Shot down in flames

Well,I brought up the subject again with my wife when we got back in on friday evening,thinking that I was possibly on the verge of finally persuading her to drop her guard and finally get herself a boyfriend.The last time we spoke about it,her answer to me was"maybe" after which she fucked the life out of me.I'd never known her so hot and wet,so I knew I'd hit the right chord.
Imagine my frustration when I realised that she'd backtracked on everything that we had talked about especially given what she's done in the past when somebody has taken her interest and the whole thing has been nurtured to a healthy,very physical relationship.
Little bit deflated at the moment but I'm sure that there must be a few of you out there who've been in a very similar position to this.How did you get back on the road to success.

Thanks in anticipation

lv mail here for "jamesriske" he has some sage advice on how to go about this.

Mantab,

I have been there oh so many times and as far as I know, nothing has happened. I ask her to pretend she is with another man while we have sex and she goes wild and has strong orgasms. But once its over, its over.

At least the sex is great.

it takes time hang in there go back in forth with it.palm coast couple is right. keep making the roll playing exciting. i thought it would never happen but it has.
CAREFULL WHAT YOU WISH FOR FANISY AND REALITY
VERY DIFFERENT
mmmm

Mantab, this behaviour is quite common. Women have fantasies too, in fact, perhaps more than men because we tend to be so literal and voyeuristic while they get their imagination working more than we do. I had this behaviour with most of my g/fs that I tried to engourage into swinging but finally failed. Most women for examole have female-female fantasies but very few can be pushed into actually having an ff session.
If you both get horny with the idea of another man shafting her, why change things? The point is to get that extra "stinging" thrill is it not? If you are getting that via imagination, enjoy it as it is for as long as it lasts. When/if it goes stale, then look for more perhaps. Remember that whatever you do you will never be 100% satisfied and will always want more. It works like that and you can never go back to what you had before. Get her to tell you about past lovers she had and for you to imitate what they did with her. You lucky dog ! you have such a willing playmate all to yourself.

Thanks to all who've answered .It’s been very much appreciated.
I planned on taking the patient route but bringing up the subject on a slightly more frequent basis .I hadn't been able to talk about it with her for quite some time as her confidence had taken a huge knock due to a medical condition which ,hopefully ,is now on the wane.
The one thing that beats me though is that given the right opportunity and temptation ,she has been very happy to have been an enthusiastic participant to fuck around behind my back but when given the green light to go ahead with my full blessing ,there is a flat refusal.
I’m convinced that it’s just a matter of her feeling guilty and this is the part I’m trying to work on at the moment ,turning that guilt into something she can enjoy ,in telling me what happened.
I've been fortunate enough to have witnessed her with two other men ,at different times I might add ,both of which gave her hours of pleasure .She never knew that I'd seen her ,although I have confessed to knowing about certain clandestine meetings and asked her if she would consider getting a boyfriend .The answer to this was a very definite "No" .Within a few months of this request though ,she was climbing into bed with the same bloke with whom I was hoping would be the one. In saying that ,I know she would have put up an awful lot of resistance but he was a very persuasive chap .Just a pity he’s not around any more.
The point brought up about the difference between fantasy and reality is one that doesn’t really trouble me in as much that in my case ,it was the reality which came first .Those first sightings of my wife being fondled by some other man sparked years of fantasy which have never subsided.
The two men involved ,both had their own attributes which my wife should have found very tempting to be able to turn her back on our marriage(engagement in the case of Dave) and go off with either of them .She becomes interested when there is charm ,humour ,good manners and a basic common courtesy .Both had these in abundance as well as financial security and of course ,certainly in Daves case ,a huge cock and a sex drive to match.
The other bloke ,did actually ask her to leave me and move in with him to which she refused .This is what brought a speedy end to their relationship although he did persist in trying to entice her back into his bed for the few months following.

Anyhow ,once again ,thanks for replying and if I make any progress over the next few weeks ,months ,years ,you’ll be the fist to know.


Cheers

oops! Maybe that should've read "first"