Serious Question regarding fantasy vs realistic perception

I almost exclusively watch interracial porn and I find the IR/Cuckold porn especially stimulating. I even fantasize about dating a girl and seeing her with someone else in either an IR or Cuckold context or both.

Weird thing is, there's a girl I really care about and I know she fantasizes about black men. She's white. Never dated a black guy but has slept with one. She told me about it and it turned me on. But the more I thought about it I felt a turned off. I'm not one of those racists who are in the closet about loving IR porn. I'm a minority myself. I just want to know if anyone else has felt like this.
I don't know why it bothers me that she fetishizes black men. It's like, I love all women and I don't typically gravitate towards the blonde big boob type, so I guess it bothers me when white women (or any color woman for that matter) buy into the stereotype of the Black man.
I realize how this all sounds contradictory but I'm talking about separation between fantasy and reality.

I welcome any intelligent thoughts on this matter. Of course it gets me off but in the end it makes me think of her as shallow.

fantasy and reality are two very different things! Never forget that!

I think the fact is that the black stud as represented in IR porn, sexual fantasy, and some of my stories, is just an imaginary archetype that represents sexual potency and contrast: contrast both to the white woman who might fantasize about the black male or be depicted having sex with him, and contrast to the white male who may be the woman's husband or may just get a thrill from watching a woman have sex with someone who is very different to him. After all, if she likes black men and you are white, then she doesn't want you. It's a very simple short hand for sexual offense.

When you try to think about an IR scenario featuring a black male you actually know, it tends to break down. This is because black men are human beings who can never live up to the super-sexual imaginary archetype. It isn't just a matter of black dick being bigger then white being a myth; it's a matter of the imaginary black stud not really being a fully rendered entity at all.

So I would say that IR porn or sexual fantasies are appealing to white women because they promise the experience of being totally intimate with someone different who she imagines to be super-sexual or super-masculine, and they are appealing to white men who want to feel excluded and enjoy that sense of frustration.

The fact is that most people would find the whole thing disappointing if they tried to fulfill their IR fantasy.

Just my thoughts.

Thanks for the feedback. I'm just having problem with my own blatant hypocrisy. I just find that when people in their real lives buy into racial preferences I am a bit turned off as it is textbook racism. Nothing wrong with it in the fantasy world, as it is a place built on primal emotion, but I just get bothered with media's stubborn portrayal of stereotypes.