Just told her everything...now what?

Hello,

I'm a long time lurker. I've been on this site for years, indulging my fantasies, but this will be my first post.

My girlfriend and I are getting married soon, and we wanted to have an honest discussion about our sexual fantasies before then. We love each other very much, and we'd already integrated some femdom stuff into our sex life, which we both enjoyed.

I told her everything. My desire to be humiliated, dominated, and above all, cuckolded. She was initially open to the idea of me watching her with another man, but as we've continued to discuss the specifics, some problems have arisen.

Both of us are very concerned about damaging our relationship (which means more to both of us than any sexual kink), so we wouldn't want her to have any kind of romantic relationship with the bull. However, she is simply not comfortable being submissive to a man with whom she has no emotional connection. As a result, a great many things would be off the table. No kissing, no oral sex, and certainly no cum.

Now, I respect my wife's wishes completely, and I would never want her to do anything she feels uncomfortable doing. Nor would I want her to fake it for my benefit. That said, it seems like this would be an incomplete experience at best, at least for me.

We've been engaging in some role-play, which has been for both of us. However, it seems like we're leaning towards not going through with it. Neither of us knows how we'd really feel about it if we ever made it a reality, and given how limited it would be, I'm just not sure it's worth it.

I would really appreciate your thoughts and advice.

You need to get comfortable in your "own" relationship first before stepping out into the cuckold world. I would suggest its way too early given how you describe your situation. It sounds like it could happen down the road, but you need to focus on her and you first, then perhaps in a few years it could be? Hope this helps.

pops

Seems to me you need to both decide what you want and stop clogging up these pages with cuckolding fantasies with out a happy ending. Their are enough fantasists on here without you adding yours. Get real or go away until you are ready to enjoy the delights of cuckolding which seem
to be beyond one of you.

midnitexpress

IMO, popeye1 has given sound advice. 1) You yourself said it; your relationship is more important than your kink. 2) When your relationship is more mature and sex is not a make or break issue you can revisit including other people in your play.

I know how strong the cuck urge can be. My wife and I enjoy other men in our sex life but we love each other madly and have for many years. There's no way another man would be anything more to us than a live sex toy.

Good luck!
Faggot Pussy

Thanks for the advice.

I agree that we're not yet ready. Still, as far as us "getting comfortable" with each other or our relationship being "more mature," I'm not sure what you mean. We've been together 4 years, and I think the fact that we were able to be totally honest with each other about sex and we're still going strong is a great sign.

My question isn't so much if you think we're ready to do this. We'll come to that decision on our own. I just wanted to know if anyone had ever experienced something similar. That is, where your wife is willing to only to do certain things.

I know the reality will never totally match the fantasy, but I'm just not sure it's worth trying for real if it would only be some of what I want. At least when we're role-playing it's the total package.

I don't think this is a decision that we'll make for some time, but I appreciate your thoughts.

And Spiker, sorry you couldn't use my story as j/o material, but I'm a real person seeking real advice. I thought this was a community site, not just porn.