Anyone else love the spare room thing?

I don't how you manage that. My wife and I are kicking around the "Hubby in the guest room" scenario once she locates the right guy. But it will just be for the few hours that he's here... or perhaps the entire night eventually.

But s1eeping together is what keeps our marital bond strong, and the pillow talk in bed is also where we share a lot of our fantasies... cook up scenes we want to try... and basically just keep our connection vibrant. She won't even consider s1eeping alone, ever. She enjoys the sex with other guys, but she absolutely needs the intimacy and physical contact she gets with me... and I probably do too, LOL.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

SheDatesHeWaits,

I certainly understand your rationale for staying in the same bed with your spouse. You definitely have a much different relationship than we do.

For us, soon after we were married, it all kind of started out as a teasing D/s thing, then a cross-dressing thing, then a sissy thing, then a humi1iation thing, then a denial thing, then a cuckold thing, then a homosexual thing, and on and on. But about 5 years into our marriage and during one of our 'things', we decided that I was not man enough to share the Master Bedroom with her. Her ex-husband was involved in that decision. That is how the spare bedroom 'thing' started and it stuck ever since. Early on while we were dating and when we were married we were not very intimate and after a few years we both agreed that her sex life was not going to be part of our marriage and that I would be permanently denied. My spouse knows that I much prefer jacking-off to having sex with a woman and that I prefer Cock over pussy. I now exclusively and proudly look at only gay porn.

We are a loving couple, we hold hands, take walks, enjoy vacations together, snuggle on the couch, go fishing, etc. We appear like any other married couple. We just happen to have chosen to not be sexually intimate. All of our 'couple talk' takes place outside of the bedroom.

So, I do understand your marital relationship. But for us, we have something that has worked for over 25 years. We must be doing something right.

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No doubt you are doing everything right, and you two have something that works perfectly for you both. I certainly didn't mean to imply otherwise.

I understand the part about your not having sexual relations... but do you and your wife not miss just the pure intimacy of going to bed together, s1eeping side by side, being able to reach out and hold each other during the night, etc?
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

We ***** is separate bedrooms but she does not like fucking another guy knowing I am present. It's just her thing and that's the way it is.

I know that you meant nothing by your question other than curiosity. I was just trying to provide some perspective of our marriage and how it relates to me s1eeping in the spare bedroom. I appreciate your interest.


For us, there really is nothing to miss when it comes to s1eeping together. You talk about 'the pure intimacy of going to bed together'. I assume that you and your wife experience that level of intimacy because you are in fact intimate with one another and still having regular sex. There is no sex between us so we don't share the type of intimacy that would draw us to spend time together in a bed.

For me, it's always been about the submissi0n, degradation, and humi1iation. My spouse knew this very early in our dating. While we were dating and well into our marriage, my spouse and her ex-husband spend a lot of time together. They always were and continue to be truly intimate. In bed, they share the type of intimacy and love that you describe. Yes, they are definitely in love with each other and always have been. Unfortunately for them, they have proven and they both know that they cannot live together as a married couple. They drive each other crazy when it comes to living together. However, for the sake of maintaining a logical pecking order, we all refer to them as 'husband and wife' because they share the marital bed. I am the spouse because I share the marriage license with her. The thing that keeps them together is the sex and the intimacy. In contrast, my spouse and I are totally in love and compatible in all of the aspects of marriage except for the sex and bedroom intimacy.

While we were dating, my spouse's ex-husband expressed his concerns to me about me having sex with his ex-wife. The three of us talked about it and agreed that I would wait until we were married to s1eep with her. That is really where it all started, because during the 4 years that we dated, it just became well established that he would be sharing the bed with her and that I would not. It naturally carried on into our marriage. I was very OK with it because he and I were quite close and he was definitely the Alpha Male in the marriage. It helped that he and I became close friends during college, long before he met my spouse. So for us, the whole cuckolding thing has become our Marital Lifestyle.

While we were in college, her ex learned that I was bi. Early in our marriage, I openly expressed my interest in actively pursuing my bi tendencies. My spouse and her ex encouraged me to view gay porn whenever I played with myself. So I did ... a lot. Every time I would jerk-off I would look at naked Men and gay sex. Well by golly, I really enjoyed it. I mean, I REALLY enjoyed looking at and fantasizing about Men and Cocks. It didn't take me long to realize that I am a homosexual. Not bi, but a card carrying homosexual. My spouse is very proud of me for being able to openly admit that I am a homosexual and she accepts me for who I am. Her ex-husband was ecstatic by my admission and I was relieved to come to grips with my sexual orientation.

So, coming back to the whole bedroom thing, for my spouse and me, s1eeping in the same bed is quite awkward and uncomfortable. Several years ago while we were on vacation we stayed at a bed-n-breakfast for several days. We both panicked when we entered the room and found a single queen bed. We said 'what the heck', we can certainly s1eep in the same bed for just a few days, right? Wrong! When we laid down in the bed on the first night, we experienced what probably was the most uncomfortable moment in our 25+ year marriage. Even though she's my spouse, she's still a female first. The combination of her being a female and me being a homosexual makes for an awkward mixture in a bed, like mixing oil and water. Within 10 minutes I got out of the bed and set myself up on the floor.

I didn't intend to get quite this winded but I wanted to give you a bit of history of how we got to where we are in our cuckold marriage. All of our hand-holding, cuddling, sharing, etc. takes place outside of the bedroom.


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mwfslutforbm Quite interesting. Thanks for sharing that detail. I see where you're coming from now. Based on what you said, it also sounds like you don't get the typical thrill most cuckolds do from their wife having sex with another man. I mean, you obviously prefer your arrangement. But it sounds like thoughts of her being with him doesn't necessarily arouse you, and you don't get the traditional "cuckold angst", or have any desire to reclaim your wife when she returns.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Ian Meraz

Good to get a further update on Jayne's extra marital fucking. As you're aware, I've been following Jayne's activities for a while now. The offer to fuck her still stands, in or out of your spare room!

I like the "spare room" idea in that it allows me to have a place to bring one of my crossdresser boyfriends home to spend the night. My wife loves to watch and listen to us.
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That seems like good idea. I believe after establishing the trust all involved Cuckold Hubby, Wife,
and Alpha Male Bull. All would feel comfortable of wife being alone with older Alpha Male lover.

Does anyone have any links to stories where the husband has been moved to the spare room??

Whenever the spouse's lover or boyfriend spends the night at her home, the cuckold hubby should always relinquish the Master Bedroom. It's convenient if the hubby has the spare bedroom set-up for himself so as to never have to disturb the loving couple. Plus, when the lover or boyfriend sees that the hubby has his own room, the Man gains a level or reassurance and confidence that the hubby is supportive of them making love and s1eeping together. If their relationship becomes a bit more long term, then it's fascinating to watch as the Man begins to fully realize that He is replacing the hubby in the bedroom and as the sexual provider to the spouse. For me personally, I enjoy the humiliati0n when the Man fully realizes that my spouse and I don't ever s1eep together and that we do not have sex.


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At the beginning of the last year of our marriage, my ex kicked me out of her bed. She allowed
me to put a cot on the floor. After about a month of this, she tired of my whining to get in bed
with her and my snoring, so she told me to put the cot in the bathroom. There was a spare bedroom
upstairs, but she wanted me nearby in case she needed something in the middle of the night.

It was quite demeaning to be woken by the bathroom light and her walking over me to sit on
the toilet. She never flushed, by the way.

When she started to openly have lovers over for the night, I was ordered to retire upstairs, not in
the spare bedroom, but the spare bathroom. I should have stuck up for myself, but I didn't. Such
a wimp.

Whenever my first wife's boyfriend, who was about 10 years older than us, spent the night, I had to s1eep in the spare bedroom. For some reason he thought I was gay and didn't want to me to be near him while he was naked. I would press my ear up to the wall, trying to discern every single sound they made in the master bedroom, feverishly jerking off to mental images of them locked in sexual union.

In spite of the humi1iation of being relegated to the spare bedroom, I completely got off on it. Unfortunately, I was only able to experience it over a span of a couple months. My wife ended up getting pregnant by her boyfriend and left me for him.
~*jamie*~

I personally have kicked my husband into a spare bedroom, couldnt stand his whinning..plus when my lover was there and he watched it was distracting.now I have a baby monitor so I dont have to be bothered or when I am at my boy friends place I sometimes let hear or watch from my phone..Especially when boy friend laughs at him..

@Linda38DD

Genius use of a baby monitor! Some of them have video capability. Would that be too generous for your husband?

When you use your cell phone at your boyfriend's place, do you make sure hubby mutes his mouthpiece so you can't hear him panting and whacking? =P
~*jamie*~

Hello Billy and other cuckolding couples,
I will be interested in being in relationship with couples who like older man fucking the wife
in other room at their home or motel room next to husbands.
Any people living in and near Jacksonville, Florida area?
Granddad Nel

Spare rooms and guest rooms are for cuckold hubbies.

The Master Bedroom is for the wife and her Lover.

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Four months into our marriage I was permanently sent to the spare room. That was even befor we started our cuckold life

Billy Kellard
Hello all generally agreeable to Billy's
Spare room ideas.
I'd love to meet with a cuckold couple
locally in Jacksonville, FL area.
Love the idea of cuck husband in another bed or living room sofa.
And his wife and I fucking in another room like master bedroom.
Granddad Nel

Whereabouts on Jacksonville? We're in the area of I-295 and I-10.

My spouse and I don't share a bed. I've been in the prissy pink spare room for over 30 years. I'm sub, sissy, and gay and don't get in the way. Would be nice to have a mature Real Man around the house to take care of the Mrs. and severely degrad_e and humiliate_e me. My wife loves seeing a Real Man mercilessly put me in my weak pathetic place.


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I almost always have to stay in the spare bedroom which is next to our marriage bedroom. I can hear everything.