Many years ago I discovered that my Wife had cheated on me. After the initial shock and after many hours of discussion with her we were able to work past it and discovered as most of you have that as a result of the incident I became aroused knowing that she had played around.
That first incident did not go far and involved kissing, a lot heavy petting, and finally oral sex.
After the incident we continued talking about it and we both agreed that this was merely her enjoying some extracurricular sex and that it was merely physical. I agreed that why should she the women be any different than myself who of course is always horny and can never get enough sex. Well she has always had a large sexual appetite and is multi orgasmic. Having 20 multiples is not unusual for her.
So I decided that I would encourage her to express herself sexually and I enjoyed the prospect of her having some sexual escapades and perhaps enjoying them vicariously through her.
We agreed to some basic ground rules and I acually actively took a big part of helping her find playmates.
The first Playmate after that turned out to be a co-worker who she was friendly with . After some question and answer sessions I determined that he would be a great candidate since he was basically flirting with her all the time at work. He was single and a few years younger than my wife with a good atlletic build. After she invited him over one night and explained to him that we had more or less an open relationship and that she was able to play with my full permission. He finally paid her a visit. With her permission I hid a video camera and taped their first encounter.
It was very nerve racking yet very exciting waiting for her call to let me know he was gone and that it was safe to return home. I had been waiting close by so I got home quickly. She recounted the almost 2 hours of their first meeting in about 2 minutes so I did not push the issue since I knew I would be able to review the tape. We immediately began to mustually enjoy th benefits of her encounter. Her by being sated by her colleague and myself by the excitement not only I had but the benefit of her excitement over the incident.
After the initial meeting she continued to meet regularly with him. Perhaps 8 or so encounters in the first month or so. At that point I was called away on business for almost a week and while I was away she continued to meet with him but she began omitting some of her meetings and the fact that he ended up spending the night a couple of time while I was away. A day or so before I was to return I realized from the way she was acting on the phone that she was leaving out some important details. After a long while of going back and forth on the phone she finally capitualated and told me the whole story. When I asked her why she had lied about it she replied that she was worried that since she had failed to tell me ahead of time and since he had slept over. She felt I would have been angered and decided to try and keep it to herself. At that time I again repeated to her that the only reamister i would ever be mad was about her lies. She agreed and we moved on again.
After I returned I decided that I should begin taking some precautions to keep things honest so I began recording phone calls and monitoring the internet emails, and IM,s. At this point I found out that shew was again lying. In her conversations and emails with him I learned that the relationship had gone beyond the friends with benefits and that they were frequently meeting while I was at work. At some point they even began making plans for her to move out and for them to get an apartment together. I again confronted her and after much deliberation I again caved after she decided that it was all a mistake and that she wanted to remain with me.
The relationship with him ended shortly thereafter.
We then began looking for additional playmates and made a few friends all of whom we remain friends with to this day and who she still plays with on occasion. Now after much explaining we finally get to the question at hand... Of late she has mostly lost interest in sex. We went from having sex 1 or more times a day and from her playing weekly with "fiends" alone and with me present. It was unusual at the time for her to orgasm less than 15 to 20 times each session. No we are lucky if we have sex once per week. Now I know the first thing everyone will say is what do you expect after being married for a period of time this is bound to happen as the couple gets past a certain point. I answer to this that I do not see how that could be the case in our instance as she is free to play with whom ever she pleases and has not made any new friends and rarely plays with the old ones. Now next I hear people say she is probably doing it behind your back. To this I say I continue to take extreme precautions and am certain that this is not the case.
So if I am correct and she is not involved in any other liaimisters... what could be the reamister behind the drastic decline overt the last 12 months? Almost exactly a year ago she called from a bar she had stopped at after work with colleagues and asked if it was ok to "bring someone home". Of course I said of course it was ok. A short time later she woke me and asked me to join her in our family room. There she had a fairly well know sports permisterality and we had a great night. This and perhaps a liamister with one of our old friends were the last times I remember her initiating and sexual play. In addition to this our sex life diminished greatly.
Thank you for your patience with my long winded story and for any constructive replies. I am uncertain to how everyone would define this relationship... There are some things which we have gone through which are consistent with the cuckold lifestyle like her asking me to lick het clit while she was getting fucked be her friends. This became her favorite due to the fact that it produced orgasms that shook her body one after another. From there it lead her asking me to "clean her up" which I did. She even carefully led me to clean up one of her lovers by carefully passionately kissing me then pulling him close and began to suck him while I was still close. She then put his cock in my mouth with her lips. Keeping it there with her mouth. While this only happened a couple of times those times were the ones that I recall her being most aroused. Evidenced buy how wet her pussy was , how many orgasms she had, and how engorged her clit was.
On the other hand she has never been domineering, made me submissive, or withheld sex from me. So I guess you people will let me know where we fall into the cuckold/hotwife lifestyle.
If anyone would like to hear more details on our past encounters let me know and I will recount them as best I can and perhaps even post some pics of which I have many! Here are a couple to start.
