Telling your girl you're a cuck!

This post originated as a response to - "Basic Cuckold / Ways to secretly convince your wife/gf into becoming slutty."

I always read posts from guys on here asking how do I tell her and describing some sort of big talk. I don't think it has to be such a big talk. I think a lot of guys on here are so insecure in their feelings regarding the cuck thing that they make a big deal, where there is none. Just be yourself, part of you is this kink and she'll get to know it. You're the one hiding it.

Even though I am a cuck, I dated a lot before getting married. As I got a little older and comfortable with my kink, I just started letting girls know about it as I got to know them.

I would bring up the fact that promiscuous women turned me on.

When ever I would see a girl in a slutty outfit, I would tell my girlfriend, I wish I could take you out in an outfit like that.

I would ask lots of questions about their sexual pasts, getting them used to talking to me about enjoying other men.

Tell them when a guy was checking her out, goof around and get her to flirt a little. Just regular mundane things like lot.

Once a girl feels comfortable that a. Your not going to treat her like a slut after she acts like a slut and b. That you are not doing this to get other pussy, most will take to the lifestyle.

I had a fantastic cuck relationship with my ex-gf and y my wife cucks me now and it's becoming a pretty regular thing.

I have brought up the cuck thing with 5 women to some degree and never got a negative reaction. I am not saying they all fucked a guy while I watched that same week. It took a while before we were all comfortable enough to actually do something. Ultimately, I really only did the full cuck thing with two of them, but I still had hot times with the others just talking and fantasizing about.

But anybody who is seriously dating a woman and is not sharing his cuck desires with her has no real excuse. Grow a pair and tell her you want her to be a slut. In the final analysis, trust me, it's a pretty good deal for them too.

And what is the worst thing that can happen she thinks you're a pervert. I know there are women who don't think their husbands are perverts, they are called bored wives.

The worst thing is I am sure there are some wannabes on this site, whose wives are cucking them, yet communication is so bad that they don't know they've reached the promise land yet.

Another thing you need to remember when first dating a girl. At some point a woman will tell the man she's dating about so and so, some friend or acquaintance that is promiscuous.

She will tell you a story about her friend doing something slutty and then ask, "don't you think that is terrible?" "don't you think she is a slut?"

Realize you are no longer talking about her friend. Because she is thinking back to some time when she did something just as slutty. What you say about her friend, is what she knows you would think of her if you knew?

I don't think I need to tell you what your answer needs to be concerning her "friend's morality." But I know, somewhere in my answer I would suggest that she hang out with so and so more often because she sounds like so much fun.

In short, I think the most important thing is that your wife know that you will never judge her for doing the sick perverted disgusting things you dearly want her to do.

Good post! Much more interesting than the recuring fantasy blather that you mostly find on these kinds of boards.
darslangly

bravo! well said.

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I agree. Good read. Thanks for posting.

in my humble opinion the woman declares the husband a cuck. Not hubby himself.
stupid questions dont exist...
stupid answers however....

luvpain,

your opinion should be humble, since it is wrong.

Maybe if I was a little sissy with 3" dick, I would get lucky enough for two consecutive women to "declare me a cuck," but since I am not, I saved myself a long wait by communicating. Imagine that, communication within marriage, what a concept.

Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut and kept fantasizing, I am sure you know a lot about this.

but why so often they hate talking about it but ok doing it?

hotwifeformen,

That is an interesting question, I don't know, as I had never thought about it before.

I suppose a reason might be that at the talking stage, a girl who is not really into it, just has no inclination to talk about it. It is in many cases our fetish and our wives indulge us. Now at the fucking stage, there is a real life guy there that they are going to have a natural inclination to fuck.

My wife does get into the fucking a lot more than she gets into the talking about it.

for_fun_and_games

Plain and simple, the decision is the hotwife's to make. If she says no, imaginary cucky it is. (like most here)
Joe Preston

I couldn't agree more with, for fun and games, his situation is almost identical as mine with very similar outcomes...and yes i approached it in the exact same way as he has with my ex's and now again with my current partner.

I think this was very well written, quite insightful and would recommend this approach to any guy wanting this lifestyle to become reality, this method in my eyes would give it its highest probability.

Well done.

Communicating your feelings and fantasies is one thing, allowing you to live them is another.
Joe Preston

Very true, i agree, if she ain't into then she just ain't. If thats the case, you push it and you'll fuck your marriage, you get her to do when shes not really into it and you'll fuck your marriage. At that point enjoy just jerking off to it i say.

For me, as with my current gf, i told her on our second date that i only enjoy being with promiscuous women, she wasn't at the time, but was very much so in her younger years and admitted she really enjoyed it then, so we both thought lets just see where things go.

All i knew was, she knew how i felt and she admitted she enjoyed it in the past. Now she enjoys even the hunting down of possible lovers even if they don't pan out it the end.

Redimac,

That is precisely my point.

By communicating early, you know if she's going to go for it or not, before you get married. Honestly, I wouldn't marry someone who could not satisfy this need.

If already married, better to bring it up before you have kids, since you can still get out if it is important enough to you.

If you already have kids, then you're fucked if she does not want to go for it, since only an asshole would divorce his kids' mother because she wont sleep with other guys. But still better to know you're fucked asap.

And by the way, why is it us fucking up our marriages if we push? Why isn't it the wife's ruining the marriage, by refusing to play. Hey, when a woman marries a dude, she makes herself responsible for satisfying him sexually.

Now come on, is fucking another guy really that much to ask? Really?

Another benefit of telling girls while dating, like Slinky and me is that not all gf's turn into wives, but if you turn all gf's into hot-gf's, you get to have more fun. I had great times with my ex-gf doing this stuff and I am glad I was able to experience that with her.

It also helped me to figure out what I really wanted before getting married. You actually need to do some of this stuff before you really start to figure it out. What is a turn on in fantasy is not always in real life and vice versa.

for_fun_and_games , you seem to have a leveled head and I like your thinking and outlook.

Would agree to all you said in the post above.

Allow me to ad a suggestion for the rest:
You wannabe cucks could start searching for chicks on sites like collarme.com (free) or Alt.com or similar BDSM sites. There, men can post as "submissive" and openly show their kinks. You may just find the right one.

I did. Although I am not submissive (she is), we now live a wonderful married life together and "cuck" each other (she thinks that real men never stop hunting. When she said that first I knew I have to marry her).

So find your own style and be upfront.

Don't try to find a conservative girl on "christian-dating" sites and then turn her into a slut. It may work or it may end up in a lot of drama (the likely outcome).

Go directly to places where open minded chicks hang out....

Good Luck all and keep it real.

Good post blond, I agree with all, especially:

"Don't try to find a conservative girl on "christian-dating" sites and then turn her into a slut. It may work or it may end up in a lot of drama (the likely outcome)."

There are some girls that will go get banged right after church (I should know, the ex-gf I write about was a Sunday School Teacher, lol), but generally speaking your religious conservative girl is not gonna go for this.