those2there
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#1 Posted: 12 Oct 2009 15:49
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Hi everybody,
My girlfriend of 7 years and I have played a bit with her sleeping with other guys in the past. But nothing steady. However, now she has started chatting with a guy who lives closer by and who would like to be her regular lover (having her at least once a week). She likes him, but thinks it is weird that I am into this; and is not the typical hotwife/cuckold. In fact she much prefers playing alone. Should I let her start playing with him and having her feel safe with him; and then later maybe she will let me watch and maybe join..? Or should I insist to be part of it from the begining?
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baiout
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#2 Posted: 12 Oct 2009 18:08
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i'd say let her go it alone first to test the water
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enuro12
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#3 Posted: 12 Oct 2009 19:40
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lol its over  Say goodbye to her |
PalmCoastCouple
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#4 Posted: 12 Oct 2009 20:49
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There's a lot to be said for letting her play on her own, or getting started alone then having you join them later. First, it can be pretty intense for you. As enjoyable as watching can be, WAITING and NOT watching can be equally intense in different ways. Believe me... the imagination is MORE than capable of making up for what you're not actually seeing!
Giving them time alone to get familiar with each other can also be a plus. Often the other guy isn't totally comfortable with your presence at first, so letting them have time alone can make it less awkward when it comes time to stir in the third party (you).
However... having said that, trust and confidence are key. If you don't truly trust her 100%, then jealousy can rear its head in that situation. On the other hand if SHE isn't 100% committed to the relationship, then letting her have 1-on-1 time with another guy can result in a lot of alone time for you... after she takes off with him. Choose wisely!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1. the husband of an unfaithful wife. NOTE - It DOES NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, sissyboy, crossdresser, cocksucker, scat eater, piss drinker, beastiality, incest or pedophilia.
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those2there
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#5 Posted: 13 Oct 2009 17:57
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Well.. thanks for the constructive comments I do trust her and I am sure she will not leave me. There is more than sex in life - and with me she is allowed both to have the cake and to eat it :o)
Now I have just booked her in to visit him, and she will stay there a little longer than planned. In fact 10 days from the 21st. Can't wait to hear how it goes. Unfortunately I wont be able to talk much to her on the phone or msn, as I will be too busy with friends visiting the first 4 days....
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rdvrk
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#6 Posted: 14 Oct 2009 00:58
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Some wives like to have their husbands present, some don't. My wife and I started with me being there watching, but she soon found that it felt awkward and not sexy for her. Since then, she's always dated alone, which is fine with me.
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mred4682
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#7 Posted: 14 Oct 2009 10:30
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Are you saying she is going to stay with him for 10 days?.... OMG I must be reading that wrong.
I feel you need to do this as a couple. Alone time between the wife and her boyfriend only provides time for them to develop a relationship which will in some way or another effect your relationship with your wife.
However as you can tell from others responses, there are those that disagree.
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wippersnapper
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#8 Posted: 14 Oct 2009 16:25
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I would not want my wife to go away for 2 days, let alone 10 with a guy. In our experience, we started out as 3 of us together, with me watching and then taking part with the other guy and me pleasuring my wife together and separately. My wife felt comfortable with this arrangement, and any guy she went to bed with knew upfront that that is the way it would be. We did not ever have one objection, and we were with a lot of different guys.
In my opinion, excitement gets a little "slower" when two people are together for 7 years, as in your case with your girl friend. Sharing her with others is one way to keep a relationship exciting and intact. However, if you are allowing her to go away for days at a time with a guy who will surely show her a good time each and every time they are together, then I would worry that eventually she will "compare" those times with the ordinary times with you, and in most cases, we all know who she would prefer to be with.
Couples who allow that separation are usually married and therefore have that bond that is stronger to break than a couple who has no such committment to each other. In your case, I hope I am wrong, but by you allowing her to be alone all of that time instead of you being with her and him, will eventually end up less than satisfactory for you.
If your girlfriend really likes him, and he likes her, then she should be able to convince him that you should be part of the deal.
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those2there
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#9 Posted: 14 Oct 2009 18:56
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Last night she had phone sex with the guy, while i was lying next to her in bed. It was very hot to hear how horny and turned on she got by talking to him. Obviously it did help that he is 7-8 inches and I am only 5 on a good day :o)
As she got more turned on she asked me to use a larger dildo on her while she continued talking with the guy. It was hot manouvering the dildo in coordination to what she was saying to him, and in the end I made her cum on it (he thought I was sleeping next to her) :o)
She IS leaving in one week and will stay there alone for 10 days. Obviously this is going to be pretty extreme, and as she has not met him before it is quite a chance to take! However, she has been talking, exchanging photos, etc with him and is pretty sure that she wants him. While I - and I guess most guys - are very visual; she is more focussed and hooked on his language, voice and the way he is. They are definitely both going to make out and have soft sex, but she also wants him to be rough to her..
I actually found the guy for her, and we have chatted together. He is very much turned on to the fact that I should watch at some time, and that he is going to be a friend of both of us
The big questions remains to find out if she should allow him to have her bare-back or if she should bring 100 condoms! Guess that will be something she will finally decide when she is there.. At least she is on the pill!!
I do not fear that she is going to fall in love with this guy or that he in any way is a risk to our relationship. I am frankly a really nice guy, and would allow her to do play with whoever she wants. However, obviously there is the taboo part in this; that is quite a turn-on. The risk play in relation to both her falling for him, getting knocked up and getting addicted sexually is quite hot! I hope she will let him photograph her meanwhile and send me a few photos while it happens.
Thanks for the nice comments and thoughts - I will keep you posted on the progress ;o)
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mred4682
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#10 Posted: 15 Oct 2009 23:28
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Take a look at the number of couples that thought they would be fine and then the girl leaves for the other guy. You sound very sure of your situation, I hope your correct.
You say he is even talking about wanting to be rough with her, and she has never even met him?.... Yes that is pretty extreme to put it mildly. Crazy from my perspective, I hope she knows martial arts and can take care of herself. I wish you luck.
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those2there
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#11 Posted: 16 Oct 2009 00:15
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He He.. no she will be safe.. he is really a nice civilized fella.. and yes she can take care of herself... we work with law enforcement both and I have already checked his id and other things...
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mred4682
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#12 Posted: 16 Oct 2009 01:34
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Glad to hear she can take care of herself. Good Luck and be sure to enjoy yourself while she is with him.
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those2there
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#13 Posted: 25 Oct 2009 17:27
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Just got back and taled to her. She will be back in 7 days! She IS enjoying herself very much :o)
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Johnnyangplay
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#14 Posted: 27 Oct 2009 13:25
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She...I mean he...is spending a whole 10 days in fantasy land. That should be fun!
http://indiecuckold.tumblr.com/
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those2there
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#15 Posted: 29 Oct 2009 00:06
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yup.. fun.. but also a bit too much.. seems that we are moving towards a polyamory relationship with the guy...
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Nedcuck
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#16 Posted: 29 Oct 2009 01:54
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Talking about taking a deep dive!
My gf has done similar.
Tell us more about how things are going!!
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those2there
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#17 Posted: 20 Nov 2009 01:58 · Edited by: those2there
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well it wenht fine.. just thought i would let you all know :o)
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smallboy15
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#18 Posted: 21 Nov 2009 19:42
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We're doing this tonight We're brand new to this this is week 2. He's picking her up at a bar tonight. As soon as they arrive at his place she'll text me. I'm to take 15 minutes or so to arrive then they'll leave the door unlocked for me. I'm allowed to come in to whichever room they're in and watch quietly from the corner. I can watch until he cums then I'm to let myself out and go wait in the car. I am allowed to bring in a camera and video them (we agreed on this so I have video to watch because the next time I will NOT be invited). I am allowed to stroke myself while watching but cannot cum. I am allowed to cum in the car while I wait for the night to end, or I have the option of waiting until we get home. What an exciting day this is going to be! |
neukcpl
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#19 Posted: 24 Nov 2009 11:04
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great updates, wheres the pics?
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