Hotwife going cold . .

Hello all. New member here, but have been reading on this site for a while.

My wife of ten years has cuckolded me for about 18 months now, but for no apparant reason has lost enthusiasm for it in the last month or so.

She never had a perma bull or bf, and wondered if that may have been the issue. Also the one who she had emotional feelings for ended up being a wanker, so maybe that has damaged her feelings in this area? ALSO, and i know this is a problem for many . . . the many, many let-downsfrom promised visits - which means arranging babysitters/hotels etc etc and then being let down at the last minute.

What can I do to stop my hotwife going cold? She still happy dominates me and keeps my little cock under control and deprived, and we are very much in love, but i feel what was keeping it together was her experiencing other guys (she was a virgin before we met) and ENJOYING it - as she relished it, enjoyed humiliating me (still does) and very much enjoyed the large cocked bulls who made her cum so hard.

So - any tips, greatly appreciated.

(From the UK, hence posted in here, but will put in general forum to get a 'general' response as well)

My hotwife, Shar

Hi

we have had similar experience - the excitement and passion to start with turning into disappointment fairly quickly. All we have been able to think of is to meet like minded people where a real friendship can develop as well as the sexual side of things but, as I am sure you will have found, its easier said than done.

Good luck

SlinksnReg

i have found there are a hell of a lot of timewasters out there, but all the ones that have let me down have been couples.

would love to find a hotwife near me for reg fun, but its really hard going
J

I think even cucking is subject to the same as all swinging, it's not something that can be done 24/7 unless you live in a commune.

People have their own lives to live even committed bulls are gonna hve moments where they just wanna girlfriend for a bit.

When there are 3 in a relationship it takes alot more organisation and getting everyone ready at the same time is a whole lot more complex.

It's only an opinion but unless your gonna go the whole hog and have an open polyamours relationship that the whole world knows about, your relying on others to fit your fantasy into their lives and visa versa, so it maybe not as often as you wish but real life tends to be that way.

Were do you get your men from, it might be an idea for you to do all the leg work (let her approve the pics of the guy)and just get your wife involved when you know it's going to happen for sure.

That way she doesn't have to do all the boring stuff leading up to setting up a meet
The truth is a 3 edged sword

Hi,

Unfortunately, if you're going to use the internet to meet partners then you have to be prepared for a lot of disappointments. The guys that we arranged to meet always showed up but often we wished they hadn't! The biggest problem was that they often used ancient pictures of themselves. We met one very good guy via the net (and a few 'possibles') but to be honest, the most effective way was to let my wife find the guys herself. She enjoyed doing this and I enjoyed hearing about it. The advantages are obvious; she gets to 'observe' the guy first, she if she likes him, maybe do a little 'research' on him, etc. The downside is that the guys you meet and who take you up are more likely to be guys looking for a bit of discreet, naughty fun rather than being up for full-on "bull duties".

Hope that helps,

DeryckT
"We reveal ourselves through the language that we use."

d d d

Concentrate on your own lives together and make that work and only have third parties involved for that additional and occassional fun. It is only via your own relationship that you can have a long and happy time together. Bulls are there to be used for your pleasure even though they may get a little along the way. That is what is important.

I think Paul has made the sensible comment. No matter how much you may want to live a cuckold lifestyle............................life in general has to come first. Like any kind of sexual fantasy (and thats exactly what cucking is)...................it is what you make it that makes it all the more exciting.
I would love to be in a relationship where I was teased and denied/cuckolded. Sady thats not the case and I have to play out my fantasies as best I can.
But truthfully.................I wonder if I would be able to live a relationship like that anyway. Nearly all of my vanilla life is spent in being in charge (so to speak). I may play the part of a submissive......but I am not really that way inclined in my personal and business life.

If I were you. I would concentrate on the fun you both have together (without the interference of anyone joining in for a while). Look to use another man as your wifes little treat. Without any pressure in finding one.

A couple I knew lived a very happy cuckold lifestyle. She and he being extremely thoughtfull of each others fantasies and needs. There was no end of men they could find over the internet willing to fuck her..............which of course was his idea of humiliation.
But for her it was just being fucked by a stranger to add to the cuckold scenario. She wanted more because she enjoyed sex better if there was some kind of bond or friendship between her and her stud.
I had met them at a fetish munch as they were members of another message board and forum. We became friends because of an interest in something entirely unrelated to cucking.

But it was her suggestion after we had known each other for several months, to use my oral skills to humiliate her husband. As a wannabe cuck myself.....................it was a little way off my own dreams towards cuckolding. Nevertheless....... I relished the thought of being an oral slave and again at her suggestion. I wore her strap on to give her penetrative satisfaction.

It was a scenario where a cuck was used by a mistress to humiliate and torment her own cuck.

We are still friends, even though the playtime has ended because of them moving away from the area.

For me the fantasy of cuking is about fun, enjoyment and pleasure........and of course that comes in many different forms and ways.

Good luck.
stevensmiles

I would like to thank you all for your comments, ideas and advice. It has given me much to think about over the christmas period. I really am very grateful. I will update with whatever resolution comes about!