Requesting thoughts and opinions of the real CP folks.

I am posting here because I have read so many of your real world posts and enjoyed them so much. Yes there are alot of creeps and complete idiots here but also a lot of good people. I think your thoughts might be insightful. I hope so. I want to run a scenario by you and get your opinions if you care to chime in. I am especially interested in what men and women on here who have some real experience in the lifestyle and not just fantasy have to say. I have learned over the years that there are some very genuine, intelligent, well spoken, creative and kinky folks on this site. Folks with families- folks who have very normal lives but behind the scenes and out of the public eye have this cuckold/hotwife/bull scenario going on in their lives to some extent or another. It is your opinions I seek most and hope to share with my better half. You guys are cheaper than therapy.

Back Story-years of discussions about swinging and cuckold type fantasies- very limited experience with reality- one swinging experience but nothing extensive- mostly fantasy and most fantasies were mine more than hers. Over the years we have started using toys alot- at this point toys much bigger than me. We usually break out the big guys during oral sex and the big toys with my tongue tend to do the trick nicely for my wife.

Recent Events- Very long story slightly condensed- wife had affair with someone she knew as a long term , but not shared aquaintance- not very local and most of the affair was via text messages. She had months of intermittent contact with this guy. Lot's of dom/sub play. She being his sub. Texted about things she likely wouldnt enjoy(like anal with huge cock) but got off on the secret slutty things she was saying to this guy. She liked the power she had over him just by playing along with him- said even playing sub made her feel powerful because her words had such power over his reactions. . She said it was also safe because it was text only and was supposed to stay that way, WAS being key word. She even said she never spent time masterbating to the texts as they weren't usually in real time( they were on different schedules and he has gf) but she enjoyed it. It added spice to her life. She even used some of "his" words on me in our own sexting games. As she played his sub she played my dom via text. Quite convoluded and quite hot if you get past the deception. This went on for 3 or 4 months and then she met him in person for the 1st time since this had started. She says she didnt anticipate it would get as heavy as it did, I say either she is very nieve or kidding herself. Dont want to call her a liar, especially since she'll be reading this, but I still think if you are having that type of relationship and you go see the person- you know the guy is going to want to fuck and most of the time id think so would the women. But I will take her at her word that she didnt think it would escalate so quickly. Anyway- they met in person but it didnt go well. It did at first. She liked the kissing but kissing quickly turned to her clothes coming off- and then his. He rubbed his cock around her ass thinking he might fuck her ass as that was big texting subject, but the problem was she doesnt like anal in the real world- only text world- so she told him "not happening". She had a tampon in cause she was sort of spotting( i also think she put it in so she could use it as excuse if she needed to) Regardless, he went down to lick her a bit and told her he didnt care about period- she said she did and had him stop. So she then decided it would be best to know where his cock is so he got a 15-30 second BJ. And for those who want to know- he is much bigger than me- called it two hands thick- mine can be handled quite easily with one. She confessed that from the time clothes started coming off she had been freaked out. 20+ years together flashed in front of her and all that means- friendship- love-family etc. and also her own usually high morals and then this sexual encounter ended before it really started. She stopped the BJ and told him "im sorry i gotta go-I shouldn't be doing this ". He wasnt shocked and didnt push the issue. He asked if he could finish himself and he jerked off to completion as she got dressed and left. Not exactly a good sexual experience for anyone involved. She got all the guilt but none of the pleasure of cheating. That makes sense cause she is a really good person. And truthfully only reason she was likely open to any of this from the start is the years of conditioning from our sex life with hotwife, cuck , IR porn and big sex toys. She has been exposed to a lot of videos and concepts I have found here. This has not exactly been a taboo subject over the years in our bed.
So- it's been a month or so since I busted her as she made the mistake of not deleting dirty texts. One night I cracked her cell password and found more than I bargained for. The sex texts were still going on but she said she didnt plan to meet again because of her fucked up in person experience. But she was maintaining text contact cause after she got over the shock and awe of reality because she still enjoyed the safe text play. He was telling her maybe she should tell me about them and perhaps that would make her more comfortable if I was involved. Unfortunately, it didnt go down that way so we will never know. He was also kind of an ass to her after I found out so even if she and I were open to exploring reality together it wouldn't be with him. That said, in the month of so since this all came to light we have rediscovered each other. We found out that we dont just love each other, but are still "in love" with each other. Each of us has a new appreciation for the other, make that a renewed appreciation, and we know it isnt wasted effort to make our marriage work and get past this moment. We also have a very satisfying sex life. We are good friends. Like many long term married couples we have had our ups and downs. Until the last 3 months or so we had an extended "down period". Part of her guilt came from the fact that just around the time of her encounter we had started to click again- and then in the weeks after really started to click. She has been consumed by guilt and once I found out was almost relieved to be able to discuss things with me as she had been keeping it all inside and discussing with no one.

So why am I posting here? We don't know where we will go from here. She said what made things safe for her, atleast until reality occurred, is that I was ALWAYS pushing her to try the things we fantasized about- I wasn't content with leaving things fantasy only. If is got her off the night before I would push to try it for real. Over the years that pushing made her less likely to share her fantasies with me as she is afraid they'll be used against her so to speak. With her sexting bf- she felt a safeness in it cause it wasn't ever supposed to be real. And when reality occurred- she couldn't enjoy it at all. Now why is that? Is that because it just isn't in her nature to explore reality and things should be left for fantasy only between us in the safety of our own bed and our own minds? Is it because she didn't include me and since she loves me- and knows I have her back- she couldn't relax and enjoy a different lover as a cheating wife? For now we have left things at I will no longer push for reality and she will try to be more open to sharing her turn ons and kinks with me as she did with him. Even though she enjoyed playing sub for him she likes control. She enjoys her sexual power over me- atleast in theory. I cant help wonder that if she had handled her situation more honestly, perhaps it could have led down an exciting road for both of us. Truthfully I don't know if I could handle reality- but I do know that there is a HUGE difference between an honest open exploration and cheating. I will not tolerate being deceived and betrayed nor nor do I think she would go down that road like that again. She really feels horrible. As I told her- if I judged her on this moment alone perhaps we would be in a much worse place right now. But she has earned the right to be forgiven because her body of work over half a lifetime together warrants forgiveness. None of us should be defined by our worse moments. But this situation definitely tapped in to something inside her. She enjoyed the psychological aspects immensely. Perhaps we will find online play with a bull satisfying and safe as a way to explore together. I have promised I wont push for reality anymore and I wont......but still I wonder. Thoughts , advise or input greatly appreciated CP.

Ikitkinke you have a situation on your hands don't you. I'm sure that a lot of us can relate to all or part of your situation. First let me say that when actually meeting someone new for the first time can be a powerful, stressful and emotional experience. I'm sure she was excited to be there with him but also full of guilt and indecision. She wanted the excitement of this new experience but at the same time couldn't contain her fears and beliefs of the Social chains of monogamy placed upon married couples. I'm sure with encouraging words from you telling her that experimenting sexually is ok and that you actually want her too do it may help. Convince her that if she keeps you in the loop as opposed to sneaking around behind your back the next experience will be more enjoyable.

Yes there will be a next experience. You said she still enjoys decaying with this guy so there will be another attempt. I it may not be with this guy but she will do it again rest assured. One of the ways I was able to get my wife to relax a little was by caming in internet chat rooms. I would log into a chat room them get her involved in the conversation. Sooner or later someone would want to show her their dick or ask her to show them something or even other couples having sex on cam. This alway lead to us fucking on cam also. After a while she was a lot more relaxed and it helped quite a bit.

One other thing you mentioned was how much closer you two were after her affair and how much better the sex was. I have found that to be true too. You read all these stories on here about the wife denying hubby sex after she takes a lover. I have found that to be mainly fiction or at least in our case. I think having a lover is a boost to the wife's ego therefore she feels more sexy and desirable which translates into more and better sex at home with you.

Convince her that she should explore her sexuality and enjoy the ride. Just make sure she agrees to keep you involved. Also make sure she understands that the affair is for a good time not a long time - meaning keep the emotions at home where they belong. Just us the other guy for wild crazy and purely physical sex.

Tell her that the next time she is meeting another guy you want her to sext pic's of them together to you. Them reply with affirmation of your desires. That should relieve some of her guilt and stress allowing her to enjoy the coupling more than the last time. When she gets home greet her with love and affection. She may reward you with a new found kinky erotic lifestyle that you or her never could have imagined in the distant past.

Thank you for taking the time away from your ridiculously hot story about the cuckold club to give your input- appreciated! Is that story true?

I wish I could say it is a recap of one of our adventures but it is mostly just a fantasy story. The wife has dated in the past and in all likelihood will also in the future but she has always shyed away from group environments.

550 views and only 1 reply. There was a time on CP when a post like this would have garnished a few replies only because it's true. I hope this doesnt mean that because of all the recent CP censorship drama that all the real folks are gone. Still would welcome other opinions and/or advise from anyone who has any real life experience along these lines.

lkitkinke
I have another thought. My wife was uptight also. I belonged to several web sites that had video sharing and chat rooms. I posted some of our vids and after they were up for awhile I let her read the comments. Next I introduced her to chatting. She soon learned that some of the folks in the chat room were also the same ones who had commented on our pic's & vid's. This brought some familiarity to the conversation. At one point we were chatting and the other couple/guy ask to see her tits. I pull her shirt up and off with no resistance. One thing led to another and as she was watching a guy jerk off to her bare tits he told her to suck my dick for him. She bent down and took me into her mouth. The next thing I know we were fucking on cam with a couple others and a whole bunch of guys jerking off and cheering her on. We did this quite of yet for the rest of the summer.

It was a fun way of putting her at ease and making her comfortable. She was safely in our own home with antimony but still having sex with others. Try it and let us know what happens.

We have done the chat room thing in the past and I have asked her if it is something we can do again. (i recevied your pm- perhaps we can arrange to meet you in chat room sometime) June is a crazy month in our world but I am hoping over the next few weeks we can find some time to once again explore the chat rooms together. I think she also needs a little time and distance from her encounter. It was hot for her but also a bit tramatic in the end because of how I found out and a few other aspects of the situation. But things are getting back to normal- a new normal perhaps but maybe a better one based on how we are feeling about each other these days. I know that regardless of what she says this whole thing added a spark to her world that was real- and a spark that is hard for a husband or long term bf of 20-30 years to provide. Like you said in one of your posts somewhere along the line i122, maybe she's tired of the same cock, tongue, guy and routine after all this time and needs a change up.

Thanks Linda 38DD for the private message with your thoughts. I appreciated you taking the time to write me as you obviously have experience with all this and I think my wife will welcome any female perspective when she reads this. She has only read my original post- not sure she has seen the few replies yet- but she will.

I continue to welcome any other thoughts. The one thing I used to love about this place back in 2006-07, is there was alot of folks who chimed in on posts like this. I hope the lack of response to my post is because no one finds it an interesting story and does not signal the death of this place. Cuckold captions are AWESOME- but I hope that isnt all CP has left to offer those of us who are in a place in our lives that isnt just based in fantasy.

Guilt still seems to be getting in the way of any serious role play on this subject between us. Seems she can tease me via text on the subject but is having problems verbalizing things face to face. She did use the word "cuckold" in a text recently- that was hot! Wish this subject had gotten a greater response- but thanks to Linda and i122 for your insights- appreciated! Maybe to get a decent response from a post you have to post a pic of your wife- so here is the a pic starting from the very bottom....though not sure we'll be working our way up

Thanks for sharing your story. I enjoyed seeing it - as it was in many ways similar to my own. My gf cheated on me, and I busted her same day. I had ongoing fantasies cuckolding and fucking other women, but the dishonesty made it my head spin.

The combination of being hurt and turned on is confusing. In the end, I was able to find forgiveness, fuck her brains out and later found that her infidelity was a chance to get her to open up more, leading to more experiences, and some openness in our relationship. In the end I think it brought us closer together - I got to find some other ladies for sex, (still can) and she has fulfilled our shared fantasy of her fucking a huge black guy... I figure we only live once and don't yet have kids. Carpe Diem.

Thanks Taco. You are so right about the combination of hurt and turned on being confusing. The range of emotions over the past couple months has been intense. But I have found forgiveness and am loving our renewed level of intimacy, affection and sex life. She hasnt jumped in with both feet yet regarding any fantasy/roleplay about all of this- and doesnt seem ready for a chat room even though I would love to be in the bed with her while she chats it up with a bull the way she did with her bf. But we have made progress- the other night while we were texting prior to her coming to my office to give me a BJ, she referred to me as "my little cuckold with the great tongue"- she almost didnt need to give me the BJ after that......almost

The other day the wife and I were arguing over what else > sex! I ask her if she was fucking someone else because she certainly wasn't fucking me. She said no to which I replied, I think you should because when you're fucking someone else our sex life is always so much better. She then took a shower got dressed and left. Said she was getting out of the house for a little bit. About 3 hours later she returned in a much better mood. I asked her who she visited and was he good but she just smiled and said, adequate. I am telling you this because even though I told her that she needed to get laid there was that hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach thinking that she may actually be taking another man into her sold warm playground.

P. S. On a sad note she still didn't give me any pussy.

She's getting good at this via text- sends me to my office to jerk off before giving me a bj and this was our convo prior to her arrival...

me: I'm naked and waiting for you

wife: take your pinky finger and use it while you stroke your cock for me. When I get downstairs my pinky will be the highlight

me: Im stroking with my pinky and thumb mistress

wife: good bitch- keep that up

wife: nice and fast! Is that how you like it? Are you doing what your told

me: not too fast- don't want to cum too quick.

her: don;t you dare cum!

me: Im watching a hottie in black bra and panties, dark har like you and wearing reading glasses- she's sucking a big black cock. Guess what, his cock is bigger than mine. Can you believe that?

wife: Do you think she's prettier than me? Of course his cock is bigger than yours!

me:Not even close in looks mistress. You would look so much better with that magnificent cock in your hands and mouth than she does.

wife: well good, then think of me now. You can do that right? Imagine it was me in the video you are watching getting the cock I deserve

me:I always think of you when I watch porn and imagine you getting the cock you deserve!

me: when you come down are you going to use two hands on my cock(inside joke as she had confessed guy she cheated with had two hander)

wife: No my bitch- I only need one hand for your cock! Keep stroking your little penis for me!

me: you came so hard last night with that big dildo deep in your pussy while my tongue was in your ass- i love tongue fucking your ass! A guess a cuckold better be good with his tongue huh?

wife: you fit the bill- you are GREAT with your tongue. Your my little cuckold with the great tongue!

Needless to say the back and forth between us meant when she arrived to suck my cock she didnt have to put in much time We continue to find our way and find our new normal. Happy weekend all!

Last nights convo-

wife: you are great with your hands too- my little cuckold with the great tongue and hands.

me- Makes my cock hard when you call me your cuckold

wife- I know like a good little cuckold. Better be stroking my bitch.

me- I am mistress - word cuckold is so hot. who made me a cuckold?

wife- I did! It's what you have always wanted....right?

Wow and Ouch

So obviously her next step is sexting you telling how hot the guy she is with is and how much she will enjoy fucking him and then pic's of her and her lover together. Maybe a little before and after pic?

Not sure what the next step is. Best advise I have received is to take things slow and keep taking baby steps. We have come a long way in a short time. It isnt just the sexting that has been hot but we have also laughed alot more and genuinely enjoyed each other more since this all went down. Neither one of us taking the other for granted these days and the spark between us that lit the fires of this relationship so mnay years ago is still very much alive and well between us. My big mistake over the years with regard to swinging, cuckolding and anything left of center in the bedroom was my sexy wife would give me an inch and I'd try to take a mile. Now I'm going to be happy with the inches she gives me until she expresses an interest in more inches than I can provide. (pun intended)

I am not in the best position to provide advice as I wasn't so successful in my own endeavors. But if I were in your position, I would use the momentum to build the relationship between you two first. Tell her you love her and never doubt that you are saying it too much. I think you are doing well in teasing with each other and playing with the fantasies. Be patient with this stage. If you find a nice and attractive guy, introduce him as a friend first and then explore the possibilities. Of course, if you have ever slight doubt that this person may break your family, then don't proceed. In my view, an open marriage of any kind must have a very strong foundation.

Very good advice testing. Slow is the way to proceed for the best success

Thanks guys( and Linda 38DD) for your advise and interest in my situation- appreciated!

Just a quick update for those who took time to respond to or read our tale- Tonight's activity is exploring my wife's dom fantasies.

Kool let us know how the night went

It was great. I am not going to write a book because I am pressed for time. Did get permission to post a couple pictures( 1st time we have taken any since early 90's) Was more bondage than anything else. She has been harsher with whip/crop when I wasnt tied up. The tying up part was fun and exciting. She rigged a cool system using posts of our bed- I had restraints on wrists and ankles along with a collar with a leash. My hands were then cuffed together and the rope pulled them up in the air. Legs were spread. I was blind folded and briefly ball gagged- but then agreed to stay silent and was taken out. Session included a vibrating bullet under my balls in the crack of my ass entire time. There were some smacks with riding crop but not as hard as in past. She teased me from head to toe- she bit my nipples- she gave me a sloppy BJ and would kiss me every few minutes letting her spit and any pre-cum drip in my mouth. She used a hot cloth on my cock and then ice. Because of the way she had me bound she could not get to my face so never sat on my face (though that was in her plan) Instead she rode my cock to her orgasm- then she left me alone for a while. I had made a video for us that included 100's of cuckold captions in a slide show set to music- because i was blind folded i could only hear the music. ( she said she enjoyed reading "my porn" during session) She came back after 15 minutes- i was still hard. She gave me another BJ and told me not to cum until she said. She then undid one hand and told me to stroke my "little cuckold cock" for her. She talked very dirty to me as I shot my load. At the end she said "she didnt like how the positioning of my arms and hands so NEXT time she will come up with something different". Next time- yes!!

lkitkinke
That sounds like a great night. Bondage can be a little tricky to get right. She has the right idea though. You try something then improve on it till you find the best angle/position/combination etc. If you want to kick it up a notch next time have her stick a vibrating plug up your ass while she is riding you. She will be able to feel the vibe through your dick in her pussy. While she is riding you engage in sex talk about her fucking another guy while you're helpless to do anything but watch. After you cum in her have her slide up your chest and sit on your face. She should role play telling you that it's from another man. Possibly after a few sessions like that she may consider trying the real thing. If not at least the sex was good right!

Sex was great! It was the farthest we have ever taken our dom/sub play and the 1st time it included being tied from head to toe literally. Plus I was thrilled she rode my cock to a great orgasm. Nice to know that my "little cock" as she called it before she put it inside her,(really more like hopelessly average) still gets the job done! To those who have reached out here and privately, thanks for your continued interest. I appreciate the support and advise I received from you. Thankfully there are still a few of you around who take some interest in reality. I miss some of the old guard from CP who seem to hacve vacated this place- they offered such good advise to other guys in "situations" over the years. Too bad I didnt need it sooner

As for the future- taking everyone's advise and going slow. I don't know where all of this will lead but as long as we keep enjoying each other both in and out of the bedroom I'm sure it will be a fun ride. Thanks again!