i found out my wife has fucked my best mate

i have been with my wife for almost 20 years he was 17 when we met
around 8 years ago i had to travel with my job and was away for almost 3 weeks setting up a new factory unit, i knew my mate and my wife were friends as they worked together but never realized they were that close
aparantley i had been gone only a few days when he first fucked her (her sister told me the full story)and i also found out that from that night he stayed with her every night
it was only 2 years ago when we were moving house i found out when i found a few photos of her with his dick halfway down her throat
a few weeks ago there was a works party i wasnt invited but she got all dressed up to go with mike my so called mate
so i followed them they never got to the party they went straight to mikes place and stayed there till almost morning. we never had kids as we never wanted any so my wife is on the pill so with a little help from a nurse i work with i changed her pills for somethat look identical to the ones she takes and made an excuse that i was working away again 5 weeks later when i got home my wife is all over me wanting to fuck whenever she can i know shes knocked up and mike hasnt been round for a while so i havent fucked her now im waiting for her to say somthing what do you think do i leave her or stay

Lovely, it happened to me, I love having my wife after she's been fucked by a boyfriend.

Never fails. Someone has to come along and post a "wish it was me", "love it when she fucks" some kind of comment in a thread like this that completely misses the point.

Take a good long look at her. If it's hard to do, can't see yourself forgiving and don't want to, don't think the trust will ever be back, dump her. Pretty simple. Keeping her around is asking for more heartache. If you love her and don't want to lose her, sit her down and tell her you know what's happening. After all the crying, screaming, fighting ends, take another long look at her and ask yourself the same questions.

Either way, the moment she mentions she's pregnant, tell her you want a paternity test.

Then again, maybe you get off on such. Truth is, no one can tell you what to do.

You're really asking advice in the wrong place. For every permister who offers decent advice, you'll get one like wimp's above. None of them really apply to you though. Only you can decide whether or not you want her enough to try and work through it or even if its worth working through. You're not a cuckold. She's cheating. Different.

holebuster

If you are really looking for advice, repost your story in the Cuckold World forum. You might try to clean up the grammar first.

Invader is partly correct, she is definitely cheating on you, but you are a cuckold, too. The rest of what he says is spot on. Only you can decide what to do, but you can get lots of insight from reading our own stories in the Cuckold World forum. I certainly did, and have used that insight quite a bit. You can track our posts by clicking on our handles.

thanks for the advice how do i get to that area
sorry about the grammer and probably the spelling but its wrote as i wauld normaly talk
im not the worlds most educated permister and i hardley ever have to fill in any paperwork at work
or even use a computer its manual work i do heavy lifting
i have already made a decision about the baby i dont think i can acsept being around it, my wife has told me her period is late but says she only fucked him once and i know that aint true also over the last year she has loaned him almost 1000 to repair his car and pay some bills he owed i went round to see him and he has moved the neighbour said he transfered to a diferent department the other side of the country i will break his legs if i see him again, i know some people who use this site want to see ther wives with other men but im not sure if i could

Just be a man and dump her. Don't get violent with the guy, why bother?

Dump her cleanly and cover your ass as much as possible financially and emotionally. You can never trust her again, she totally cuckolds brownie on you and you're a total wuss if you keep her. She'll just cuckolds brownie on you again.

Cheating is not cuckolding, I don't care what people say.

Be a man, grow up, realize that you made a bad mistake by hooking up with her, and move on. Once you get over it and find another woman, an honest woman who treats you with respect, you'll be glad you did.

I've been through a relationship with a woman who cheated on me and learned my lesmister the hard way. DUMP THEM. And I've worked in private investigations for a few years and we often shadowed spouses and I also learned that cheaters never change and the relationships never work out. Only a small percentage can change. Some do, most don't and it's not worth the effort.

Now, I have a great marriage where we play swinging games and cuckold games and love it. I trust her implicitly and she trusts me as well.

It was cuckolds browniety of you to switch her pills on her. But it's also cuckolds browniety of her to have the affair on you, get pregnant and even give the money. That's your money too, pal.

You need to get out of this mess before it gets any worse.

From Webster's New World Dictionary, a cuckold is "a man whose wife has committed adultery," and cheating [slang] is "to be sexually unfaithful." There are no further restrictions or modifications. Hence, culckoldry and cheating have a lot of definitional overlap. No doubt, there also are many other unofficial slang definitions nowadays for both words with different connotations for different situations, many of them used in these forums.

The important issue here is that holebuster's wife is a lying and unfaithful cuckoldress, not a loving and sharing cuckoldress.

On every other point, jamesriske is absolutely correct. Dump her NOW, power her to take a paternity test on the baby if and when there is one. (Why did you change her pills?) It is possible to save the marriage, but that requires you to change your attitude about your wife screwing others (or making love to others, as you might wish to view it), since once a cheating wife, always a cheating wife, but you do not appear to be willing (unlike most of the rest of us here, including me).

Since you now have been introduced to cuckoldry, you might discover you like it. I think it is too late for you and your wife, though, since it did not start out as loving cuckoldry. The next woman in your life may be better suited to properly cuckold you. You could also be a bull for other married and committed women at the same time, variations on swapping and swinging.

Resist the violent reactions. It will only land you in big trouble, such as your lying cheating cuckolding wife getting everything in the subsequent divorce.

It's probably too late to transfer this thread to the proper forum, but you could instead just post a link or other reference to this thread from a brief post in the Cuckold World forum. That way, you'll get the proper audience for viewing and advice.