what do I do?

prolly don't power that as he may not be that into it at this point (if ever). just be happy that he is fucking that hot blond wife of yours and you get to watch occassionaly and she tells you about it as well.

in the past, i knew that this hot fuckin wife I was destroying in her home with her hubby there was telling him everything that was happening and then he would eat her out after I finished BUT in their bedroom not in front of me. i could discuss things with her that I didn't acknowledge in front of the hubby. i really could never bring myself to allow hubby to touch me while i fucked his wife or she sucked my dick, but I do (in hindsight) think that was wut he wanted but he just stayed behind the scenes and videotaped and watched from a distance waiting for me to finish with wifey and then she would go into there bedroom and he would get off on the blow-by-blow recount of what we had just done and he'd eat her out and beat off.

all that said just don't push it, it aint for everyone and you don't want to rock the boat with her (and him) by getting cuckolds browniety cuz he may not want to play like that (right now anyway).

Just my thoughts....