Berserker
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We're her to have fun and I don't want to get too serious here, but there are some intelligent people on this board with experience in this lifestyle, so I'd like to get some input on this question. I figure the wives on this board will have some good insights here, but I'd also like to hear it if the cucks and bulls have anything to say.
It seems clear that a big part of the experience and fantasy for many is the offense aspect of having another man fucking and taking your wife or girlfriend. For the bulls, too, the forbidden fruit aspect is a big part of the experience.
The question is, how far do you take it? I have had some experiences that have made me reflect and conclude that what is desired is not a true offense, but a 'fantasy offense' in a situation that all involved parties realize does not extend beyond the walls of the bedroom.
Permisterally, I discovered a fair few years ago that I very much enjoyed taken women. Indeed, it excited me to the level where it is, well, probably almost pathological. I've never done internet dating or contacted people online, so most women I relax with is through nightclubs or through social circle (more people are into this stuff than one would be likely to think). In most cases I guess the guy didn't know, but there have been 4 couples where both were participating.
About a year ago I was visiting Sydney. I had been relaxing with a woman in her early twenties for a few months, every time she had flown into Queensland on business. At this point I was gonna go to the apartment she shared with her fiance and he would get to watch for the first time. He was sitting on a chair while we were having sex. As I was fucking her doggystyle I could see he was nervous and disturbed by the situation. If she moaned loudly or I talked dirty to her, it visibly bothered him.
I had a feeling of what was wrong, so I pulled her hair so she lifted her head and whispered in her ear to tell him she loved him. She turned to her partner, smiled and said "I love you so much baby. Thank you for letting me do this". I observed with interest that he smiled with what looked like relief and relaxed his body language for the first time. After this he seemed to be able to start enjoying watching. I could also take the sex further with regards to dominance. At one point he even started asking if it felt good and so on. When we finished we had some takes with me sitting on a chair and the two of them in a couch, after which I left.
Interestingly, after this he seemed to allow himself to get more and more into the cuckold fantasy aspect of it. When she visited me she would now call him on her cell phone while she was sitting on top of me, telling me how badly she got fucked and how big my cock was compared to him (which is bullcuckolds brownie, my cock is completely average for a white guy, he is if anything larger).
The point is, it seems clear that the couple need to feel secure in the emotional monogamy of the relationship before the sexual fantasy of cuckoldry can be enjoyed. This applies for the woman as well as the man in many cases. Does this ring true with the hotwives here?
I have at times been amazed with this dichotomy of the mind. At least in women there seems to be no correlation between sexual fedility and emotional commitment to their man. A young married corporate woman I know will come over to my place in her lunch break. I'll tear her panties off, spank her and fuck her on my kitchen table and come on her face. If hubby is listening on the phone his little princess will scream and moan and make fun of his sexual provess. Yet, when sex is over she never has a bad word to say about him and is deeply committed to him.
After this, especially if I know the couple is new to this lifestyle, I will make a point out of encouraging the woman to letting the guy know she is committed to the relationship, this is just a sexual fantasy and maybe even expressing gratitude to him for being understanding and letting her have these experiences. This puts him at ease and allows him to feel secure in the relationship, so now he can get into the fantasy too. As time passes you can take it further and further, but there is always an underlying understanding that I am never a threat to the relationship, no matter how much I take her sexually.
Indeed, I have been amazed that some of these couples have become friends of mine. I have even gone travelling with one couple and some other friends.
As I said, I'd love to get some input on this from some of the experienced people in here, especially the wives. Does this ring true to you? Do you have rules on this? Can your partner veto any encounter?
Cheers
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