starting a family

hey, im james, im 29 and my wife is 30. we started dating when we were both 20, and got married after three years. we are both pretty open minded about sex, so we tried lots of things and got into cuckolding after just two years of dating, so ive been a cuck my entire marriage. I do satisfy her shes assured me, it wasn't supposed to be a long term thing, but its become somewhat of a lifestyle, plus i have a busy job, so i have sex with her once, maybe twice a week, but am assured shes having a good time when im not there. this is of course just backstory and i'll get to the point. my wife and i have been serious for about a decade now, and naturally, we're thinking about a family. this is issue one, because im not sure if this is the best environment for us to raise a child, but i am open to stories if there are people have been in cuckold relationships but sucessfully raised kids. issue two is a little bit more complex and is worrying me more. My wife a few times a week (she has a part time job) meet guys for flings and whatever, but mainly she sees her two boyfriends whenever she can. one of them is more of a "fuck buddy" and she just sees him now and again, but the other boyfriend, shes been dating for nearly six years now. i have never felt threatened by this before, me and him have a good friendship, it is awkward at times, but he's a really decent guy. What's worrying me all of a sudden is that wife has been talking to him about starting a family too. I'm not sure what this means, I have got some pretty strong hints that perhaps she wants him to father the child. they've even picked out baby names and other such parenting events. The two have always been close, but with such a long standing sexual relationship I saw nothing wrong with this, and just accepted that they were good friends, but now I'm starting to wonder if she's taken him as a second husband, or even worse, though she's wearing my ring, am I the second husband. I always thought it was just for sexual play that she would be with him, but raising a family such that my child isnt even my biological offspring, and a product of this play, I dont know if i can handle that. I walked into the kitchen the other day and i'm pretty sure i heard my wife say to her boyfriend "i'll love your button nose, you have good genes" or something like that, i could be wrong, but she said it quite clearly. since then i've been a little distant to them, and it seems to be pushing them closer together, theyve started doing more normal coupley things, like shes started going with him to shop for groceries. I confronted her about this, and she did say it's becuase ive been working more, which is true. I just thought when this thing started, it would just be a boost for her sexuality, I didnt know she was unofficially marrying someone. I don't have any issues if they want to date until the sun explodes, but i just want to be her only husband. any help guys? thanks.

If you can't handle it, it's not worth it. Not for you, your wife or the child. Lay down the law. You are talking about another human life here - the life of a child.

I agree with SuperQ

If I was in your situation I would be VERY pissed off and I wouldf let her know

thanks for the advice, ive been thinking about it, but not sure what to say to them. i dont know if id mind my child not being biologically mine, i think id be able to get over it, but i dont k now if thats morally wrong. especially because id be lying to them their entire life...

my two cents? this has gone way beyond playing and into abuse. Get angry and stay angry like SuperQ said. I grew up in a single parent home with a really dysfunctional mother. Its not pretty, and you don't want any part of it. she wants him, cool but man, trust me, it won't end well if you don't tell HER this and not us.

well i dont think its his place to lay down the law. If that is what she wants tehn he has to deal with it and obey them both.

how and why should he be pissed off. If that is what she wants then by all means he should go along with it. its his place too

No its not wrong at all. Get over it and do what she says

I couldnt agree more with amazonking, my husband and i have been cuckolding for thirty years, we had two children by other fathers, *** logically they are not his, emotionally their is no doubt, we never lied to them, when the time came for the questions we were open and honest, they are both raised and have families of their own now, and we are no different than anyother family towards each other, love, and honesty is the key. Jan drfarmer: I would be interested as to where you got those statistics?

When a man agrees to being cuckolded it's like rolling a little snowball down hill. It just gets bigger & bigger and goes faster & faster. And very quickly you can't possibly stop it or call it back. A potential cuck should think about this before starting down that road. But once you start - just learn to deal with it.

well, thanks for all this advice. I have to admit some of it seemed a little extreme, some of you were implying my wife owns me... which is not how our marriage works. however there were others of you who spoke on more levelheaded terms, but thanks to all.
However, it has all become academic. in preparation to get pregnant she stopped taking the pill, and we were using a condom for the past two months (until we were sure we wanted a baby) and in that time it seems shes become pregnant, for three weeks now theres a much higher chance its his baby and not mine, but i found out two days ago. I've not talked to either of them since, but not in anger, more out of not knowing what to say. she said it was an accident, i suppose i do believe her. last night she stayed the night with him, to give me some space.
im not sure about the ethical ramifications of this, becuase if i get a paternity test, which is, in my opinion, about 80% likely to say its his child, i will have to lie to my child for his or her entire life. also the legal ramifications, i dont know what this means. I dont want to have cared for this child for 5 years or something, just to have her boyfriend knock on the door and say, i want my kid and then take them away. but then again, they will be his child, perhaps more so than mine.