First Time - Excerpts from the original encounter and other thoughts

What a great posting.. I think you capture the essence of the emotions that I suspect many of us feel. Like you, I don't get off on any sissy crap, or anal sex, or pretty much anything that seems weird.

What is hot is thinking about my wife, alone, with another man that (and this is the important part) she finds attractive. I love imagining the sequence of events from them meeting, to undressing, to embracing, and finally fucking... what a rush. I love the idea of her coming home with a huge smile on her face that shouts out 'i have just been fucked!!'.

To date, this is only a fantasy with her going out alone. We have had numerous encounters with other couples in the swinging scene, and also had a number of 3-somes (which are actually more intense than 4-somes).

There must be some deep psychological/genetic/Darwinian thing going on with us to all share the same basic fantasy. The interesting part is that many guys on this site are far from the passive, sissy types. I am fully type-A, and actually get invitations from couples from time to time. The strange part is that i don't get that excited about fucking some other guys wife, just for the sake of fucking.

So getting back to my wife: we have recently been talking about her linking up with a former lover, to whom we owe a debt of gratitude. She was married to an under-achiever guy back in the late 90s.. he liked to watch her fucking other guys, so he would set her up and orchestrate the scene. One of the guys they played with turned out to be a high-level lobbyist in DC.. he was older, very smooth, charming, very large dick as a bonus. My wife ended up having an affair with him on the side.. which led to some interesting situations. She would fuck him alone in the week, and then on the weekend, her ex-husband would set up a 3-some...

This crazy stuff kept on for most of 1999 until I met her in November of that year. We fell in love, got separated from our spouses, and have been happily married ever since.

Now that 10 years have passed, we both feel excited about the idea of her linking up with the lobbyist again. Not sure if he will still be into her, but we are having a lot of fun with the idea of her spending the weekend with him.. alone. I love the thought of her driving up there and having a free pass to do anything that she wants to with him...

We'll see how that goes..