strandhotwife83
Member
Posts: 11
|
After several years of convincing my 23y.o. fiance to take on a lover on the side it finally happened. I chatted online with him for many months and finally invited him over to stay the weekend. The first night everyone drank too much but I convinced her to join him in the guest bedroom. I had placed a baby monitor under the bed before her arrived so I could hear any of the exciting noises I had anticipated. Needless to say I was not dissapointed. While things may have been ackward between them at first, by the sounds of her moaning and heavy breathing, he was definately pleasuring her. The next mornning she got up and went to work while me and him went out for breakfast and chatted. We were not sure if this was going to continue or if it happened because she was takes. He kept telling me how he loved her body and what a great fuck she is. Later thet day she comes home from work and showers and cleans up. It's Sunday evening and her recent lover is going to have to leave soon. I suggest she go in the spare room with him to help him gather his things and to look at a new vibrator we had bought for her that day. Well, she tells him to shut the door and for the next hour and a half I'm j/o while listening to her moans and whimpers of pleasure as this guy is eating, toying, and fucking her little pussy for all its worth. When they finish he comments about her being sweaty and she says she can't help it it is because he is good. So she comes out of the bedroom with a big grin on her face while he is packing his bag. She walks over to me in the kitchen and kisses me on the cheek and whispers in my ear.. " I think we found a dirty borfriend" (thats what she calls a fuck buddy). Well we talk about it and everyone had a good time so we arrange for him to meet at a hotel half way between our houses the following thursday. I take her shopping and buy her a sexy outfit with stockings and all so she would feel sexy and he would love the way she looked. I sent her with a camera and she was with him for about two hours. He again toyed her pussy and ate her and at one time she said she layed ther while he licked her all over including her ass. Well, long story short, he fucked her thouroughly and I have pics of her swollen red pussy to prove it. Now here is my problem. AQbout a week later and he is calling her and I had her the phone and she hangs up without answering. I asked why she did that and she says she doesnt want to see him anymore. What is going on here? I don't want several years of me convincing her this is what we want to go down the drain. Anyone else have this problem? She even admitted he was a good fuck. |
MrsBlackBlowupDoll
Member
Posts: 1289
|
This is not really surprising. She could be feeling guilty as you speculate, or he could have offended her in some way, as Tekman99 suggests. It could also be that it was just moving too fast. She might be willing to get together now and then, but weekly contact was pushing too hard.
Cuckolding is a very emotionally freighted fetish for both people in the relationship. It is a counterintuitive way to behave towards those you love and flies in the face of everything we are taught about being a good permister. It is easy to start feeling bad about yourself for indulging in it � like there is something wrong with you. That is as true for the female as the male. She may like to feel a bit naughty, but if she starts looking in the mirror and seeing someone she thinks is a skank, she is going to stop.
In addition, part of the thrill is the �pressure� on the real relationship � but that can be scary. In my experience, women in particular need to feel �safe� about their primary relationship to really relax into this lifestyle. You guys aren�t even married, so she may not feel her moorings to you are as fast as she�d like. Having some guy over and doing him while you listen is one thing, carrying on an ongoing motel affair is another. In part it may be the difference between something you do as a couple and something she does on her own; in part it may be the difference between an occasional splurge and a steady diet. She may be willing to cuckold for fun now and then, but is worried about it coming to dominate your relationship. She doesn�t want to risk changing the great thing she feels you two have now. (That was the case with my own wife for years.)
I recommend an informational � that is, no suggestions, or lobbying on your part � conversation. Ask her if she is all done with whatishisname and take it from there. Don�t push, time for you listening s*******s. Let her open up and you�ll know better what the issue is. No cuckold relationship can work if the woman isn�t free to veto who and when she�ll do the cuckolding with, so make sure your tone and manner communicate clearly that you regard that as her prerogative and you are indifferent to whether she has this guy again. (After all, the two of you are the real life thing, and he�s just a minor entertainment sideshow to you both � this is the message she most needs to hear.) The thing you want to know, and I suspect she�ll understand this, is whether she is still open to cuckolding again period � with guys to be named later.
The trick of being a guy who wants his girl to cuckold him is that it is a bit of topping from below. You want to make sure they feel safe doing it, and communicate that you really like it, and try to excite their greedy self-interest, but don�t push or demand, because it will never work if they are doing it against their better judgment because they are obligate in some manner.
You�re young; you�ve got you whole life ahead of you. Don�t rush; just make sure she is comfortable and open to trying again.
Good luck.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.
|
