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Jennifer Allen
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 15:36:50
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There's a guy at our health club who's hitting on me. He's cute and pleasant. I could easily do it with him.
The problem is he's married.
Is it okay to date married men?
I don't want to be a home wrecker. I would hate to be responsible for breaking up a marriage, especially if there were kids involved.
Matt thinks it's safer. He's afraid single men might become emotionally attached to me and want a serious relationship, maybe even marriage. He doesn't want our own marriage destroyed.
With Brad we found the perfect situation. A single man married to his job. We were lucky. We know that's rare.
Brad agrees with Matt. He thinks married men are safer. His suggestion is only date married men that make the first overture. If their marriage has trouble, it's not my fault, that marriage is already in trouble.
He knows me and knows I won't date a guy until we have become well acquainted. He thinks I should have ample opportunity to find out about the existence of kids.
We all agree that having kids automatically excludes a guy from consideration.
I would love to hear your opinions.
Jenn
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wifedateshubwaits
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 16:03:20
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Jennifer,
Thanks for telling your story in your other post.
My wife has been with many men over the course of our marriage, but she and I prefer her to see married men. We both feel there is less chance of them getting involved and they are able to be comfortable with the no strings aspect of dating my wife.
Although you may be thinking of disclosing Matt's cuck status to your lovers, my wife prefers to tell them she is a cheating wife. She likes the illicit nature of her "affairs" and although I do help her get dressed for her dates and clean up when she gets home, I don't participate. This type of relationship has worked great for us and we are as much in love today as the day we married.
Congratulations on joining the lifestyle!
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dblue
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 16:06:29
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If he has no kids he's fair game. You didn't make a vow to his wife.
And the risk of married men becoming attached is almost the same as single guys. When my lady has played around she's had both try to become attached - and also had both be happy to be distant.
It's the dude, not the ring on his finger that makes the difference.
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Ms Lynne and hub
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 17:43:50
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First, let us see we really enjoyed the story of your adventures. Bravo
I suppose by posting here, you already know the answer you want to hear..ie: "go ahead and play with him"
Our take is a little different. We try to live by the Golden Rule. We don't want our play to come at the price of hurting an innocent party..and cheating, even when they don't get caught, is hurtful to that other persons relationship....diminishing them with each lie and half-truth. For us, play with married people only happens when the spouse is in the loop.
I guess its a question of whether we believe we are "our brother's keeper"....whatever side of that equation you come down on, is probably where you will settle on this score.
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chrissy
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 17:51:39
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I only fuck married men. It's just my thing but I like the idea of fucking someones husband. Currently seeing a hi class lawyer that wines and dines me, he says his wife wont dress up and play like I do.
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maddoug
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 19:39:21
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Hi Jenn,
What I think is that it depends on the guy. I do think guys with kids should be off limits. But really, if he's hitting on you, either he's on his way out of the marriage, or he thinks, rightly or wrongly, that it'll be okay with his wife. Feelings may arise regardless, single or married. But there are plenty of guys who want no strings sex.
When it comes to attachment, it takes two to tango. As long as you fully love Matt, you can call an end to things. He may even find it exciting for you to have real feelings for a lover (it sounds like you do for Brad). So there's no easy answer.
Maddoug
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wilkeath
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 20:04:04
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My wife loves cheating men....it's part of her kink--like Chrissy. She's not looking to be a homewrecker, and so far so good--but I don't she cares that much(again, assuming no kids). And though they sometimes get attached, she's totally devoted to me--we use cucking as fantasy fulfillment, it makes OUR sex hotter--so, she leaves some happy married fellas here and there round these texas parts. 
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Sa Tyr
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 22:37:07
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Do I detect a bit of biggotry here? It is all about sex, not morals. If it was about morals, the question would not have come up at all. So, have sex for sex's sake and avoid any emotional mush.
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afwmisom
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 22:56:52
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chrissy,
did anyone ever tell you that you were a total slut?
p.s. i love you.
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CumAussie
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 22:58:03
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As a married man, I think there are two elements to dating a hotwife. The first is in favour of the relationship and covers all the things previously said, such as no strings, safety and possibly a more considerate lover.
The second element is different for each person, but on the basis he doesn't want to end his own marriage, then meetings need to be discreet and somewhat limited in terms of time and location. This obviously won't suit everyone so its a matter of horses for courses.
Where kids come into it, I don't know, unless the hotwife intends to get knocked up by her bull. In my case the kids are grown anyway, and as Sa Tyr said, its only about the sex. Good sex requires an underlying relationship and if the underlying relationship accommodates the understanding of both persons needs, then where's the problem?
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Amazonking
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2007 23:13:36
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My wife has cucked me with both single guys and married men. There are advantages and disadvantages to both types of guys.
In the beginning, my wife preferred to stay away from married guys for many of the same reasons as other posters have noted. However, cheating and/or having children are not among them. We would prefer the guy to be honest and admit he is married rather than find out he is a lier. If he lies about being married, what else is he being dishonest about?
An "Al Bundy" type of guy (married with children) is less likely to be bi-sexual, therefore the risk of STDs is reduced. Being married generally means experience; having bred his own bitch also means his "equipment" at least meets minimum "functionality". For the cuckold looking to have his wife knocked-up by another guy, a married bull is less likely to make a legal stink about his "parental rights."
Most married guys who have rooted with my wife have been gentlemen, have been generally interested in giving her orgasms and fuck my wife for the sheer excitement of screwing another man's wife and/or because his own wife has lost interest in having sex with him.
Having my wife fall in love with a married bull has never been a concern. All true alpha-males, married or not, enjoy fucking a married woman; so long as she is married to someone else.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!
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redimac
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# Posted: 4 Dec 2007 02:08:40
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All true alpha-males, married or not, enjoy fucking a married woman; so long as she is married to someone else.
Perfect observation.
Joe Preston
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I_A_S_P
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# Posted: 4 Dec 2007 03:06:41
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Ms Lynne and hub's post is very sensible to me.
Your well written adventure portrays a "storybook" plot with credible characters and scenarios.
Some important assets of the story include: Constant communication and feedback among the characters, total agreement as to how the scene unfolds, a remote location amid strangers and - most importantly - intimacy. Everybody is getting their individual pleasure harmoniously with the others'. There are many more good points to the story.
Reasons dating the married man at the gym sucks. You are shitting in your own back yard. Everyone at the gym will soon know your secret. What sort of exit strategy can you have if the guy turns unpleasant? How is "Matt" going to share in the intimacy if you are on a date? How will you deal with the wife when she gets a whiff of strange pussy on hubby's crotch ( she is local, remember)? Ever heard of Murphy's Law? Occasionally, things can be too good to be true. I suggest wisdom be considered. They don't hand out Masters degrees to idiots.
Maybe more later. Thanks for the excellent story!
..............PSEUDO PERSON
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redimac
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# Posted: 5 Dec 2007 00:56:20
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Select someone "not too close" is pretty sage advice. Leave the close ones for fantasy. Much more control that way.
Joe Preston
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samvicki
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# Posted: 5 Dec 2007 01:08:58
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married men only as they have as much to lose as we do if this shit gets out! Its still not the norm.
Single guys, although can play ANYTIME (which has its benefits big time) can be clingy and can "fall" for the wife (read:me). Thats all we need.
So married guys tend now to be the piece of meat de jour!
My two cents.
V
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redimac
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# Posted: 7 Dec 2007 00:11:47
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samvicki
Polled the hot wives I know, and got pretty much the same response from all....they pref married... all of them.
reasons given, positives:
Safer
more dependable
less likely to get hung up with the hot wife, fall in love
more experienced lovers
financially secure
thoughtful
more creative
loyal (now that's funny)
Negatives:
Tend to be out of shape
don't dress as well
hesitate to do things in public
not as energetic
not as wild
pay less attention to the cuck
older
spend laees time with the cuck couple.
Joe Preston
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Peter C
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# Posted: 7 Dec 2007 08:05:45
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My wife went with a much younger single guy, but she would have still have fucked him if he had had a girlfriend or been married with kids.
Peter C
Proud that a young man has fucked my mature wife.
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essentiauk
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# Posted: 7 Dec 2007 08:54:37
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We prefer married guys...safer and it's an extra buzz for her...
Tony
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Surreydom
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# Posted: 12 Dec 2007 09:16:04
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Hi Tony
Saw your post and thought I'd say hello as I'm in London too
Let me know if you're looking for friends at all or would like to chat
Hope you're both well
Good Luck
Steven - surreydom@yahoo.co.uk
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essentiauk
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# Posted: 12 Dec 2007 10:14:17
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We're not in London...she has two regulars at present so not looking but thanks for the offer....
Tony
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Married Dom
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# Posted: 12 Dec 2007 11:37:43
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I only fuck girls who are willing to fuck a married man.
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Brutus2
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# Posted: 12 Dec 2007 15:42:50
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"If their marriage has trouble, it's not my fault, that marriage is already in trouble." I like this, Jen...nothing wrong with you, but this "not my fault" is soooo typical when it comes to sex !
A very good example of this way of thinking is my ex-wife :
- I would never ever date a married guy !
- Well, what about X ? He is married, and you had sex with him...
- It's not the same...his marriage is in trouble, it's like he's not married anymore...
- How can you be so sure ?
- Well, if X had sex with me, it can only mean that his marriage is in trouble !
Fanatique de l'infidelite feminine
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tnt2play
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# Posted: 12 Dec 2007 19:28:55
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I prefer that the women i fuck are married and my wife tends to prefer married men as well.
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redimac
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# Posted: 13 Dec 2007 19:58:32
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here is a poll on this tipic, if you're interested
http://www.cuckoldplace.com/8_42841_0.html#msg345749
Joe Preston
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PalmCoastCouple
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# Posted: 18 Dec 2007 15:31:00
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My wife refuses to meet with married men that are cheating.
Her reasoning is simple: if he lies to his wife, he'll lie to my wife. Our marriage, while admittedly uncoventional, is open and honest. She also demands partners that are just as honest.
We did have one guy that slipped through... he lied about being single. His wife found out about it, called my wife on her cell phone and gave her holy hell. That pretty much cinched it... if you're married, cheating and lying you're out.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1. the husband of an unfaithful wife. NOTE - It DOES NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, sissyboy, crossdresser, cocksucker, scat eater, piss drinker, beastiality, incest or pedophilia.
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PalmCoastCouple
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# Posted: 18 Dec 2007 15:31:36
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My wife refuses to meet with married men that are cheating.
Her reasoning is simple: if he lies to his wife, he'll lie to my wife. Our marriage, while admittedly uncoventional, is open and honest. She also demands partners that are just as honest.
We did have one guy that slipped through... he lied about being single. His wife found out about it, called my wife on her cell phone and gave her holy hell. That pretty much cinched it... if you're married, cheating and lying you're out.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1. the husband of an unfaithful wife. NOTE - It DOES NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, sissyboy, crossdresser, cocksucker, scat eater, piss drinker, beastiality, incest or pedophilia.
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cuckold397
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# Posted: 18 Dec 2007 16:01:13
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interesting subject.........
my wife, whom i love dearly, has experience of married and single bulls and studs..........i/ we think that the more stablelovers have been the married variety.....shell has a long term married lover, a professional man who's family are grown and independant....they both have a deep love for each other and this has helped our own marriage/relationship.
she has also taken on a single younger lover recently and is currently taking intense fucking on a daily basis, her bull is very considerate and is aware of my interest in his services.......
so i think it depends on finding that special person...that bull who is able to get to know you and bring quality to your relationship or to the cuckold lifestyle.....
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terryforsex
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# Posted: 20 Dec 2007 01:49:54
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Married Men are safer.
They have to go home to their wives.
My Husband prefers married men with me when we have afternoon parties......But for weekend parties its the single guys that can stay out all night.
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