Question about increasing numbers of men

This is a question for the group, we're not a cuckold couple in the classic sense, QB is a hotwife and HE is always present and joins in the fun. When we first started about six years ago she was shy and hesitant but with encouragement she had sex with one guy then another and another but always coy and shy about having more guys and with long periods of time between them. Anyway as the numbers of men increased I noticed QB becoming less hesitant and more brazen in her attitude! Although still somewhat modest she's become much more receptive and enthusiastic about having new adventures and the time gap between new men has noticeably decreased. We'd like to hear from others who have noticed the same with their partner and hear how they have progressed. Will the trickling stream of men turn into a steady torrent and has it altered your relationship!? We've found that we've become even closer as the numbers increase but wonder if this is the case for others?

I don't know why you think you are not a cuckold couple "in the classic sense". In the classic sense, a cuckold is a husband of unfaithful wife. Period. Everything else that people mix in, like offense, cleanup "duties", "servicing wife and lover", and similar things... these are just add-on fetishes. So, from what you say, you ARE a cuckold couple in classic sense, the same as me and my wife.

I am not sure why you are interested in number of guys she takes? Isn't it the most important that she is pleasured and enjoys, regardless of the number of lovers? What is there's only one that she fucks all the time, but enjoys it a lot?

And, let's not even start to talk about health risks that she can be exposed having "steady torrent" of men fucking her...


Shadow_Lane

Totally agree. You really ARE a cuck couple, very similar to us and just like the majority of those in the lifestyle. Everything you read about guys sucking off the "bull", cross-dressing, creampie eating, locking up their dicks in a cage and being denied sex for a year is other fetishes... not cuck. Your wife has sex with other men... so you're a cuckold. A lot of cucks watch or even participate.

Regarding the frequency of encounters and her confidence with other men, we experienced something very similar. Water tends to find its own level... and at some point she'll find a balance that's appropriate for your relationship. Don't push. Let her find that comfort level, be supportive and enjoy it as a couple, and it will strengthen your bond.

I wouldn't worry about it becoming a stream of constant men. You read the fantasies of wives doing daily gang bangs, fucking 50 huge black men every night at the black night club and trying to have black babies, yada, yada, yada... but that's just 1-handed typing while they whack off... Good luck! .
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

My wife and I are somewhat different in that I don't watch her with others, but I would agree that you are still a cuck (which is a good thing IMHO).

In answer to your question, when we first started down this path my wife was still unsure of my reaction to her fucking other men. Over time she become more comfortable with the fact that not only was I okay with her dating other guys, but I got off on her infidelity. This led to a period of a couple years where she became a real slut (her words, not mine) and she had dates 5 or 6 times a month with a variety of different men.

I'm still proud of the fact that I was able to put aside my own insecurities and be there for her during this period of exploration. She and I learned a lot about ourselves during this period and there is no doubt we are closer and more in love because of it. She still fucks other men about once a month or so, but she usually sticks to her regulars and rarely meets up with a new guy.

Good luck!

Thank you Shadow lane, Palm Coast couple and wifedateshubwaits for taking the time to respond to my question. We have no problem with the term cuckold its just the other stuff associated with cuckold such as offense that doesn’t do it for us! As for health risks we minimise that by insisting all men wear condoms. Its been really good to hear from real cucks that the other fetishes don’t necessarily tie in with cuckolding. We’ve been getting off on the increasing numbers of men, I’m proud of her and she’s had a great boost!

So whats the difference in 'hotwife' and 'cuck'.

We are in the early stages of the lifestyle. Two weeks ago, she gave a friend a BJ (she swallows) and when she's ready she wants him to fuck her.

If a 'cuck' is a woman who is not faithful, then what is a hotwife?

Though you could certainly describe the cuckolder as a "hot wife," the difference, IMHO, lies in the original dictionary definition, "a man with an unfaithful wife." A woman crosses over the line into "unfaithful" not when she has sex with another man with her husband's consent, but when she prefers sex with her lover to sex with her husband -- and tells him so.

Wow, an intelligent thread. Sorry, now I am here.

I am a cuck in the plain and simple sense that my wife has, and will, fuck other men. I am with SheDatesHeWaits and Shadow_Lane in a thinking in a simpler, less dramatic, "two-handed" way about my situation. On this forum there is too much of an obsession with words and labels. I had never heard of "bull" until I came on here, but apparently I have been one for years (whilst being a cuck too!). I would recommend anyone puzzling over terms and their meanings to just forget them and deal with their own situation - which is probably richer than mere labels could describe anyway.

For what its worth, power is shared in my marriage, and we are more hedonsits than fetishists. Actually, not even that - probably just mature enough to want eah other to enjoy themselves. Nevertheless, a little fetishism never hurt either (but that is more in the fantasy realm).

On the subject of sissies and dom women, I met up with one last Friday who intrigued the hell out of me. She is just a woman who likes her fun really, and not a hard bitch in any sense. A few years back she decided to settle down, being sick of the socially ambigous life of the single woman! The guy she found was smart and successful and a Type A dominating permisterality - a good match for her own brightness and intelligence. They were like were one these super couples. Well, lo and behold, this woman has progressively sissified him!!!! She is as bewildered by it as anybody. As it happened, she couldn't keep her knickers on for too long, and there were always too many men in the world she wanted to hug naked. So she cheated. Then she got caught. This guy, rather than standing up for himself, kind of aquiesced a little. It is not the hot, sexy presentation that fills this site. It was a guy who suddenly felt the years pressing on him, and who needed to have a visibly successful partnership. But letting her have her fun has progressively broken him down, and now he is uncertain and lacks confidence - truly a story for "Ruined Husbands", even though they are technically not married. The girl is kind of bewildered by it all, since none of this was her intention, and since it was his dominating permisterality that attracted her in the first place. She is also a bit down on herself of her ongoing inability to lead a normal life. So how about that? - the least sexy dom/sub/sissified man story you will ever read!

By the way, I have this girl on toast and will join the merry band of bulls who have put their dick in her...sometime tomorrow evening I would say. Jolly good show!

Thanks for that interesting take Asian cuck! However I do think words and labels are important as they describe and underpin the nature of a permister. We describe ourselves and others with words and those words have meaning!

Found your story of the woman inadvertently sissifying her man fascinating in that a woman's sexual freedom had this affect on her partner. This of course is the problem when a partner cheats!

I've found that rather than feeling sissified by my partners adventures with other men its made me feel more masculine in that it takes a certain strength to engage in this. Of course we're all different and will react in different ways. Would like to hear from other couples about their experience as the wife becomes more comfortable with having sex with increasing numbers of men and the affect on their relationship. I think the respective psychological affect on the couple and the affect on their relationship is worth investigating.

Good thread. In our situation my wife who I would call a hotwife seeks out men for her pleasure in addition to mine. I encourage her to find men and have fun with whom she wants. I do the same with women. We play together, apart depends on the situation. We have a great sex life and I am not impotent, puny dicked etc. etc. We are just into experiencing new and exciting things. I believe this is one reamister our relationship is so great as we spend much to much time apart due to work obligations. I love her so much and wouldn't trade her for any other. One more thing, I believe she is faithfull to me because we share everything with each other and have no secrets. It was refreshing to see some intelligence in a thread.

QueenB and He

"I've found that rather than feeling sissified by my partners adventures with other men its made me feel more masculine in that it takes a certain strength to engage in this."


wildone69
Good thread. In our situation my wife who I would call a hotwife seeks out men for her pleasure in addition to mine. I encourage her to find men and have fun with whom she wants. I do the same with women. We play together, apart depends on the situation. We have a great sex life and I am not impotent, puny dicked etc. etc. We are just into experiencing new and exciting things. I believe this is one reamister our relationship is so great as we spend much to much time apart due to work obligations. I love her so much and wouldn't trade her for any other. One more thing, I believe she is faithfull to me because we share everything with each other and have no secrets. It was refreshing to see some intelligence in a thread.


Hi u guys....and thanx for those last 2 msgs. NICE to hear from men that are happy with their relationships without all the offense. I agree that it DOES take real strength and stability to maintain a relationship with a HOTWIFE because in my case the physicality is totally one way. Due to illness I can no longer partake in "penetrative" sex with my wife but we have created and maintained a wonderful sexlife despite these hardships.

My wife engages in lots of sex with men, women, couples and groups down here and loves the attention and the fulfillment she receives. I enjoy her being happy and being able to help her achieve this.

She definitely has become more adventurous and probably more dependent on regular sex with many and varied people but it has only strengthened our relationship and has proved to the both of us the benefits of living for the time we have together. We share every detail of her exploits (even when she falls in love with other people) and its just a wonderful way to be. Certainly I have days where I wish I were able to play too....but in reality we are making the very best of our relationship.

hope it helps boys...and keep up the good work the both of you
love your wives and be loved in return

QueenB and He

"I've found that rather than feeling sissified by my partners adventures with other men its made me feel more masculine in that it takes a certain strength to engage in this."


wildone69
Good thread. In our situation my wife who I would call a hotwife seeks out men for her pleasure in addition to mine. I encourage her to find men and have fun with whom she wants. I do the same with women. We play together, apart depends on the situation. We have a great sex life and I am not impotent, puny dicked etc. etc. We are just into experiencing new and exciting things. I believe this is one reamister our relationship is so great as we spend much to much time apart due to work obligations. I love her so much and wouldn't trade her for any other. One more thing, I believe she is faithfull to me because we share everything with each other and have no secrets. It was refreshing to see some intelligence in a thread.


Hi u guys....and thanx for those last 2 msgs. NICE to hear from men that are happy with their relationships without all the offense. I agree that it DOES take real strength and stability to maintain a relationship with a HOTWIFE because in my case the physicality is totally one way. Due to illness I can no longer partake in "penetrative" sex with my wife but we have created and maintained a wonderful sexlife despite these hardships.

My wife engages in lots of sex with men, women, couples and groups down here and loves the attention and the fulfillment she receives. I enjoy her being happy and being able to help her achieve this.

She definitely has become more adventurous and probably more dependent on regular sex with many and varied people but it has only strengthened our relationship and has proved to the both of us the benefits of living for the time we have together. We share every detail of her exploits (even when she falls in love with other people) and its just a wonderful way to be. Certainly I have days where I wish I were able to play too....but in reality we are making the very best of our relationship.

hope it helps boys...and keep up the good work the both of you
love your wives and be loved in return

were in the progression of steady number of men total of 5 right now she not having sex with all five right now just starting things up.i encourage her completely in this she is free to do what she wants.she treats me wonderfully and still takes care of me in all ways.i'm really interested where this crazy trip will take us next.i know sex with her b/f is different with me she can let everything go and let herself have fun.she doesn't have to worry about kids bills apointments ect...just free to have fun and still come home and have a loving husband waiting for her.life is good

jbrown
Have been following your adventures and they do look exciting! Wondering how she's changed as the numbers of men increase? We've found that it seems to get easier/more relaxed for us as the score increases.

she is more confident in herself.she will go after what she wants there is always something going on texting calling emails pics ect...she really loves sex always has.it has let her explore and have fun.this week shes got her monthly thing going on no play but next week it will be back on.i am wondering what our max number of men will be if she pull any one nighters ect...

Nice thread.

My wife and I have been doing this for 7 years. She loves the feeling that other men find her to be sexy and appealing.

She is 48 and recently been with a 24 year man that is very handsome and well built. This makes her hot for days, and she loves me all the more for help her with her adventures. If a new lover is comfortable with a couple we meet him together and if he is not she goes out with him on her own.

This lifestyle has definitely improved our marriage and brought us closer.

wiferunsaround We've been doing it for the same amount of time as you! She loves me all the more for helping her in adventures, seems like there is a common thread here. The problem we had in the beginning was that she was hesitant to have more and more men however the more she did it the easier it got for her to do it and it feels much more natural between us. Any other couples had similar experiences? Just like jbrown I'm wondering just how many men she's going to end up having!

Where does it say; 'You should not fuck others' in these wedding vows?

a marriage is all about hoesty and trust. what different couples do within these frames is up to the couples

or?
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

We absolutely agree with you norwegian

good thread so far.wife is on her way home now she met M her main b/f yesterday spent the night with her other b/f J all night in littlerock then is currently with her other b/f.thank god we can't have anymore kids.i think were slowing down abit with 8 different guys three she sees quite abit there rest are every now and then.her sexuality is pretty high these days.she loves it i love it.she would stop tomorrow if i told her to.we are both in this together