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hero69: She text me when she got there saying she felt sick That could just be nervousness. But even if nothing happens it's important not to act disappointed. No matter what happens be sure to be supportive (she may be disappointed too), and act appreciative that she at least gave it a try. The first time seldom goes as planned anyway. Let us know!!!! cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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I agree fully with PCC, I've been supportive and encouraging at all times, happy that she's trying whether anything happens or not.
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i122
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There is a good chance it will happen especially if she can get inside his house. Once inside if she kisses him he will be in her within minutes. Also know that after their first fuck if it is rewarding she will be fucking him on a regular basis.
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hero69
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Nothing happened guys.
Tell more later.
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bursting
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That's ok, life's like that, don't worry about it.
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SheDatesHeWaits
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Don't sweat it. Let us know what happened when ya can.
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That's a bummer but it is really important not to rush these things and make sure everybody is happy! It's time to love her and reassure her how much you love her.
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hero69
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So, instead of getting the text that I was hoping, I got this - On way home. I got a hug ️xx
She got home and was soaking wet, from running in the rain!! She said they had a quick chat at his door then he hugged her and told her to go get warmed up! So home she comes to me for a nice warm shower and a chat. She said she was nervous and that things did feel a bit different than their normal runs but nothing too much.
They have had a text exchange this evening since getting back. He has basically told her that he may seem confident but he is shy and would have loved to ask her inside to warm her up himself.
Her sports bra wasn't done up properly (coincidence?) so she asked him to check it. He mentioned in his texts that she is fun to run with and he liked doing up her bra, she replied with 'I'm sure you'd have more fun undoing it?' To which he replied 'he would definitely enjoy that more and so would she'. She text back 'doing that with a nice glass of wine in front of the fire would be fun' to which he has replied 'how's tomorrow night for you?'
This is much more concrete rather than the ifs and maybes of tonight, however I don't think the timings will work tomorrow which sucks!
As cocky as he was on text he didn't produce when it came to it!
Now I can see all the fucking frustrations involved that you guys have mentioned so many times.
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i122
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Until the actual penetration there is nervousness and uncertainty. Once he taste your wife's sweet pussy he will be in it every chance he gets. Hang in there and encourage her to push to get into his house the next time.
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hero69: As cocky as he was on text he didn't produce when it came to it! Yep! Now you see how frustrating this can be. LOL. Every guy isn't a super-confident, smooth-talking stud. Having said that, you're in good shape. The texts prove that he's definitely interested. He's just unsure about making that first pass in person. It may be up to your wife to make the first move. They've set the stage to take it farther next time (fireplace, glass of wine, etc.). I think this is a classic example of letting it unfold at its own pace. The difference in this case is that HE is the hesitant one, not your wife. Give it time and it will happen... very possibly the next time they run together. I'm excited for you! cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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Yes I agree with PCC. I think they are very close to making something happen. I know I have been in his shoes and wanted to make absolutely sure that she wanted it to happen and it's just not my misinterpretation of the situation. He also may have not been prepared for her that day ie his house may have been a mess or dirty sheets or something of that nature. Tell her the next time they are together to push the envelope by working her way inside and then kissing him. After the first kiss in private she will be penetrated for sure.
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Baby steps get Bob on the bus!
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out
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Excellent progress actually, stick at it, she's there and you're going have to hold on for this particular ride. Can't quite believe how similar your situation is to mine, pretty identical in almost every point and way, spooky! PM whenever you want  |
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Cheers for your support fellas.
That first kiss is coming, I'm sure. She is still VV keen so I dont think she will let things go without feeling him fucking her!!
Work and fam1ly make end of week visits more difficult but Im sure she/they will work something out.
We did send a few texts to each other last night -
Me: I reckon we could work something out so you can go round tomorrow if you fancy! It's more concrete rather than 'what if he does kiss me on a backstreet'. You could become the true Hotwife we want as soon as this time tomorrow! I'm getting hard and butterflies as I text this 😳😈 xxxx
Her: I'm not going round. I'll get him to invite me round one evening xx
Me: Hmmm sounds like you may have a plan? Xx
Her: Well I don't fancy going round tomorrow anyways. But it's a way of getting in there without being sweaty and needing a shower xx
As you can see she is still well into it.
Im feeling a bit numb at the mo (still horny, but not as much as I was when we were fantasising), a bit like 'do I really want this to happen?'. Maybe its because she is SO keen to fuck him that I feel that way. Its pretty much guaranteed that MY wife will be getting another guys stiff dick inside her!!!
Have you guys felt like this? Is it normal or am I biting of more than I can chew unleashing this beast within her?
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bursting has your wife hooked up with someone yet or are you still waiting for the first time it happens?
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Great stuff!
My lady has hooked up twice now, just groping and kissing, but really exciting for us both. Since then, he's a little shy, he really wants her and her likewise, but he's struggling to get his head round our situation and has taken a step back sadly. We're working on him and a few other potentials currently.
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We havent told our guy about me knowing. The fact that hes one of my customers and hes kind of in our social circle, I dont want him thinking we are weird! Does that make sense? Do you think it would be better to tell him as at the mo I'm sure he thinks its building to an affair? I so want to watch etc. but OH is unsure with this guy, she said it would have to be someone we didnt know before I could be involved!
Which country you in?
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PM sent.
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hero69: Im feeling a bit numb ... a bit like 'do I really want this to happen?' It's a step all cucks go through at the point when we realize that we started something which is now slipping out of our control. It's the beginning of classic cuckold angst. When that happened to me I focused on several things to keep from going crazy. First, I reminded myself that I was the one who initiated it. It would be very insecure of me to freak out. So I bit my tongue. Second, you need to trust your wife. She loves you. Yeah, she's excited about the attention and feeling giddy and she has butterflies, etc. But she started down this path because you asked her to do it, and she loved you and wants to please you. She wouldn't even be seeing this guy if you hadn't asked her to do it. Have confidence in your relationship. She's not going anywhere. Last... try to be genuinely happy and excited for your wife. This will be a growth experience for her, and she'll want to share it with you. That's the beauty of the cuck lifestyle. Encourage her to grow as a woman, and a sexual creature, and let the feedback from her encounters fuel a resurgence in your bedroom. You two will have incredible sex if you keep a "positive feedback loop". You're going to feel pangs of doubt, fear and jealousy. Don't give in to it. It just leads to negative emotions, and a downward spiral that will ruin everything. This is a chance for you to grow, too. Become stronger as a man. Trust her, even when she's out of sight at his place. It will be fine. She'll be back. It just a phase you're about to go through. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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hero69: Do you think it would be better to tell him as at the mo I'm sure he thinks its building to an affair? As I mentioned, we went through something similar and chose not to tell the guy that I was aware of everything. We decided that "we" (our marriage) was the priority, and didn't want to tell him and risk him letting our "little secret" out in the open. She saw him for several months, it spiced things up in our bedroom, and he was never the wiser about my knowing. I'm glad we didn't tell him. The risk of telling him is that once you do, you can't take it back. On the other hand, if you don't tell him then you always have that option of telling him. It's usually better to keep your options open. I hope that makes sense... cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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SheDatesHeWaits: hero69: Im feeling a bit numb ... a bit like 'do I really want this to happen?' It's a step all cucks go through at the point when we realize that we started something which is now slipping out of our control. It's the beginning of classic cuckold angst. When that happened to me I focused on several things to keep from going crazy. First, I reminded myself that I was the one who initiated it. It would be very insecure of me to freak out. So I bit my tongue. Second, you need to trust your wife. She loves you. Yeah, she's excited about the attention and feeling giddy and she has butterflies, etc. But she started down this path because you asked her to do it, and she loved you and wants to please you. She wouldn't even be seeing this guy if you hadn't asked her to do it. Have confidence in your relationship. She's not going anywhere. Last... try to be genuinely happy and excited for your wife. This will be a growth experience for her, and she'll want to share it with you. That's the beauty of the cuck lifestyle. Encourage her to grow as a woman, and a sexual creature, and let the feedback from her encounters fuel a resurgence in your bedroom. You two will have incredible sex if you keep a "positive feedback loop". You're going to feel pangs of doubt, fear and jealousy. Don't give in to it. It just leads to negative emotions, and a downward spiral that will ruin everything. This is a chance for you to grow, too. Become stronger as a man. Trust her, even when she's out of sight at his place. It will be fine. She'll be back. It just a phase you're about to go through. Thanks man. I have read about the mixed feeling hundreds of times but have never been close to actually feeling them. Its good to hear from guys who have already gone through it and are then happy to pass on their experience. We had amazing sex last night, including talking about the other guy. As she said something to me, I reacted in a way that made her say 'WOW, you just got so much bigger'. This, I think, re-affirmed in my mind that I do want her to go through with it and then we can take stock afterwards and see how we both feel. |
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SheDatesHeWaits: We decided that "we" (our marriage) was the priority, and didn't want to tell him and risk him letting our "little secret" out in the open. Funny you should say that. We were talking in the car about the situation and I mentioned that WE are the primary relationship and whatever happens should be for US both. She completely agreed too. She also said last night that if he ever wanted more than just sex then she would sever all contact and not even go running with him. She is definitely reassuring me that we, as a couple, are more important than any fuck buddy. I cant believe how lucky I am to have a wife so understanding and non-judgemental. We only started talking about this on 9th January 2015. |
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That last post is exactly the same as us and her thoughts on the matters.
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hero69: She is definitely reassuring me that we, as a couple, are more important than any fuck buddy. You're in that cuck "sweet-spot" right now. Things are wonderful between you and your wife... every day is more exciting... you've never felt closer... and the sex is probably the best you've had in years. And people still ask what we get out of this lifestyle. Ha... if they only knew... cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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I dont take any of these responses for granted guys. Thanks for your feedback and advice.
My wife has arranged a 'run' (whenever we talk about her going for a run I do "airquotes", which makes her smile shyly) this Saturday afternoon while I am at work. We are going out on Saturday night for a good night out while the k1ds stay at grandmas! She has been texting him gently telling him to not be so shy so maybe this time there will be no confusion/shyness and it will hopefully happen. She is SO keen for me to 'reclaim' her that she has said she will try to get as ready for our night out as she can before I come home from work, then I am going to fuck her well used pussy. She also told me that when I am reclaiming her she doesnt want to cum, she wants me to fuck her hard and that I am the only one who should cum to complete the reclaiming. I like how much thought she has given this and that I should get as much from the meet as I can even though I wont be there.
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hero69: She also told me that when I am reclaiming her she doesn't want to cum, she wants me to fuck her hard and that I am the only one who should cum to complete the reclaiming If that's what she pictures as the perfect way to complete the night, then by all means accommodate her. There's an added benefit, too. Cumming with him, and not with you, is actually one of the ways to create and reinforce a preference for sex with other men. If you repeat that pattern often enough she'll gradually begin to associate other guys with her own orgasms. It's basic behavioral modification... cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker |
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SheDatesHeWaits: There's an added benefit, too. Cumming with him, and not with you, is actually one of the ways to create and reinforce a preference for sex with other men. If you repeat that pattern often enough she'll gradually begin to associate other guys with her own orgasms. It's basic behavioral modification... I hadnt thought of it that way, I just assumed she wanted me to get maximum pleasure. I dont think I want her to have preference to sex with others. I want her to love sex with other men then come home and love sex with me! Am I delusional? Will the fact that she is now free to fuck others mean she will fuck me less or enjoy it less? |
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hero69 I'm sure she wants you to have maximum pleasure and to focus on your enjoyment as you reclaim what you loaned out.
However, what you're about to experience is so intense that it can become addictive. You'll want her to do it again and again. In order to ensure that happens you also want her to have great sexual experiences with others, including great orgasms (positive reinforcement). Don't be threatened by it. It's just laying the groundwork for her to continue doing it.
This is just the first step. You'll have plenty of time to figure out what you two want it to become, and to adjust along the way. Some cucks/couples enjoy the idea of her "preferring other men", just as many are aroused by the wife "preferring a bigger cock". Over time you'll figure out which elements turn you on, and how far you want to go with it. Don't sweat it for now. You're just starting...
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SheDatesHeWaits: Don't sweat it for now. You're just starting... You're right. No point worrying about what the future may hold when we can decide together where we want it to go. |
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hero69: I want her to love sex with other men then come home and love sex with me! Am I delusional? Will the fact that she is now free to fuck others mean she will fuck me less or enjoy it less? You are not delusional, look at it like this. She goes out to "fuck" him and comes home to "make love" to you. You get to "reclaim" her. For a short time I was able to enjoy this with my wife, and it was the hottest thing you could ever experience. Oh how I miss it. Good luck and thank you for sharing your story |
