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Nedcuck
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# Posted: 15 Nov 2007 08:43:26
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My wife and I dearly love each other, but we have come to realize that our chemistry in bed is not exactly great. Could this be because we are both submissive?
She wants a man to just take her, even regardless of her needs. That makes her feel so slutty and horny. With the right tone she gets carried away easily.
But I am a sub-cuck and being the dominant male isn't exactly my role and it just doesn't convince her when I try. Whatever I try, I just don't seem to do it for her. All this feeds into my cuck fantasies so we decided it would be better for her to save her pussy for other men. We're both enjoying the game too.
Are there any others here in a similar situation?
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davowill
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# Posted: 16 Nov 2007 05:16:34
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Hi Nedcuck, yes we are/were in a situation like you describe, But I decided years ago to advertise for a Dominant male, be warned there are Dominant and the types,"strip naked" er... please, if you dont mind..
so make sure you weed out the non genuine Dominants, by asking what they would do in certain situations, to describe in detail any plans they would use in a session with you and your wife, then you meet him to decided if he fits the criterior. that does help prevent a lot of disapointed and wasted meetings.
Tell him how far you want him to go, set limits ask him what he wants out of the relationship, and meet at first at neutral places, motel rooms etc, his place might sound fine, but not until you have built up some trust.
then write out both your fantasies and asked them to make it happen.
even if it takes a while to set things up, it can lead to a lasting relationship.
we have had several dominant males over the years, a few giving complete control over us, at certain times on certain days, not knowing what is going to happen at the next session is mind blowing, but only with trust... if you want any other ideas contact me. davo
davo
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amaturedomguy
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# Posted: 16 Nov 2007 16:04:30
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Nedcuck,
Davo is quite right about there different types of doms and lots of wanna be doms who are just trying to play a role. You will certainly need to find the right one for your situation.
It can take some time and "research" to find the right fit, but the journey should also be half the fun.
Similarly, doms are constantly subjected to fake submissive types who either just get off on placing submissive ads or had some conversations in bed and decided to try it. They really have no intention on following thru however and just want to imagine what might have happened if they had.
One of my favorite types of relationships is to have both a submissive married man and woman at my feet. I have only had this pleasure with one othe couple and it was beyond great for all concerned. Perhaps we can discuss this further if the distance is not too great.
A
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meatyfister
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# Posted: 16 Nov 2007 18:30:03
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Nedcuck
Most of the wifes we (my wife and I) have taken under out wing have been from sub/sub relationships. They find it a turn on to submit to us, and their husbands are often included in play also.
Fuck your husband, by fucking us
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stubbyhubby36
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# Posted: 16 Nov 2007 18:34:03
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Nedcuck, we are very similar to you. I am very submissive and my wife, who works a job that requires her to be assertive and in charge, prefers a dominant man in bed who will take over and allow her to enjoy sex and make her feel dominanted and controlled.
davowill is right on with the types of guys that call themselves "dom". The wannabe doms will call before they come over, be hesitant in the bedroom, ask her to undress, want to cuddle after sex or try and verify that she enjoyed it, etc.
Truely dom guys show up whenever they want because they know they can have her anytime they want her, either tell her to get naked or just yank her clothes off unceremoniously, are typically forceful in the bed holding her down, pulling her hair or squeezing her tits, and will never be heard asking if she enjoyed it or thanking her for letting them fuck her.
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I love to be humilated over my little dick.
I watch you bareback her then I clean up.
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breakingrules
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# Posted: 16 Nov 2007 23:14:17
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Hmmm...looking at it from the Doms side, I'm not sure I would really even listen to the submissive hubby. Who is he to lay down rules? Just sit in the chair and shut the hell up, or I'll tie you to it and stuff a gag in your mouth.
In fact, I would make a point of breaking every one of your rules. I would probably ask her about her limits before hand though, and if they were too restrictive, I probably wouldn't get involved in the first place. A true dom doesn't let the submissive top him from the bottom.
I just love to find the girls who are willing to anything and just want to feel taken (or raped) and hubbies who want to lay down all types of rules. Oh how the hubbies protest when I bareback their wives really hard and cum in every hole, making sure I'm in there nice and deep, as they cry and beg for their helpless hubbies. Only to find out that its what their wives really wanted in the first place. Shattered images. Beautiful.
From my favorite wrestling T-shirt...
"Here...hold my headgear while I kiss your girlfriend"
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Married Dom
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# Posted: 17 Nov 2007 12:55:53
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I am not interested in most of the couples that I meet. Finding the female physically attractive is the east part. Much tougher is finding a pleasant and submissive female with a genuine submissive husband.
Trouble is most of these so called submissive husbands come across to me as hyper sensitive and bitchy. Such husbands so interfere with my chemistry that I simply have no interest. Most females seem to be able to play submissive and enjoy it but if I seem them dominate their husbands then their facade is exposed and again I lose interest.
I have had the very good fortune in my life to have met up with several sub-sub couples. One such encounter happened about a year ago at Hedo 2. They were in their early thirties and were ex-Mormons. He stood behind her in the pool with a big grin while she laughed at my jokes and took my hand and held it to her rather large and natural breasts.
Back in the room they kneeled next to each other and looked up at me. No word were necessary. I told her to stand and kiss my mouth and I told him to suck. They obeyed immediately. It was an incredible couple of hours.
MD
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breakingrules
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# Posted: 17 Nov 2007 18:26:04
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Couldn't agree with you more, MD.
You know the husbands are not truly submissive (or even accepting of their wife submitting to another man) as soon as they start in with their rules and limits. So you know you are dealing with a wife sharing or voyuerism situation at that point. Nothing wrong with that per se but it can result in conflicts when the wife truly wants to be submissive and doesn't necessarily subscribe to those same rules. That's a communication problem between them which they should really sort out before they involve another guy.
There are a lot of people who play in BDSM. And then there are those who live the lifestyle. I used to be a member on the ALT.com site and I found some really nice hard core lifestyle people over there. But I always made a point to distinguish myself as normally having dom tendencies, as opposed to claiming to be a Dom because I don't live the lifestyle. I learned that true Doms who live that lifestyle take it seriously and I was careful never to claim to be in that class, or to mislead people in anyway.
From my favorite wrestling T-shirt...
"Here...hold my headgear while I kiss your girlfriend"
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Nedcuck
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2007 01:11:02
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Interesting responses, thanks. I don't think there'd be many rules on our part. Really, all I want for my wife is that she gets regularly and properly fucked. I like the idea that she would walk around the house with another guy's semen in her lower belly, but not mine. 
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uktvbev
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# Posted: 26 Nov 2007 23:15:41
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Where are you?
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