getting her open to the idea

To all you guys interested in getting your wife or girlfriend into this lifestyle.. thought I'd share my brief story about tonight and remind everyone that it takes time and gentle persistence.

I've read hundreds maybe of the stories on here and other sites and I wonder all the time if most are fake. Well this brief post is 100% true.

My fiancé (dating for 2 years, known each other for 5+) is out tonight with her girlfriends, actually out for one of their husband's birthdays. When I found out where they are going, I opted to stay home with her young *** since getting a sitter was becoming a chore but more importantly because of who she would be seeing tonight. My fiancé is gorgeous. Yes I'm biased but she is beyond gorgeous. I'm not a bad looking guy at all though I am 11 years older than her (she's 34, I'm 45). She simply turns heads (breaks necks?) wherever she goes.

She started casual texting and later sexting with a guy right about the time we started dating. She told me about it at first and how she hated his texts, he was so annoying, his dick pics were gross she would say, but it still continued to happen. I'd sometimes half joke and say "just fuck him already, that would be totally hot, only a matter of time." Other times I would be dead serious, and she would sometimes get annoyed or even angry so I'd back off and avoid the topic for a week or two or three. I bought her a pack of condoms about a year ago to use when she meets him (they are still in her top nightstand draw - she hasn't opened them - not even tonight - but I love that she still has them). Fast forward to 2 years later, and she's right now at a club where this guy works. Guy is good looking, not going to deny it. Earlier today she asked me "should I text 'Tom' (not his real name)?" I made it seem innocent and answered very casually "yeah why not? He can totally hook you girls up with some free ******." She thought it was a great idea and text him. I had previously asked her to send me screenshots of their texting from time to time because it turned me on to know that someone else was really into her. She sent me screenshot 30 mins ago of their conversation from earlier today. He asked if I (her fiancé) was coming with her tonight? When she said no that it was mostly the girls and a few husbands, he responded "good i figured you wouldn't be bringing him with you to see me lol". It's now 10PM where I am, she's been there since 8PM. She told me she wasn't staying long and would take a cab home between 9 and 10. Haven't heard anything from her since the screen shot from a little bit ago but the emotions, the wondering what's going on, is incredible.

Her *** is asleep and I'm looking at posts on here to pass the time. Will be very interesting to see how things stand tomorrow morning. I highly doubt anything will happen tonight. She's a good mom and would never stay out all night. Not ever. But I'm hoping they are getting to know each other a little better and that she's more comfortable with the idea of something happening down the road.

I've been at this in one way, shape or form for two years and I'm still not there. But have patience and communicate. Research online the many places for advice like this (but way better!).

To anyone who reads posts like this and wonders why in the hell would I be almost throwing my gorgeous fiancé at an admittedly good looking guy who could replace me, I can't explain it. Just gonna leave it at that!

I can understand you very well, also love to share my wife.

Any news about the evening?

Thank you for posting. You are spot-on when you say that you need patience and need to communicate. It took me over 2 years of gentle persuasion, encouragement and role-play in the bedroom before my wife gave in to temptation. They worry of course that's it's a trap, that you just want an excuse to shag other women yourself and wonder if you actually love them if you are trying to get them to have sex with another man.

With my wife Debbie I played on the fact that, due to my work shift patterns, she was able to build a social life of her own and her occasional confessions of fancying much younger guys, be it a pop star, TV personality, a friend of one of our s0ns or someone she met out or at work. In bed, I'd hint that her ending up in bed with some toyboy wouldn't be so bad, that I was quite turned on by the thought of it and she could see that from my strong erection and more frenzied love-making!

Even once we'd agreed that she could sample some extra marital cock, it was a while before the opportunity arose, but she did finally accept the offer of a date from a guy 12 years younger than her and have sex with him.

Debbie came home and told me all about it including how they'd used all 3 condoms I'd bought for her. Although everything was fine that night and the next day, suddenly I became incredibly insecure. What if he was better than me? Bigger than me? What if she left me for him? We talked. We'd previously agreed that if either of us were unhappy with this new arrangement it stopped, so I asked her not to see him again. She felt guilty then, not helped by the fact that he hadn't been in to see her or contacted her since, causing her to feel a bit dirty and used. He did turn up eventually and wanted a repeat, but she turned him down and told me "Never again. We're not going down that road anymore."

I regretted being so hasty later and eventually I started bringing up the subject again. We were older now, wiser and it was a strong marriage. I told her that I wouldn't mind her being "naughty" again. Her "never again" became "maybe", then "you're sure you'd be alright with it this time?"

Nine years had elapsed since that young guy had got my wife into bed, but finally - with the help of social media and chat rooms - Debbie finally dipped her toe in the water again. More successfully this time and without me being insecure. She went with 3 other men, 2 much younger than us and the other a former work colleague of mine. I really noticed the change in her after she'd had some extra cock elsewhere. It put a smile on her face, a distinct spring in her step and it was clearly a boost to her ego and self-confidence being able to attract young men, even in her mid 40s. In turn, I loved having such a "naughty" wife - we never called it cheating or being unfaithful as it had been my idea - and enjoyed hearing about her exploits later in bed.

How did your fiance's evening out go?
Peter C

Peter C - Excellent appraisal of the slow and steady progress that you have to make to end up with an 'ordinary' wife being converted into a Hotwife and eventually a fully blown cuckoldress. There's a popular misconception that it's an overnight conversion, it isn't, it takes time and effort. The same applies when a Bull first fucks a previously 'innocent' wife and steadily works on her to become the slut he wants her to be. Time and effort always pays off.