Could somebody help me out?

Could somebody help me out?

From an outside perspective, it just seems like people who like this sort of thing are attracted to men. In this case, why wouldn't you just be gay? Being married doesn't make it any different than if you were just having sex with guys.

And if you're not gay, who's beat for this? Dignity and self confidence have to show up at some point. I guess I just don't get it.

Cuckolding...though essentially just meaning that you share your wife.....has developed many dimensions.These are personally groomed to the couples/bulls.I assure you not all cuckolds like male contact....and not all are submissive or desire denial of their wives' pleasure.
In all my years....I have only struck a few who were like most seem to be in here.
Be assured that whatever your envisioned situation is....there is the perfect bull who will comply...with concern,passion and understanding.He will caress your minds and feed the fires of desire.
It is best to accept where people are at in here....and only select those who mirror your ideas.
Good luck to you in your endeavours.