LOve that caption of your wife finding a balck lover, you being outed and her leaving you for BBC! Very hot!
 Coomunication is teh key here to start. It looks as if you are doing that so continue it. For example, encourage her to rate athletic young black guys when tehy are on teh TV and when you are in public -buy hera  balck dildo and use it in bedroom games (name it to make it more permisteral, like Leroy or Tyrone). 
 Gentle encoaurgement and not to hardcore is teh way forward. She is hot and maybe you could mention that to her and add that most young black guys love marraied older white women! 
 good luck and I loving your posts so far 
