angloamericancouple
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Please allow us to introduce ourselves to this community.
My wife and I recently discovered this Site and, after a short while lurking, have decided to post a bit of background. We should say at the outset that we are not into �bulls� and �powerd bi� and all of that stuff that many write about here so, if that�s your thing, please browse on.
I am British and my wife is American. We met at College in UK eleven years ago and first went out together then. We split up for several years but got together again in 2001 and married in 2003. We live in London. Jo is 32 and I am 30.
The basis of our relationship is strict Femdom and my �powerd� chastity. However, it is ultimately a game genuinely played within a proper loving marriage. Neither of us loses sight of that. We get our sexual and emotional kicks whilst also liking the other�s company, conversation, jokes, interests and looks. And I�m allowed to say my cock is a perfectly respectable size.
When we went out together at College, it was a vanilla relationship, although we tried a bit of bondage. But by the time we got back together, I knew what I wanted. We began with occasional roleplay and bdsm, graduated to a permanent Femdom relationship, then onto strict chastity, and ultimately to cuckolding and a 24/7 lifestyle. At every stage, it was me who asked Jo to go further. Where I am lucky, is that she has never needed any persuasion. Far from it. And she has always taken the initiative on the details. For example, chastity is my number one kink and at the root of my submissiveness. Once I had convinced her I was serious and committed, she threw herself into research, testing and giving me what I craved. The same applies to my diet, exercise regime and all of the other abstinences and rules that I (sadly) feel the need to live by. I am also not allowed holy water, sport on TV or any pornography, except as approved by her and enjoyed jointly with her. Hence she�ll sometimes give me a glass of wine at dinner, we watch womens� tennis together on TV during wimredon and make joint visits to approved sites on the internet, such as this one, but I get absolutely no beer or spirits ever, no football and no girly magazines or xxx-sites on my own.
Cuckolding began when we were engaged and has continued throughout our marriage. Where we seemingly differ from many visitors to this Site, is that Jo has no interest in dominant �bulls� or one-night stands. When we agreed to try cuckolding four years ago, Jo said she would �suck it and see� (pun intended) on her terms; ie. her choice of partner, time, place, etc. Her preference is for romance and privacy rather than pure sex and with me present. Although I would probably prefer the latter, I have only witnessed her with other men during vacations abroad. I have of course accepted her right to do things her way. The rest of the time she mostly conducts her affairs during the day while I�m at work. Much of the time I don�t even know when and, often, not even whom. The fundamental rule is that she is allowed to have extra-marital affairs as she likes, and I am simply the unknowing husband. In fact, she says that months have gone by without her seeing other men but she doesn�t tell me one way or the other at the time. Her need for sex games with me in the evenings doesn�t vary much whether she has a daytime boyfriend or not. At times she takes a new lover and doesn�t tell me, although I can usually detect something�s up due to male intuition. I know there have been many occasions (I�ve seen and tasted the evidence) when she has cuckolded me but it is up to her what she tells me, I�m not at liberty to ask. To me, true presentation is accepting your domme�s behaviour and her rules without resenting it�s not exactly how you would do it, or trying to top from the bottom.
Only two other people know the true nature of our marriage. Otherwise our circle of friends know nothing or they�ve heard that Jo has had affairs but think that I don�t know. I find this in a way more embarrassing than people knowing the truth, since I think I�d rather be known as a kinky cuckold than a dumb bozo ! My mates think they�re being helpful by dropping hints and I have to ignore them or act in strict denial of the evidence. This became very difficult last year during the one and only time Jo had a relationship with somebody within our wider group of friends (very humiliating and exciting at the same time).
Unlike many on this Site, we do have sex together, including intercourse. Neither of us would have it any other way and to us our marriage would be a sham otherwise. Of course, mostly it�s bdsm-type sex and oral, fingers and vibrator for Jo. About twice a month we have penetration and it is my job to make it really good for her without coming myself. Then, if she�s pleased and merciful she will then either let me masturbate myself or make me come with her hand, or once in a while let me finish inside her. Like many on this Site, I prefer my own sexual relief to be �low quality� as well as low quantity. I get no oral, no perks. Jo watches me wank myself to the point of near orgasm about twice a week. Then, probably 80% of the time, she tells me to stop, orders me into a cold shower and locks me back up in one of our numerous chastity devices. I do not complain, just grit my teeth. It is, after all, what I�ve asked her to do. The other times she likes to finish me off herself, always just via casually disinterested one-handed release until I spew on the floor or into my cupped hand. Jo is highly proficient at letting go at just the right moment to make me reach orgasm but with no follow through. We watch my come dribble slowly out over several minutes as my erection gradually subsides. In answer to the usual question about frequency, there are only two rules (i) once a month minimum for health/prostate reamisters (ii) anything else is totally up to her. In practise that means an average of twice a month and a maximum of three times. After almost sixty months of this regime, I still struggle extremely hard to cope with the frustration, but that�s a good thing since if it were easy I would need her to impose even harder targets.
Anyway, that�s enough about us for now. We are totally genuine, not looking for partners but if like-minded couples or people want to get in contact, if only to exchange ideas/experiences, either with both of us or just with Jo, please feel free.
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