Fucking with the BULL......

Agreed, once emotions are involved its time to drop him. My wife and I live strickly by this rule.

Any chance of you uploading the videos you have of your wife with her lovers?
Pics would be nice.

So long as your wife remains in control, I don't believe that the increased "intimacy" on the part of your wife's boyfriend will undo your marriage. It may simply be a case where the stud believes that your wife and/or himself may get more pleasure out of increased intimacy.

Since the sessions are video taped, I presume that the boyfriend is aware of the fact that you are "out of the closet" as far as being a cuck is concerned. Therefore, he probably has the atypical attitude of most bulls, he loves fucking a hot wife, so long as she is married to someone else.

One final thought, is your wife the only one that this guy is fucking? No? How can she and/or you know for sure? If your wife tells him to hit the road, she will miss out on all that amazing sex while he simply moves on to someone else's wife.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!