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KokcoldGirl
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# Posted: 13 Jan 2008 16:40:25
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We all kno that "rules are made to be broken", blah, blah, blah but we've only had bad experiences in this realm. We insist upon use of condoms. And absolutely no one will stick to that rule. EVERY guy will push and push that point. As a woman, I won't suck a condom'd cock. The taste is absolutely horrible. Yes, I do realize the risk involved. But that risk is not nearly the same as actual intercourse, anal or vaginal. At the very least, guys, don't make the promise if you aren't going to stick by it totally. And I don't mean just by always using a condom--I mean to not even bring up the condom use or lack thereof w/o all parties present and NOT in the heat of the moment.
If we can't find honest guys, I'm considering giving this up. It would hurt--me and our relationship. I like sex. I like sex with lots of people but it's not worth the risk. If I'm on my own and this heretofore "honest" guy suddenly changes his mind about condoms and won't take no for an answer, i'm a goner.
A lot of posts on here are all about bareback. Are we the only cpl who insists upon this? Any feedback would be appreciated.
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dom_joe_hfd
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# Posted: 13 Jan 2008 17:16:13
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its a good sensible rule to use condoms, i always use them unless in a long term relationship. and even then im not too keen not to use them
J
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Spank
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# Posted: 13 Jan 2008 17:22:39
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Just wanted to let you know that my wife and I have just started doing this and we insist on condom use during intercourse. No 'ifs', 'ands', or 'buts'. Fortunately, her first (and only other guy besides me in her life so far) has been great about it and insists on it as well. We spent a good bit of time getting to know him first and he and his wife are experienced swingers (both together and separately), so playing safe is an absolute must for them as well.
I'm sorry to hear that his selfishness and lack of forethought put a damper on what we've found to be an incredible and exciting experience. But you're not the only one who would kick a guy out if they try something sneaky and underhanded like this. We would as well, for one. And I think a lot of others are of the same mind.
My wife and I realized early on, well before we had our first actual meet, that for the two of us, this is about open, honest communication, trust, and love. The 'bull', or whatever you want to call the guy, has no business trying to pressure you to betray your, and your husband's, health and happiness. You shouldn't have any doubt that you made the right decision.
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KokcoldGirl
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# Posted: 13 Jan 2008 22:06:40
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Thanks, "Spank". Maybe there is hope out there.
And "dom_joe_hfd", that's exactly how i feel. We're in this lifestyle because we love sex. Even someone we REALLY like may make a bad decision, have sex w/someone else, and then not tell for fear of losing the relationship.
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draclif69
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# Posted: 13 Jan 2008 23:30:15
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What are you talking about? Are you saying guys will promise in advance of meeting you that they will use a condom but then don't want to when you actually hook up? If that's what you're saying - I hear you. I'd be very frustrated by that.
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KokcoldGirl
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# Posted: 14 Jan 2008 01:54:27
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Draclif69--that is exactly right. They promise b4 the mtg & @ the beginning of the mtg, then once my guy leaves, there is pressure to lose the condom. This is not my idea of humiliating my husband. This is an insult to the whole relationship. And as a sub female, this puts me into a VERY awkward position. In my defense, tho, I've stuck by the rules.
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luceiia
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# Posted: 14 Jan 2008 04:05:36
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The key to the dance is staying in step with your partner. The Dom leads, the sub follows - trusting the guidance of the lead. It's the synergy of the two that creates physical poetry. Without trust, there is no synergy, and the dance ends disappointingly.
Willful destruction of trust by a Dom is the hallmark of a rookie or an abusive Dom. You don't come across as needing or wanting to be abused.
Your insistence on use of a condom and a trusting relationship are reasonable and certainly ones I would insist on as well.
Next time I'm planning on being near Kokomo, I'll shoot you two a PM first.
-Luceiia
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Multi_Orgasmic Mary
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# Posted: 14 Jan 2008 04:59:45
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I don't use condoms, never have, never will,,,I'd rather not have sex, but that doesn't mean I don't agree with you. I don't do anal, and if my hub left and the guy pressured me I'd be really pissed, fortunately our style of cucking, hubby's always present. No is ALWAYS NO!!!
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Peter C
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# Posted: 14 Jan 2008 08:32:35
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When my wife agreed to cuckold me we made two rules. One, that she didn't fuck anyone I knew and two, to use condoms. On the day of her date I bought her a pack and the guy had no qualms about using them. In fact he used all three in one evening, which I didn't expect. He also had his own with him, so that was good.
Peter C
Proud that a young man has fucked my mature wife.
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newdom
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# Posted: 14 Jan 2008 18:42:26
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There's lots of us from what I know.....personally. My hub and I insist on condoms. It's a deal breaker....no condom, no intercourse. I've had guys tell me up, down and backwards that they use condoms all the time, only to find out they were lying. What a waste of time and can be dangerous. I actually went with a guy early on in my experience with this lifestyle....alone. We talked on email and phone and he insisted condoms were fine. I was adiment about it. He agreed. When we met, I took out condoms and put them on the bed and he said he didn't think he could stay hard using a condom. When I said too bad and started to get up....he pushed me back down and told me not to move, it would be over in a minute and he wouldn't hurt me. Well, you know the rest. Now hubby ALWAYS go with me on first couple dates till we get to know the guy and develop a relationship. So far I've been with 3 others who couldn't deal with the condoms once we got started.....too bad for them. Hub and I left. You have no idea who they've been with and when. I love sex and playing this game with hubby and I want to stay healthy and Std/HIV free so I can play for a long time!!!!! Be safe, stand your ground and there are plenty out there that will follow your rules if they are smart. I have found 2 regulars that insist on condoms!!!! And another that is long-term....used condoms in the beginning and got tested with me...we test every 6 months and he now is allowed the privilege of bareback but that's it. Be strong, stay safe so you can continue to have fun for years. Good guys are out there but ya gotta weed through a ton of bad ones first. But I have found it to be well worth it!!!!!
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bull4ltr
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# Posted: 23 Jan 2008 02:02:01
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Meeting a stranger and fucking bareback is banana's..I am amazed with the idiots on here that do that or maybe they are just more fakes looking at pics and JO with other hand...
Unless you are in a LTR with the BULL, do not go without condoms...Std's are everywhere..
Be careful and have fun
A Real Bull for Real Cpls
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KokcoldGirl
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# Posted: 24 Jan 2008 02:32:03
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thx, bull4ltr. We're still looking but our next encounter will be planned differently.
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oceancruiser
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# Posted: 24 Jan 2008 09:15:12
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very nice slut this KOKcoldgirl !
JH de LILLE - hetero - dispo dans le Nord de la France, Paris et sur la Belgique.
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teachmehow2fuck
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# Posted: 28 Jan 2008 04:06:52
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Hey KokcoldGirl, I've sent u an email because I'm interested in being your next bull, but I thought I'd post on here to encourage you.
First of all, and u should hear this from an FB (like some of those who already posted), breaking the promise to adhere to one of the only things you've asked is ABSOLUTELY unacceptable, and it's something I've never done with the couples I've met.
I've checked out all the pics you've posted on here, and first of all, given how sexy you look, I can't imagine why some guy would risk not getting to have fun with you by threatening to break his word.
What good is a guy if he can't keep his word? If he's willing to take that kind of risk by going bareback with you (without seeing tests from you), then what does that say about his judgement?
The point is, you did the right thing closing your legs, because he can no longer be trusted. It sounds too bad too, because he sounds like he knew what he was doing fucking you. I loved the description by ur hubby, and would love to try some of my own ideas on you...
Basically, even if you're absolutely not interested in meeting me, I wanted you to hear from a level-headed guy who thinks you deserve better, and to hear that there are bulls out there who never pull this shit, who know how important it is to stay HONEST and RESPECTFUL, while still having fun.
I wish you luck, and hope you find someone who gives you what you want, and who is safe.
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Multi_Orgasmic Mary
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 23:44:23
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Quoting: bull4ltr I am amazed with the idiots
I can see you saying you're amazed with the people that make risky choices,,,but "idiots". Has anyone in your town ever died in a car accident? Have you even seen a report on an auto accident on your local news? Do you still drive? I'll assume the answers are all yes,,,that being the case, are you some kind of idiot?
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KokcoldGirl
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# Posted: 5 Feb 2008 00:57:08
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Well, much to our delight, we did find a bull willing, able and ready to play by the rules. This last wkend was fantastic! I've posted the story in the story forum, if you're interested.
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wifeabovehusband
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# Posted: 5 Feb 2008 20:14:12
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No condom use here. I only have sex with two men anyway - my husband and my boyfriend (that I've been seeing for two years.) Sex with my husband vs. my boyfriend is about 25% with my husband, and 75% with my boyfriend. Both are very loyal to me. If I ever decide to have a fling with a third man, I may have him use a condom, but these two men keep me fairly satisfied, so I'm not looking. It's like having two husbands, but one one is legal. By boyfriend is definitely the alpha of the two and that works out just fine for me and them. My husband is better at oral and my boyfriend is better at straight fucking, so it's a win-win for me. So, as to the original thought - no condoms for us!
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FunCuckold
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# Posted: 6 Feb 2008 04:07:58
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I always use condoms......safe sex protects everyone involved......
Hope you don't give up.........I would be thrilled to be with you and I will bring my own condoms.....
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nicon99
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# Posted: 19 Apr 2008 02:36:52
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We always use condoms but I have a strong fantasy about a BULL fucking my wife with condum, under strict condom requirement demands from me. But just when he comes the condom either falls of (in her) or bursts so that even if he is not allowed, he fills her upp totally.
I cant find anything like this online, the nearest I come is this site schoolgirlcreampies.com where the guy pulls the condom off during intercourse without the girls knowledge.
Is anyone following me? ;)
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skye
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# Posted: 19 Apr 2008 04:53:01
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