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aaabob80
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# Posted: 3 Mar 2008 22:14:25
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is there any books or flims that i could get for my wife to read or watch on this lifstyle I have spoken to my wife about it sometime i think she is interested other times not, i thought if she knew more about it and how wide spread it is she might be more willing to try, any help would be good
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rick181au
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# Posted: 4 Mar 2008 20:45:41
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Don't know of any books or films on the subject, we were married 15 years when the wife went with her first "other guy" and it was her first other guy as I had taken her cherry when we were both 19 so it was a big BIG step for her.
We started off talking about sex with others when we were having sex, then I met an old mate that I went to school with who was in a nudist club with his wife and children which we went to with them and ended up joining, there we found an underground swinging movement which we were on the edge of, and it happened which opened the door for 25 +years of swinging, swapping and M F M 3/somes, we have now been married 45 years.
The only suggestion I can give is that you get your wife to start looking at sites like this one, keep putting opportunities in front of her, but never ever try and push her into anything she is not ready for, always leave her a way out if she wont's out.
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aaabob80
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# Posted: 4 Mar 2008 23:15:13
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thanks for the good advise, I will see what type of opportunities are around i will show her this site and you are right we need to talk more about it
thanks
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mejohn69
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# Posted: 8 Mar 2008 21:10:04
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when you work out how to get her to do it please share how!!!! Im still trying LOL
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jotri
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# Posted: 10 Mar 2008 03:22:58 · Edited by: jotri
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Look Bob, I found you have to be subtle at first. It's no good showing her anything too heavy like some of the topics/pics/etc on this site, you could very well freak her out. Imagine if she sifted through this site and found a pic of some cock pissing allover some girl's face, how do you reckon she might react?
Rick's right don't push her whatever you do, the woman's either gonna do it or she's not. It's a big decision to officially screw around on her husband. I treated the subject casually with off the cuff remarks every now and then just to plant the seed. I made sure she knew how important our relationship was to me by doing the little things that count eg gifts, flowers, little pecks on the cheek, in other words paying her plenty of attention without going overboard.
I'd tell my wife how hot I thought she'd look doing some young guy we'd see on the street or see in some cafe or pub, but then just drop it. Let her mull it over. At first she'd be taken aback but I'd just assure her it was no big deal.
Like I said plant the seed but reassure her subtlely that she means the world to you. Don't carry on as if it's an obsession, even though it probably is.
In the end it'll depend on her, just convince her it'd be more than fine by you if she ever felt the urge. She might never go for it, she might try it once (pray you get the right type of guy and she enjoys the moment), or like my wife it might become a habit for her, but to be honest I realise I'm one of the lucky few.
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twig
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# Posted: 11 Mar 2008 03:56:00
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Here is an interesting article that may help you
http://www.cuckyboy.com/cuckold/cuckold-resources.htm
How to Get Your Wife to Cuckold You
by Cuckoldress Roxanne
Most husbands start out trying to get their wives to cuckold them by putting the emphasis on "fucking other men." This is a critical mistake. Just because this idea turns you on, doesn't mean it is going to turn your wife on. Women think differently than men, especially married women---and the key word here is married. Women learn very early as little girls that being a good wife means being faithful to our husbands. We also have some pre-conceived ideas about marriage that makes the idea of cuckolding seem anti-marriage. Women are taught to nurture the relationship, not destroy it by fucking other men. Just because the husband says he wants it, it still does not make it right in our minds.
Men have to understand that in order for a wife to become a Cuckoldress. It is a process in her mind and during that process many hurdles have to be overcome mentally. The first hurdle for most women is "if I fuck someone else, what will happen to my marriage?" So take the focus off of "fucking other men" and put it on "enhancing the marriage." Remember, women think in terms of relationships and men think in terms of sex. Men are so stupid in how they approach their wives. You’re going to have to talk about re-defining the marriage and how it’s going to work as a cuckold marriage. Believe me, your marriage will change, once your wife gets more than that pathetic 4 inches you can offer her.
Let her know you’re serious and this is not some perverted whim that you're going through and will change your mind in two weeks. You must start communicating and a cuckold relationship takes more work then a normal one. If you are not willing to work at it then give it up!!!! Most of the cuck wannabes really do not want to work at it. If she cuckolds you, there will be plenty of work to do! So get used to it. You will not be giving her the cock she needs anymore, so you will have give her other things in the marriage. The next hurdle is to make her feel sexy. Take her shopping; buy her some sexy clothes and lingerie. If you do not have a dildo, purchase one from our store---and not one that is 12 inches. If the only cock that she has had is your little dick then I suggest something around 8 inches. A word of caution---do not shove the dildo all the way into her pussy the first time you use it!!!! Your wife needs to be stretched properly and prepared for a bigger lover slowly, and I repeat, "Slowly". She needs to feel sexy again. She needs to feel desired and wanted by other men. Have her wear the clothes and fantasize about other men while using the dildo.
Buy some movies; let her see how other sluts enjoy bigger cocks. If your wife has been conservative all her life, she will need to learn how to be the proper Cuckoldress Slut. Get a digital camera and start taking pictures of her all dressed up. Take her out to bars; take her dancing; get her used to going out and maybe some day she will go out and find some cock. Encourage her to go out on her own or with some girlfriends and come back and fantasize with you that she got picked up by another man. Encourage her to flirt with other men.
Take the fantasy a step further. Ask her if you can create a yahoo or msn profile with some picture of her and her email address. Place the profile under married but looking. See if you get any responses from other men. Fantasize about those men fucking her and you serving them.
My last bit of advice is to BE PATIENT. Even though she says she won’t do it, it doesn’t mean she is not thinking about it. Women are devious and it takes a while for us to tell our husbands what we really are thinking. If you engage her in the activities that I have suggested, then she is thinking about it.
Hope it helps you.
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melbhusb
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# Posted: 11 May 2008 15:37:07
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Me too anyone find the answer please let me know!!!! I cant even bring up the subject.
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redimac
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# Posted: 11 May 2008 19:42:39
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Um, start with telling her the truth. they work into it gradually as sugggested.
Joe Preston
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