I want my wife to date

Hi everyone.

It is hard for me to tell the differance between the fantasy world bullsh*t and real people here as I am sure it is for everyone. Please note I am and my situation is very real. I would appreciate thoughtful and sincere
responses.

A little about me. Chronic mastubator, loves kink porn, erotica movies pics you name it I enjoy it with very few limits. but I have a hard time imagining the blend between real life and a kinky life blending. 99% of the time I would rather masturbate and watch football for an afternoon then fuck.

A little about my wife. Enjoys sex but has little or zero exposure to any kinky and forbidden except to laught at news sotries and such. I don't think she is oppeosed the expending our horizons I just the she doesnt really understands how to expand it and maintain a normal feeling about everyday life. I sort of have the same problem.

My wife and I have been married for 3+ years and have two very young youngren. When we met we were friends with benefits and developed into more. In the beginning our sex life was above average but nothing spectacular. As is the case in a lot of marriages out sex life has dwindled. We did have one hot spell about two months ago when we sent the kids to grandma's. part of what spurred that hot weekend was being caught by her looking at a website that was very very taboo(most of which was off limits and probably best left as fantasy anyway) and no it wasn't cuckoling. Anyway despite her anger at the time we were able to have a decent chat about how my mind works and I can be very easily aroused by a lot of diffrant taboos and kinks. A real dialouge was at least tapped.

Since then we have touched on my OK-ing her to be with other men. Mostly in a joking way but with enough sincerity for her to hopefully know it is ok.

Last weekend she went to a bacherlorette party and there was a black make stripper scheduled. A few jokes back and forth prior but I was not expecting much. When she called the next morning I asked her in a half serious manner about the dancer and she offered a detail or two but could tell everything. he had a big dick, she got to stroke him, she enjoyed I but it was wierd because of the other girls. I jerk off three time before she got home.

Yummy.

But since being back to the day to day life and a screwey schedule then normal we have not been able to really follow up. She is going away this weekend with friends yet again. During hugs and kissed goodbye I mentioned I was dissappointed not to hear more details about the dancer. She smiled and said who knows when she gets back she might have another story to tell.

Yummy.

I am hoping dating, and cuckolding are things we can add to our sex lives. Any advice or anecodotes, suggestions I would be very interested to read.

If there is anyone that could summerize all aspects cuckoldling and wifes that date I would love it. I am struggling for a way to explain the domme/sub aspect, the enjoying the offense, the enjoyment in her pleausure, the power of knowing I put her pleasure above my own jealousy. Or even if there is a way without as much of a domme/sub aspect if it just more of a a dating thing without the power play.

I would love to share a less sexual and more informative information with her.
Its me Tony. So if you think you are the man from Shannons past. I miss what we had! I hope your still seeing her and not missing a thing!

We started out the same way, pervy...takes a while for the idea to sink in with most women, and it stirs up quite a few questions we never thought we'd have to be asking...is hubby gay? does he want someone else too? am I just not satisfying to him? Is it real or best left as his fantasy? My advice is lots of communication and go slow at first before anyone does anything you might both regret.

This is something I'm still talking over with my wife. It's not necessarily difficult to talk about for us but getting it to the next steps is still slow. A bit about us. We are in our mid-30's and have a great, loving relationship.

I recently told my wife about how I was once cuckolded and the powerful reactions it stirred in me. The story goes like this. I was about 20 and my girlfriend was a couple of years older. We had sex a lot, almost every day and a couple of times a day whenever time permitted. She loved being on top, doggy, and lots of other positions but was always a little uncomfortable with me on top, so we never did that. She expressed some interest in a threesome involving one of my male friends. I was up for anything with her and have always been a bit kinky so I agreed.

We met at my friend's apartment one evening and I encouraged my nervous girlfriend to kiss my friend in front of me. One thing led to another and soon my friend and I were double-teaming my girlfriend. After a while I needed to take a break. I got up, left the room, and went to the kitchen for a glass of water. Feeling refreshed I went back to the bedroom...and froze in the doorway. My friend had my girlfriend's ankles on his shoulders. He was on top of her, pounding away...HARD. But, I thought, she doesn't like men on top of her. She'll get him to stop. But she didn't. I got a little closer and I could see the look on her face. She had that dazed look. She was either cumming or she had just cum or she was about to cum. It didn't matter. She was completely submitting to him. In total bliss. He was taking her right in front of me, in ways I couldn't take her, and she was loving it. I felt sick. I wanted to cry out 'NO!!!!'. But I was afraid of what she'd say. Would she just tell me to go away until she was finished? Would she even hear me? I was cuckolded. What started as a threesome had become this guy having his way, however he wanted, with my girlfriend. I was too afraid to speak. I said nothing and backed out of the room. I waited a few more minutes before coming back and by that time they were finished. My girlfriend was completely spent, already arelax. My friend was nuzzled against her.

That night wasn't the only night my girlfriend slept with other men, although it was the only time I was present. She really got off more on the idea of cheating on me and kept most of those encounters to herself. I found out about them after we broke up. The thought of that night still turns me on, and the pain from that offense is still very acute. But it's a wonderful pain. A pain coming from seeing your wife or girlfriend receive pleasure. It's painful because I love this woman who's getting fucked, not because I don't care. So, pervyperv, I had an experience in my past which allowed me to bring up these feelings to my wife. I hope this helps you clarify your desires with your wife.

I think, as others have said, that communication is important. Explaining to your wife that this comes from a desire to see her receive pleasure is key. Also, letting her know that your love for her is safe, regardless what she does, is also key. My wife is going away on a business trip this week. I've bought a hotwife ankle bracelet for her and I've asked her to wear it out at restaurants and bars. I'm hoping something will happen but I just don't know if she's ready yet. We'll keep talking, more about her fantasies now instead of mine. Hopefully, some day soon.

Sorry, rereading your post I don't think I really gave you what you were looking for. And, I'm not sure a summary of ALL the aspects of cuckolding is really helpful. I'm not into every aspect of cuckolding and, if you think about it, you probably aren't either. I have specific turn-ons from it, that pleasurable *** from seeing my girlfriend really give in to another man. Yours might be different or the same but I doubt you are really interested in all of cuckolding? Maybe it would be best to discuss with your wife what, really specifically, turns you on.