TinyCockWimpBlokes looking at the classifieds are usually there for a reason. Most are in between relationships Some are just socially undateable (a lot of women are too, but men will look past that if they are attractiive) And a good proportion are cheating. A dead give away is sporadic communication, Hidden whatsapp status (so you dont know if they are on or not.)
Probably best to stay away from guys who advertise themselves as bulls or doms. I have rarely meet one who isnt an ****** or dominant in any way. Being rude isnt a dominant outlier either, it's just an asshole indicator, as is some self described Alpha.
I use swinger websites, some fetsih ones and weed out what i want. Lay it all out to them and let them decide. also worth meeting up with them before hand for just a chat.
I've made quite a few friends now so have and active bunch of like minded people who i know will be reliable, can hold a conversation and will be the sort you'd be happy to have over.