Whether to tell your kids

All fantasies aside, I've been thinking about the serious question of whether it's right to tell your kids about your cuckold lifestyle and the conclusion I've come to is that it is.

The obvious concern is that you will traumatize your youngren by telling them that mommy has a boyfriend and daddy's cool with it. But there's a more sinister danger here in that you'll almost certainly traumatize them if you lie about it and they figure it out.

If the cuckold lifestyle is something you openly discuss, then your kids will see it as acceptable too. If you hide it, you're sending the message that you're deeply ashamed of what your doing and if (when?) your kids figure it out then they too will be ashamed. What exactly you tell your kids isn't as important as how you present yourself. You lead by your example and if the example you set is that you're both closet perverts whose sex life is a danger to society, then that's how your kids will feel about you.

A good analogy is a friend of mine whose lady outed herself as a lesbian when were teenagers. She started dating women and when she'd established a steady girlfriend she let her stay over. Did this traumatize my friend? No! All of our friends knew Steve's mom was gay. It was juicy schoolyard gossip for about a week and then nobody cared. Nobody cared because nobody was ashamed. If someone had shouted at Steve "your mom's a dike!", he would have shrugged and said "and?"

If you shelter your kids from reality and treat them like a fragile snowflake then that's exactly what they're going to become.

Oh well, the kids are going to figure it out anyway. Like I was only 11 when mom got pregnant with her boss while still married to dad. I mean, how stupid would I have to be? Dad wasn't into the femdom-bi-CD-TV cuck-in-panties scene. He was a pretty ordinary guy, only now he's like way rich and living with a girl my age, and mom is still living in Section 8 housing (that's liberal-speak for "the projects") with my half brother.

Was I traumatized? Well, not by the cuck thing, which I thought was pretty stupid. I mean, I'm older now and I think it's way hott, but then I was like, "eewe," and then mom started dating these young guys where their age, collar-size, and IQ are all in the low 20's. Man, when I was 18 I was out of there so fast!

So anyway, don't worry about the kids. No one else does. I mean, the lady's womb used to be a symbol for the safest place. Now more kids die there than anywhere else. I didn't think about that until I met Kristie. Her mom got ****d, and Kristie was the result. She shoulda been sucked into a sink, but her mom was Catholic, like I used to be, and believed in all the "life is sacred" stuff, even in **** and ******. I don't know, but that's what SHE believed, and what you believe makes a difference in your life, whether you are too stupid to realize it or not. (PS, not what you SAY you believe, but what you REALLY believe, when no one is looking.)

"God, Jamie, what a downer!" Yeah, I know, but I didn't start the thread, and I already SAID I think the cuckold thing is hot, I mean I almost cuckolded this guy on Spring Break, I mean he wanted me to, and I would of done it, but I was too stupid. I mean, now I would, but it's the sex, not all the fetishes, which is too much like being catholic, all the stuff you gotta do and wear, I mean I was reading some post on here and I just burst out laughing, which is rude I know, but I couldn't help it.

So I'd make a good cuckold's wife, if I ever get married which is unkikely given my poor taste in men, as long as it was cucking, and not the gay-cd-tv-femdom stuff.

Love,

Jamie

PS, I'm not always such a downer, read some of my other posts.

Why share any details of you sex lie with your kids - whether cuck or vanilla - it's just tacky,

Because your kids are going to wonder why mommy goes out so much and sometimes doesn't come home. There's no need to give them the nitty gritty details but they're going to want answers about what's going on. If they don't get those answer from you then they'll get them from someone else and you might not like that permister's opinion of your lifestyle.

don't bother your kids with your lifestyle
give them what they need , a warm and secure place and life and keep your sex live to yourself.
Discretion is the game , put the interest of your kids before your fantasies.
Being a cuck doesn't mean you have to be a loser parent.

just my thoughts as a dad

I agree with MBB.
Discretion is a must with this lifestyle.

Don't confuse gay acceptance/tolerance with cuckold lifesytle.

It's taken over 30yrs for gays to get this much acceptance and they have a lobby group with resources.

Society is not ready for this lifestyle yet and neither are your youngren

I think that your sex life (whatever it is) should be kept to yourself.
Why would you want to tell your kids that you do "this and that" anyway?
Is it some sort of guilt thing, as I can't see any benefit to your kids for knowing what you like to do in (or out) of a bed
wife loves well-hung bulls! simples!

Your sex life should definitely be kept private. Your kids have nothing to do with it. Bringing them into the confidence of your arrangement is an inappropriate level of intimacy. There is something vaguely i***stuous about this thread.

I can't tell you how much we agree with this statement. We have maintained a cuck lifestyle which is very full and satisfying for both of us as well as lovers she has had, and we have never had even the slightest need to tell our youngren about any of it. I guess it is because we are normal in all other aspects of our lives; my wife does not leave for days at a time with a guy and is always there for our family (including me) first. 15 years of cuck experience here, 31 years of marriage.

let them worry about their own life. don't tell them anything. next their friends know. then their parents know. then there not aloud to play with your kids. then the whole town knows. then everyone talks behind your backs. then everyone is trying to fuck your wife. THEN! you get the picture. please think about that.

jesse
JESSE RHAN

I would have to echo the others who says to keep it to yourself. If it should happen that the kids, talking about it might be appropriate, but else I would not go there.

For one thing, cuckolding would be far harder to explain - to be gay is simply to desire the same sex rather than the opposite, cuckolding is way, way to complicated! Let the kids discover sex on their own terms, no need to power feed them yours.

Okay. I'm hearing a lot of negativity here, I'm clearly sounding like the "**********", "selfish" bad-guy.

Folks, I'm sorry if it's scary for me to throw a different way of thinking out in front, but at least give it some consideration.

Thirty years ago, if you realized you were gay and you made an arrangement with your spouse to keep it quiet... your comments would sound exactly the same. The fact that something is socially unacceptable to the majority doesn't mean that it's wrong. Your kids might not be old enough to make that distinction and if you don't raise them with an open-mind then they might never be old enough to make that distinction. But somewhere along the line, people have to trust the maturity of their youngren and make clear to them: "my sexuality doesn't define me as a permister, it's just what gets me off."

One way or another, you're either going to convey that message to your kids or you're going to grow old being cared for by people who are ashamed of you.

I just posted my thoughts on the subject.I do not judge but youngren that are growing up need to discover things for themselves.You propably had to chance to grow into cuckolding as well. a kid of 6 doesn't think about sex other than mom and dad kiss and love each other. At 8 years they know yes that's how babies are made (the how part isn't defined though in most cases)..and at 12 they start to discover some pleasures etc etc.

If you bring your lifestyle-sexlife into their lives you will power upon their minds a rather harsh shortcut in their sexual development.

And gay parents are still not really accepted in this world.being gay is one thing . having youngren as a gay couple is another.I live in the netherlands a very liberal country but that topic is still pretty unaccepted , let alone cuckolding lifestyle.
In any way ...when you're kids are 18 or best even older you might wanna tell them..but untill that time...your not helping your kids in any way by telling.
But once again , that's my opinion

I am rather uncomfortable with this.

I would be more comfortable if I didn't think
the original poster had a sexual motivation
in the 'revelations' he suggests.

I would never tell my youngren I was into
bdsm (unless it became unavoidable).

I do remember a young black lad walking
into the bedroom while I was caning his
Mother.

I was mortifyingly embarrassed and I don't
think it was a conversation I wanted to have.
Intelligent articulate man seeks people who need to be "used, abused & humiliated!"

Our kids are too young yet but I know the time will come when they ask the question "why are we a lot darker than mom and you?" My wife's BF is black and he is the man of one of our youngren, we're not sure who the man of the second young is but he was also black. I'm happy with the way things are and it's just natural for the BF to visit for weekends or for the family to visit him and the kids treat him as a second man. But I dread hearing that question and often think of the best way to answer.

scott;

Folks, I'm sorry if it's scary for me to throw a different way of thinking out in front, but at least give it some consideration.

I think it's rather offensive that you assume everyone is 'scared' of your proposal and did not think it through. I certainly did - just because I happened to reject your conclusion does not mean I did not consider it.

Thirty years ago, if you realized you were gay and you made an arrangement with your spouse to keep it quiet... your comments would sound exactly the same. The fact that something is socially unacceptable to the majority doesn't mean that it's wrong. Your kids might not be old enough to make that distinction and if you don't raise them with an open-mind then they might never be old enough to make that distinction. But somewhere along the line, people have to trust the maturity of their youngren and make clear to them: "my sexuality doesn't define me as a permister, it's just what gets me off."

The comparimister to being gay is superficial at best. Moreover, it's perfectly reamisterable to teach your kids to have an open mind - however, that does not translate into power feeding them your own sexuality. It simply means to teach and help your kid not to fall prey to peer pressure, be themselves, not to judge people on gut feeling only, the importance of mutual consent and general principles like that. If the kid has questions, answer them freely. That's all what's needed. Again, if the kid sees you, then yes, you should talk to them about it. If you have done your homework on the above mentioned, chances are good that you will receive acceptance.

One way or another, you're either going to convey that message to your kids or you're going to grow old being cared for by people who are ashamed of you.

How about telling your kids that they can do with their life as they like, and share their life with whomever they want - it's not your business...and that you expect the same courtesy of them?


From another poster;

I would never tell my youngren I was into bdsm (unless it became unavoidable).

Here's a better comparimister than scott's gay one, in my opinion. If parents come to the conclusion that it's better for the kid not to see daddy slap mommy around, is that an unreamisterable stand to make?

In my opinion, on the contrary - it's the responsible thing to do. Kids are not properly equipped to being exposed to that kind of stuff. They can handle simple stuff (and in my head at least, being gay is really simple - someone prefers peaches, other prefers bananas). BDSM and cuckolding is waaay too complicated.

offcourse europeans are not that tight about sex as the americans. But, i agree, sex must be safe, SANE and consented
stupid questions dont exist...
stupid answers however....

Your kids are either too young or too old to hear about your sexuality. Whatever that is.

Get over it.