Why is cuckolding so much more intense than every other fantasy?

There are quite a lot of cuckold relationships in the world. Some start off with an affair but most, at least from all that I’ve read, have started off with a fantasy. But cuckolding becomes so much more than a mere fantasy. It becomes an addiction. A compulsion. An entire lifestyle. One moment men are bringing up the topic on an anonymous forum and then the next moment they are covertly attempting to manipulate their wife into multiple affairs. People risk years (some even decades) of marriage all in the pursuit of their cuckold fantasy. Why? People don’t rearrange their entire lives and risk their marriages in order to fulfill a threesome fantasy.

I used to think that I only enjoyed a little bit of a cuckold fantasy here and there, nothing serious. Nothing I’d act on. I’ve never known why I liked it, I just do. But today something happened. I was out walking my dog and on my way home when a random shirtless guy, right there in the middle of the street, tried to pick a fight with me. For no other reamister than, and this is an assumption, he was angry with someone and wanted to take that anger out on me. I continued walking past him along the street (but was prepared to run) trying not to make eye contact. He backed off and I got home safely. After trying to convince myself otherwise I finally accepted that I simply chickened out. When it comes to fight or flight, I fall into the flight category.

And then something happened I did not expect: I started fantasizing about it, putting a cuckold twist on the whole experience. I found myself desperately wishing that instead of my dog I was out walking with my fiance. The same guy would pick a fight with me and insult my fiance as well. But instead of walking away my fiance would stop and wait, expecting me to stand up for her. But I wouldn’t. I’d cower and plead with her to just ignore him and keep walking.
“Are you kidding me? Aren’t you gonna stand up for me?” she said.
Too scared to talk I remained silent. The guy started laughing.
“Why the fuck are you with this little bitch? You should be with a man who knows how to protect you” he said.
“Seriously? You’re not going to do anything?!? You’re pathetic! Maybe I should be with him.” My fiance turned and ran her hands up over the guy’s chest.
“You look tense, I could help with that”
The guy grabbed her arms and pulled them up around his neck and kissed her passionately. He moved his hands down along her sides, over her hips and squeezed her ass. Taking one hand off her ass he reached up under her shirt and grabbed her breast, she then reached down into his jeans and grabbed his cock and then turned and looked at me and smiled.
“Wow! He’s twice as big as you, and he’s still soft”

And then…ZING! Right there on my couch (I was so into the fantasy I didn’t realise I was jacking off in my living room) I had arguably the most intense orgasm since I first started masturbating. The adrenaline, still running through my body, intensified the orgasm ten fold. Hell, I’d be jacking off again now if I could get it up. Whereas before I never wanted my fiance to actually cheat on me, a large (and growing) part of me is genuinely interested in the idea. I’ve been playing that fantasy over and over in my head, and the only time I stop thinking about it is when I’m thinking up real life situations where my fiance would have the opportunity to cheat on me.

Why can’t I stop thinking about this?

I think there are many reamisters to it, but mainly it is so intense because is such a taboo in our society.

Those taboos come mostly the masochist nature in all us cuckolds that enjoy the "betrayal" and "offense" from our wifes/gfs and a strong enjoyment of voyeurism.

There is some guilty pleasure in all that wickedness that is cuckolding, in that forbidden fruit that goes against all that we grew up being taught, the excitement of exploring the forbidden.

I think the more wicked and taboo a fantasy is, the more intense it gets, maybe just like everything in life.

I had this phase of years between highschool and college that whenever I was coming back home I would fantasy that I would go in and found my mom being fucked by some guy, sometimes a close friend, sometimes some dude I hated and sometimes just some random guy I saw and I thought he would be an adequate bull for my mom. Or whenever my family was at a dinner and my mom disappeared I would imagine she was hiding somewhere giving the waiter a blowjob. Imagine when she came back from the restrooms, I could almost smell the semen on her.

I also had the same sort of cuckolding fantasy with both my best female friend and all my girlfriends, and still do, but they are just not as intense as the one about my mom being fucked by some guy. I think this is because the mom factor is the most taboo of them all, more than a best female friend fucking the guy I hate the most, or my girlfriend cheating on me with the captain of the rival team.

i agree completely with everything Burberry said. also - its the fantasy you cant admit to in the way that you can with other sex fantasies - so there are probably a lot more closet cuckold wannabes than we think

i have told my wife i want her to fuck other guys but i havent told anyone else. whereas with other fantasies i kid around with my fishing and hunting and golfing buddies all the time about fucking scarlett johansmister and other celebrities.

I don't know the answer but it is a strong one. My instinct says it has something to do with another man's large penis but I'm not sure its as simple as latent homosexuality. I still have no strong desire to be with a man, yet with the development of my cuckold fantasy, I've come to grips with the fact that I may someday have some sort of sexual contact with a man in the context of living out my cuckold fantasies. I can say with all honesty, that i do fantasize about men but it is always in the context of them with my wife. I picture her first seeing or touching or tasting another guy and it gets me rock hard. As a thought test ive tried to think what it would be like to be with them and i can only think about the nasty hair and smells and am totally turned off. Yet when i picture my hand around some dudes big cock as i guide him into my wife, i get rock hard. Ok time to get off the couch for now.
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From an evolutionary perspective, probably many men are hardwired to be aroused by this. If someone else is cumming in your partner, there are only 2 tactics that will increase the likelihood that you are not raising another man's kid:
1) eliminate the competition (*******ing or chasing away), or
2) adding your semen into the mix.
Since both will work (although imperfectly), both behaviors would be selected in the population, and we cuckoldplace lounge lizards are the lucky winners in this crazy lottery!

I don't know what it is for sure, but I know that once it happened to me that after I got over the initial anger/jealousy, ALL I could think about was the fucking. Today my mind is totally consumed thinking about those big dicks..especially black ones...fucking our wives. It only gets more intense with time.

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Without a doubt my brain is hardwired to seek the planting of my seed in other men's property. But the part I don't understand is why I want to look hiim right in the eye when I cum, feeling my hips buck as my body instinctively tries to blow my wad as deep into her body as possible.

So, for some reamister, it's not enough to empty my balls into his wife, but I need him to know I'm doing it, and to be helpless to stop me. Also, it doesn't really turn me on if he cleans up, but it does if he fetches my clothes and gets me a take after. Again, imposing my superiority is the turn-on.

I should note that I do not actually want to impregnate another man's wife. But him thinking that's what's going to happen is a huge turn-on. And it's better if the cuck has a tiny dick because I can tell myself he's incapable of getting her pregnant, even though that's obviously not true or from an evolutionary standpoint, we'd all have massive penises after about 50 generations, lol.

Perhaps the answer lies in the nature. It's possible that the pleasure we have as a reward for fuck, really is the prize for helping to preserve our species. That is, maybe the nature rewards us not only for fuck, but for be, direct or indirect, participants of an act that can lead to procreation.

Perhaps the profound cuckold pleasure is the prize that nature give us in reward for facilitating the preservation of our species through the participation of more gifted individuals (which increases, biological, the likelihood of preservation of our species).
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by george i think you're on to something there., - that makes a lot of sense - evolutionarywise that is.,

Answer to your question. Very simple. It's man's primal instinct to replace someone else's sperm in a woman, and so the excited state of te male becomes even higher. If you have a quiet life, you expect nothing, and nothing happens. If you have a life that needs protection, you protect. It's a male chemical reaction to a very primal instinct. We as people, just 'label' it. Get back to nature and you'll understand why!
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Your story is definitely a turn on (as a fantasy), and it would be such intense offense to have one's wife or fiancee taken at whim by a stronger male, and have to live with that shame of being exposed in front of the woman you love.

Thank you, Like2wacher66.

Complementing the idea ...

It's believed that porn fans are more likely to accept and even crave or practice the cuckold lifestyle. This could be because we have seen, in porn, many males sexually superior.

Recognized our "inferiority," something in our brain prompts us to make us aside in the breed competition, to allow more gifted individuals to inseminate females. In this way, nature deprives us of the pleasure of procreation, but gives us, in return, the pleasure of being cuckold.

This idea would also explain the tendency of the typical cuckold, to submit himself to the desires and pleasures of the female and the "real" male, protagonists of procreation and, therefore, deserve the top prize.

On the other hand, there is the theory of sperm competition as the true explanation cuckold pleasure. However, that theory has things that do not make sense. For example, if there is much pleasure in "replace" the sperm of others, why many of the cuckolds not feel any urge to fuck the female once it has been fucked by another? So, pleasure is not to replace the sperm of a male best equipped, but tolerate and facilitate better endowed males are the ones who impregnate females ... I guess.
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Thanks to all of you, I have enjoyed this message thread a great deal.