you all the luck it sounds like you both have had a difficult time recently but tread with caution...