Found texts on wifes phone, need advice on what direction to take this

So my wife and I have similar looking phones, which usually is not a problem until about 2 weeks ago. I mistakenly picked up her phone thinking it was mine and saw a text from her friend "kerri" who I am also friends with. Anyhow the texts were awful between the two, how much they hated their husbands, very negative stuff. So I feel betrayed because she tells me one thing to my face but says complete opposite stuff in texts to her friend. It was like my wife had been stabbing me in the back with stuff said in these texts. Where it got interesting was when my wife talked about how an upcoming work conference she hopes to find a boyfriend. She mentioned this several times. One comment was "I have no sex drive, maybe once we find boyfriends it will get better". I watched our 1 year old on one conference he just came back from and she told me how she wish we would have surprised her but her texts to Kerri where "it was so fun feeling single the past 3 days",although she never mentioned any hook ups or indicated to one at all...To get to the point....I'm thinking of trying to find someone local who could see how serious she was to looking for a boyfriend. She is white, 38 years old but appears much younger and has 38d tits. I imagine she prefers a black boyfriend. What is your opinion? How should I go about this. BTW I did not confront her about the texts. We live in Northern VA.

Well I am in Pakistan so maybe the cultural differences are a lot but still I think human nature is same everywhere. I think you two must have a heart to heart talk. When we get married we lose a lot of freedom and some times we miss our freedom. Plus the burden of responsibilities bogs us down and we don't find time for the type of romance we had before. She hasn't done anything as yet but is feeling frustrated. We guys also love to flirt around and same is the case for women, they also love admiration and praise, maybe she is feeling neglected and is torn between her feelings. As I said sit down and have a heart to heart talk, don't confront her in anger. Be a friend to her and let her pour out her heart to you and while she is saying things, don't start justifying but just listen and then afterwards hug her kiss and tell her how mush she means to you. But above all change yourself and again be they guy she fell in love with and married.

First of all, don't tell her you snooped in her phone.

Just bring it up like it is your idea. I think cuckolding is probably the most common male fantasy. Tell her you want to see her with another man. After she agrees to that, then you can work on her emotional connection with whatever guy you find.

If you want to find a black guy, take some anonymous tits and ass pics, and make a craigslist ad looking for bbc. It's a lot of work dealing with all the flaky replies, so you have to handle it all for her.

If she wants to travel and feel single, then give her what she wants. You two should travel together and play that game. Send her out with the instructions to blow a guy or get laid and come back to you tasting like cum. All of this should be a fun game that the two of you play together.

i can help you with that in No VA

Also in NoVA, but i'm more on the submissive side, also. i'd love to break into this life for real

Are there any good places ( bars I guess, but other places too) where couples interested in finding a guy to initiate the wife into the "Hotwife" scene for the first time can get a feel for it in a way that won't drive the wife away from the whole thing right at the start? As the husband I would watch but not participate. My wife is intrigued but it might take an evening or two of seeing that guys are interested in her before she would move any further down this path. I just don't know where to take her to start.
Any info or advice appreciated!

Nastyblack 34, I pm'd u

Where is her conference?

thirdeye, her next big conference is in May I think, In VAbeach

You asked if there were places to take her...yes! Swing clubs! of course, many couples are only interested in other couples, but at the least you'll see other couples into sharing and other non-normal things...and the atmosphere can be contagious.
and, for women who are shy or not ready for play...most all swing clubs are VERY strong in saying that respect is paramount and "no means no" so you can help her to feel safe.
Worked for me!!!

Good luck if you really want this to happen!

I don't believe your story unless you post pics of her